i know it's my decision + not theirs who i go with, but can someone enlighten me, i mean, aren't we all born equal as human beings? how can a person be "better" than or "not good enough" for someone else? what exactly are people getting at when they make such observations
2006-09-04 21:27:29 · 26 answers · asked by ellen s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
~No, we are not all born equal, and we sure as hell don't grow equally. If you're bringing home a low-life smart-az scum bag with no self-esteem, no goals, no ambitions and no respect or consideration for others, and you are a half-way decent human being, your family and friends are probably right. Maybe what they are getting at is, if you hang with this loser you may well ruin your life.
But that's just my guess. You know better.
2006-09-04 21:34:01 · answer #1 · answered by Oscar Himpflewitz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to decide.
It's not always a set of logical reasons why someone isn't good enough.
Fact is everybody is born equal with different attributes and life experiences. Some can have an easier life because of money etc.
Maybe they are just saying to you between the lines, look you have a lot of choices, make sure you choose someone that is going to work for you.
They could possibly think that you may not realise what you have to give !
Whatever happens, listen to them, but make your life work for you and not your family.
2006-09-05 04:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to understand when someone treats another person differently because of the way they look, or where they came from. Same as the "middle class" treatment I got from my millionaire ex-girlfriends Mother. Some people are just not nice thinking they know better what is good for you and not respecting your opinion in the process.
2006-09-07 02:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by Yafunee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience of being told it and telling it to my friends occasionally it generally means one or more of the following -
He does not treat you with the respect you deserve
Maybe doesnt call you back or stands you up or only is nice to you when he wants something.
Maybe he doesn't have any money (which is not a problem in itself but is if he expects you to pay for everything that he doesn't want to earn the money to pay for)
Maybe he is rude.
Maybe he doesnt make an effort with your friends.
I know my good friends and my parents well enough now to know that I trust their judgement and if they said this to me they must have serious concerns.
THis does't mean i immediately break up with my boyfriend but I need to check whether he is really treating me with respect and making me happy.
However, sometimes we all go out with people who everyone else can see are wrong. Our friends and family will still be around when we figure it out for ourselves or we prove them wrong.
2006-09-05 04:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Bebe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means they have made a superficial observation based on what they want for you and themselves. They dont know him as a 'family' member yet...little 'experience' with him and you. Time and family get togethers will change that.
If he's the perfect guy for you and you see his potential and a future with him...it wont matter what they feel at this moment.
When youre happy living life together, let's hope
their hearts and opinions soften and grow to love him as much as you do.
2006-09-05 04:34:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the people we love always want to protect us and never want us to get hurt by others. your loved ones think this guy is not good for you... its only natural that they feel this way... but they should allow you the space to make your own decisions even if this guy turns out to be a big mistake and hurts u at least u r the one that made that decision, at least ya gotta respect those around u for caring enough about you to tell ya but let them know that you are a big girl and can make your own life choices now... good luck!!
2006-09-05 04:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by darthmawler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would not be asking this question if you did not have some small doubt yourself.Often when we are in love we see the person we want to see and not the" real "person. You need to ask these people to be more specific. General rule of thumb, DON'T be with anyone who EVER makes you feel really uncomfortable or wants you to do anything that you feel you don't want to or really shouldn't. ALWAYS BE TRUE TO YOURSELF.
2006-09-05 04:40:47 · answer #7 · answered by Gloria K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u go out with some one, some time ur that loved up u can not see there faults, other people looking in from the outside can,
at the end of the day its ur life and ur a grown up tell them to let u make ur own mistakes
he my be perfect for u not every one has the same taste in men
2006-09-05 04:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by debbie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You see, some times people make snap decisions that are stupid. You may think your man is cool, but he's probobly not. Most girls are like this. They make stupid decisions about men, and they spend the rest of their lives wondering why the F they married that lazy sack of shiat.
2006-09-05 04:30:38 · answer #9 · answered by 15fsg546rge1rrheljh45hjr90459ty3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well rem that your family members are the one who would like the best for you , always
and older family members have a lot of experience up their sleeves, so they can judge a person better than you... however the same rule doesn't apply correct always...it is better to have their view as well and then decide prudently for the pros and cons of the man you're getting involved in...
2006-09-05 04:35:26 · answer #10 · answered by mobi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋