Me and my boyfriend are really happy together. We have been going out for about 6 months but we have known each other for nearly two years. Im starting to realise how much i like him and it feels like love but im really scared because next year he's going to a university far away from where we live and i kno it will all end. He hasnt yet picked his universuty but his two main ones are more than an hours drive away. Would you stay for another year and have more good times together or would you leave because your scared of getting hurt. Im just really scared, he's the first person iv ever loved. however he says he cant say that he loves me but likes me alot. what would you do?? baring in mind itll all end in a year anyway
2006-09-04 21:51:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok firstly, who says it'll end in a yr anyway? psychic? my current boyfriend and i have bn 2getha for nearly 3 yrs. we're both in the military and he was my 1st boyfriend 2. throughout our whole relationship, being in the military, we've bn apart a lot! he's bn away months at a time overseas. we've both bn moved 2 dif parts of the country 2 work. currently, we are about a 9 hr drive apart- i'm in oxford and he's in scotland!
u'v only bn 2getha 6 months so mabye ur guy feels its 2 soon 2 say its love, but the fact he really likes shoul b enough for now! it sounds like ur both young so if i were u i'd stay with him. when my guy is always away its hard work, but we both make the effort 2 c each other wheneva we can. i miss him terribly but as the days go by it does get easier. especially wi friends around. my advice 2 u is this: when he moves, dont winge, dont moan at him and dont push him 2 come c u. bear in mind he'll b busy wi his course. tell him u'r only a phone call awa and when he's ready and settled into his new life let him no u can come visit if he wants. that way he feels no pressure and is more likely 2 ask u sooner rather than later! bear in mind he'll have new friends and will b goin out wi them, but it doesn't mean he's leavin u or even cheatin. guys dont like needy as i'm sure u no! oh and wait 4 him 2 say he loves u or misses u. that way u no he's sayin it cos he means it not jus as a reply 2 u!
i hope this helps, if u have any probs or start stressin then e-mail me and we can chat! i've bn thro it all! meanwhile, enjoy the time u have wi him b4 he goes and once he moves, live ur life 2 the full wi ur friends and if its meant 2 b then in a yr, 2, 3, or 50 u'll still b 2getha!
2006-09-04 22:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sammi W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I had this EXACT same story happen to me 3 years ago.
I say stick with it. See where the relationship goes. Why pass up a good thing?
I left my relationship for college, and yea it hurts, you get over it eventually, but the only thing I regret was not doing more with her in the time I had. If you leave now you'll always be wondering what you missed, and that feeling just sucks.
2006-09-05 04:59:08 · answer #2 · answered by davey_dangerously 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep being his girlfriend, it is worth the chance, my boyfriend is a contractor who moves all over the world and when we first got together he wasnt sure how long he would be in Sheffield but a year later we are still together and I move around with him, seeing all different countries. Go for it you will regret not knowing. Whats an hour in the car? NOTHING
2006-09-05 05:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by szekeres101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets be fair. If your boyfriend really loved you , not only would he tell you that but he would also go to a university nearer to home, there may be really good reasonsa for this. You would know better than me, Just follow your heart.
Either way if a split happens it is going to be painfull, my advice is to sit down with him and ask him for an honest answer, does he really want to be with you. If the reply is yes, then stick with it. an hour isn't that long really. And besides, "It is better to have tried and failed, than never to have tried at all".
2006-09-05 05:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by friskydragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in this type of situation I would have to hear him telling me he love me also. I don't want to hear nothing about I like you alot. He either loves me like I love him or he's just trying to string me alone. I don't know how your relationship is. It sounds to me like you really love him. Has he offered for you to come with him? If not then you or him may have a reason as to why you can't just follow him. If you love him and you think or know he loves you then take a chance and try to work it out. Try to keep in touch by mailing, emailing, and visiting each other as much as you two can. Best wishes and hopes to you girl.
2006-09-05 05:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by Flygirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh please get a grip, listen your prospects aint that good if your saying 'it'll all end' my girlfriend goes uni at the end of the month, splitting up has never even crossed our minds, if anything, it should bring you closer together, cos yeah you may see less - or in mycase more of them, your gonna be with each other, learn to drive, an hour is bugger all to be honest,just think, you'll be able to sleep over, visit him, stay at weekends and what not, the train aint that expensive, if you love him, you'll work it out, its another stage in your lives, if you can get through it then you get through it, don't give it all up, a lot can change in a year, what matters is that you work with it, don't give up hope, if you do, you may regret it
2006-09-05 05:47:33 · answer #6 · answered by me-jus-me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
great love brings great pain
all i would say to you honey is, if you feel hes the one for you, then dont let go of him.
why assume it will all end anyway ? how do you know ? maybe it wouldnt ?
although you should talk to him before he leaves for uni, you should tell him that you love him and you feel that you can wait for him to return and that your feelings are strong enough to keep the relationship going even if you dont see each other everyday !
if he feels awed and pleased by your feelings, then give it a try. you never know!
what if hes your man and you give up coz you dont have hope!
if he tells you he doesnt want you to wait for him etc... maybe not!! let us know how you got on !
:) good luck
2006-09-05 05:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
My name is glenna. Im not sure whats all really going on but i personaly think if he cant tell u how he really feels about u, then why would u wait around for him? U teach people how to treat u. If u decide to let him go, i think it will open your heart to so much more you havnt even felt yet. I say give yourself a chance before u give somone else one.
2006-09-05 05:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by getsomeglenna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's gonna end in a year then either enjoy the time you have left or just leave and make a fresh start just be friends
2006-09-05 05:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by LEGG$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to take a risk for love - and an hours drive is nothing! you could even go over and visit him in the evening during the week sometimes!
2006-09-05 04:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋