since i found out i am pregnant should i let him be in his babys life? he already knows im pregnant and he wants to be responsible but i do not want him to try and take my baby away from me since he told me that once i hate to have to go through child support and the court. I am a verry independent woman and i can make it on my own so its not like i need him financially at all. but i know he wont leave me alone. I regret being with him he pretented to be someone hes not in the begining and then he changed. what should i do take him to court or move far from him i dont even want him to sign the birth certificate.
2006-09-04 21:55:46 · 14 answers · asked by angel 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
How depressing. You are having a baby. That baby has a right to know its mother AND father. How dare you assume you can just erase the father because you don't like him anymore. The law is there to protect you and help you if you need it. However you owe it to your child to work within the law. Your approach is just thoughtless. Try thinking about what the baby needs for once.
2006-09-05 01:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by popeleo5th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever the problems that are between you and your b/f,you should let him be in the child's life,especially if he wants the responsibility of being a father(he may be telling you that he needs this responsibility in a round about way.)Try to come to an amicable visitation/financial arrangement together for this child's sake and never mind being"a very independent woman"...there are loads of them about,some of whom cannot even boil an egg:-/ Go through the courts if you feel you have to,likewise the csa,but the child needs stability,and its the child that is important here,children need both a mum and a dad.
2006-09-05 05:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start talking to a lawyer. If you need to, you can get free legal advise from Legal Aide. Unfortunatly, you can't just erase him out of your life. It's his baby, and unless he signs paperwork stating he is giving up his parental rights, then he will be responsible for help in raising the child, whether it be monetarily or otherwise. Talk to your lawyer about different stipulations about visitation, child support, and benefits (especially since he is military). You can request that he gets help for his drinking and violent behavior before he is allowed around the baby unsupervised, but you MUST HAVE PROOF. You want to start these proceedings early since he is military and things can change rather quickly. You don't want to get stuck in a situation where if he goes down range, puts the proceeding on hold (he can delay any civil suits against him til he comes back if he is deployed), and you can't go anywhere. Good luck to you, just make sure you have everything taken care of before hand.
2006-09-07 05:55:51 · answer #3 · answered by dipydoda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello!! :o) Whether or not YOU like him - HE is STILL that baby's father. And you don't want to spend the rest of your life running. Deal with all of this as legally as possible. Even then - you can still tell your lawyer that you are not interested in child support payments and would rather the father [for 'this and that' reason] was not a part of your lives. If you run and hide - you will be a fugitive. Good luck. Craig!! :o)
2006-09-05 05:14:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is get an attorney and have it arranged that if by the time you have the baby he has been in AA and completed anger management he can have supervised visitation at first, then if that goes okay for a while let him have unsupervised. If he isn't willing to do that get it arranged so that he can't have any visitation at all. There is no way to do it without getting court invloved where he can't see it unless he gets help.
2006-09-05 05:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the anger management just get your bags and move on he will leave you alone or get restraining order and then the judicial system will afford him the changes he desperately needs i don't believe you should deny him the opportunity of knowing his child although i would have reservations no one will take your child away don't listen to all these know it all here Bluffs his words scare tactics and psychological intimidation's i think you are a very strong and responsible young woman and intelligent please go on with your life an abusive relationship is no way to live, let alone love someone Semper Fi Good luck
2006-09-05 05:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really do need to let him be in the baby's life. A baby needs 2 parents and maybe it'll actually turn him around.
Or he may decide on his own not to have any part of it.
But at the very least he will owe child support and that is definitely enforceable thru the military.
2006-09-05 14:39:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not let him acquire the role as father of your child by not indicating it on the birth certificate.
2006-09-05 05:30:18 · answer #8 · answered by FRAGINAL, JTM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look its your Life and Its your baby, If your heart feels that the guy is changed then well and good , If not, you dont need him and tell him to get lost.
2006-09-05 05:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there are so many things to say I hardly know where to begin.
Why are you pregnant? Haven't you heard of abstinence or birth control?
Why do you think we care about your problems?
Why are you asking complete strangers for advice?
That should do it for now.
2006-09-05 05:03:45 · answer #10 · answered by Colorado 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋