i dumped my bf ov three months becoz of the pressure my friends were putting on me about him. They made me think tht i was wasting my time. Their opinion is tht he has to b perfect, surprise visit me everyday n give me flowers but i was ok with it all he cant visit me everyday coz we both have very strict parents.
i understood that until oneday wen i came to see him i didnt have long because his mum was coming to drop him sumwere so i had to go after and hour n he sed wen he came back hed come and get me from my friends house. my best friend and her bf firend was their and they thought it was very bad of him n i shud still be with him ( they both dont like him very much) they made me feel like i was being stupid dating him becoz he isnt the way they wud see a gd bf, so i dumped him in tears i wasnt very happy about it.The next day i relised i made a huge mistake coz i still love him alot and now i dont think he wants me back bcoz i dumped him so easily and he doesnt trust me anymore
2006-09-04 22:11:27 · 14 answers · asked by Keshoo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am a very shy person and i cant realli make decisions for myself until its too late. i feel realli bad n a regret what i did. i love him so much and i sumhow managed to dump him for sumthing i cant even remember, i think i was minipulated sumhow. i no im stupid tht wat gets me upset i made a stupid mistake that i might not be undone, i love him so much but im afirad i lost him forever..
2006-09-04 22:21:07 · update #1
i still dont no if he wants me back or not... he sed he missed me but n then a week l8ter his firend sed hes trying to enjoy being single...
2006-09-04 22:28:30 · update #2
Well if you love him so much its seems to win back his trust you'll have to push aside what made you break up in the first place- your friends. Its harsh I know, but if you really love him as much as you say you do then the choice should be easy. The love of your life or friends that bad mouth the person you care about most?
2006-09-04 22:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by sondra j 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are feeling. My friends don't really approve of my boyfriend either because he's black. At first it was hard for me because my friends are important to me, but as much as I hate to say this, your friends wont always be there. You need to think about what makes you happy. If this guy makes YOU happy, then you should just tell your friends that.
You can get him back if you try hard enough. Just show him how much you care, tell him things will be different. Relationships are not easy, so it will take time and work, but if you think it will be worth it in the end then you will do what you have to do.
2006-09-04 22:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by laker_girl85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey hun, people can give you their opinions on how what they think you should do, who you should date, but you cant choose who you love.
If you love him just say to everyone, you can have your opinion I choose not to take it on board, because he's my man & I love him. People may think these things because when your upset because you cant see him, they hear that negative side, but they dont see all the things about him that make him special to you.
What is it particular about him that makes your friends not see him as a good bf?
If you do truly love him, hopefully it's not too late & you can still get him back. Do what you think is right, & live your life how you want to live it, not how people would like you too. good luck
2006-09-04 22:20:17 · answer #3 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing you can do is to arrange a meeting so you can talk to him face to face. I would take responsibility for your behavior and not use your friends as scape goats. Tell him that it hurt you that you could not see him more and talk about how you could remedy the situation to prevent you from feeling that in the future. Discuss each others expectations in the relationship.
2006-09-04 22:16:51 · answer #4 · answered by tifftazia18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 08:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by kuhlmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your so called ex bf the whole deal and talk about it over lunch or something.And about your pressuring friendsthey musn't be real friends if they treat you like that I say get your boy back and 'dump' your friends and get some newbies that would help you get thu that sort of stuff!
2006-09-04 22:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dumping someone does kind of make that person a little gun shy...
you shouldn't have dumped him if you liked him that much... you should have asked for some space and some time to decide what you wanted from the relationship... and in future, ignore your friends, they just cause problems...
give him a couple of weeks then get in touch and see if he is willing to trust you any better...
if he isn't, move on... and learn from experience...
2006-09-04 22:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its natural you feel the hearthache since u dumped your boyfreind...whom you realized that you loved him most.Sometimes we need to accept the fact that we are stupid....and before you realized he's gone out of your lives.Just do your part,what i mean is do your best to bring back again....no matter how hard let him see that you love him.If he does come back..good for you...If not forget him...just move on....life is sweetier honey...If someone's gone...there's someone came along.
2006-09-04 22:46:10 · answer #8 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey....he is human as you are, & no one is perfect basics in life.
you should't have now no point cause it's act to think you must think & act...don't blame ur friends cause it was you who did it. no wonder the guy doesn't want you back...
let time solve it a another basic in life...which will heal ...& after sometime one of you will change your mind & that's the answer for you.
2006-09-04 22:18:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldn't have listened to your friend..if you were happy being with him,u shouldn't dumped him..it is what you think that matters not your friends..anyway,tell him how you really feel about him and say that u're really sorry maybe evrything would work out ok..chin up...
2006-09-04 22:16:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋