is that really true?
2006-09-04 21:55:31 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not necessarily, but like any compulsive behaviour if it's going to stop there has to be a strong reason for it to stop. If the person's beliefs haven't fundamentally changed, which will only result from honest and sustained work - it will happen again.
2006-09-04 21:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always is an absolute, and nothing is absolute so consider this...
A lot of the time cheaters are attracted to the thrill of sneaking around behind someones back, because it makes them feel naughty and in control. This is a fundamental lack of perspective for their partners feelings. If they can put aside others feelings so easily for their own enjoyment, they are not a solid and dependable individual. These traits are difficult to work with. The individual will likely need counseling to ever be able to enjoy at fulfilling long term relationship.
In our world temptations are practically shoved in our faces every waking moment. They will always be here. If one can not control their own desires then they will likely make the same mistakes over and over again.
2006-09-04 22:17:16 · answer #2 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very few cheaters can be reformed. Not to mention the fact that the cheatee will always wonder if the cheater is still cheating. Not a good relationship if you ask me.
2006-09-04 21:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by Lynda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah! Probably..Ive been through such a situation and well its not all that easy to trust someone all over again! Its tough! You trust a person and that person cheats on you..will u trust him again? nah..I wouldn't! Cheaters do not improve so easily. Its just better you do not make the mistake of trusting a cheater again cos if that person cheats on you again then it will be difficult for you trust anyone ever again..!
2006-09-04 22:03:09 · answer #4 · answered by Henna Achhpal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so - people are capable of change - and we do all make mistakes. Depending on how often they cheated of course - i mean once, yeah I think they can put that down to a stupid mistake, more than once - no I think thats kinda a problem they have. I guess ultimately it boils down to why the did it and with whom - if you wre having problems in a relationship at the time they cheated, that would be slightly more acceptable than if they did it when you were blissfully happy.
2006-09-04 22:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not alays I know someonewho was going through a very diffuicult time and made a stupid mistake the guilt she has to live with is enough punishment, noone knows ust me and i know for a fact she wouldnt do anything like thataain, but then you get people who ust do it over and over again with no remorse and the sorrys just roll off their tounges so really it all depends on the person in question
2006-09-04 22:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by FINN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always there at the back of your mind ... I know!
I had an affair once - over 10 years ago now - and I know I'd probably have another if it presented itself. I don't actively seek involvement with other women, but I know I'd jump into bed with a woman who made the move ...
It doesn't necessarily make me (or anyone) a bad person, it just means we're not exactly trustworthy.
2006-09-04 22:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. All the people I know that have cheat and say they will never cheat again always do eventually. If someone cheats on you, you can't forgive them. It will happen again and you will get hurt even worse than the first time. I've learned once you do something to me that makes me have second thoughts, hit the road. It doesn't matter how I feel about you, I have to protect myself and my feelings. I've been hurt too many times. So, I don't give second chances...........
2006-09-04 22:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl000000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, but it takes years of trust on faith - which can be very very hard.
It does indicate a certain lack of morals though, which is something to be wary of, so;
Once a cheater, likely a cheater.
2006-09-04 21:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Felidae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some can be reformed .... sometimes people make honest mistakes and have learned from them.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-04 21:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋