I happen to have a killing sight love with someone ,but it got decreased after I got close to her. Why is that?
2006-09-04 21:28:58 · 24 answers · asked by asefa d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cuz u had a fantasy bout her which was supported by wat she looked lik - now u hav got close to her u see she is wat she is and not the fantasy u thought she was. That is why it pays to get to no people rather than developing strong fantasies bout them when u don't no dick bout them. Does she feel the same bout u in this regard? R u not wat she thought u were?
2006-09-04 21:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it decreases I just think you guys get too busy again in your own lives cos you're secured that your gf/bf is now with you. You tend to overlook them and take the advantage of the fact that they are always there anyway.
Or perhaps it's because you know her too well now and maybe you guys have differences.
Either way I would suggest you to separate for a while, because as the saying is: distance makes the heart grow fonder... might work for you too and when you miss her and realsie that you love her, things can be back to normal :)
2006-09-04 21:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by Puja N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am struggling with this right now! I have been with my boyfriend for five years and have tried everything to get things back the way they were. I think its because you get to comfortable with them. Once you know them there is just no secrets or mysteries left. Thats why people get divorced. I also think it is inevitable in every relationship. You should get 10 points for bringing this question up, it is a very good question and a problem everyone could relate to.
2006-09-04 21:35:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's going to be any incorrect way. she or he needs to ascertain a shrink because of the fact there could be a bigger psychological undertaking brought about by early early existence progression . it could be a psychological undertaking if she or he thinks having intercourse is a sin or degrading the better half. psychological component performs an significant place in sexual come across which incorporate some human beings attain orgasm swifter while they are in charge of love making because they experience good while overpowering their better half or inflicting soreness on human beings. i'm no longer talking approximately rapists, yet tough intercourse is linked with human nature's violent tendency.
2016-09-30 08:48:18 · answer #4 · answered by kuhlmann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mostly, people rush into relationships based on looks, peer pressure, lust etc. Once you take time to get to know a person. then is when you find out how you actually feel about them.
It works both ways.
2006-09-04 21:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning you are only seeing all the beautiful sides of his/her personality
but as time moves you get to see all the other side experience her ups and downs experience her getting mad seeing her with no make up seeing her true self with no outer changes
simply you are getting to live your life wit her
2006-09-04 21:33:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's cuz you get bored with that person. as it may, they obviously weren't the one or you wouldn't be getting bored. so it's not love. you found something in that chick that you didn't like. for example, my girl and I have arguments, but I still see her as not only my yang, but my homie, so if you cant tell that chick that your most embarrasing moments and how you feel, then you get bored etc. and you lose interest. things about her dont seem interesting and honestly, you go looking for something better. it's normal, don't worry about it. stay pimpin'.
2006-09-04 21:42:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well before you meet someone to whom you feel attracted to, loved etc,,,a portion of it does contain lust as well. so when you start meeting frequently then the lust thingy starts diminishing....however loves a thing that doesnot abate...
2006-09-04 21:40:36 · answer #8 · answered by mobi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is extremely ABNORMAL, and you have serious emotional issues. This is not normal for everyone and certainly not a trait many (if any) will relate to.
2006-09-04 21:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by surfinthedesert 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because the chase is over! And, no mystery is left.
2006-09-04 21:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by Dragonlady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do ,strongly agree with the Chelsea girl's answer .
2006-09-04 21:48:52 · answer #11 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋