my problem was not only his drinking but how he behaved while being under the influence for example he would drive like crazy while being drunk and he would always try to pick fights with other people. he twisted my arm one time while we were arguing. He would go to work drunk. and many other things like that but the last thing he did was kick me out of our our apartment like at 1:00 am with my little girl wich is 2 and threw all my furniture out locked the door and went to work. i had to be out there till 5:00 am untill my friend went and helped me. all we argued about that night was his drinking and the way he behaved and to top it off i found out that im pregnant. so you army men out there cannot tell me that its ok. like i said before i respect that you go to war for this country and no i dont know what you really go through but if you get with someone that you love why do you do these things?
2006-09-04 21:27:22 · 10 answers · asked by angel 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
break off with him & carry on with your life without him
2006-09-04 21:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Violet UK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the Army for four years. Being in the Army has nothing to do with the way he acts twords women. the sense of freedom may have increased his allready aborent behavior, but I'll bet it was there before he joined, and i bet it will be there long after he gets out. It's him, not the army. I was never violent or unkind to any of my girlfriends when I was in the army, or before, or after. Lose the loser. it's just an excuse. Not a good guy, no idea what he's capalble of. The thing that puzzels me though, is why you would feel that you would need to put up with garbage like this. Why stick around. Any guy who tries to attack your self esteem is to be lost, as fast as possible. I can't understand why you feel you need him aroud to abuse you. don't take this the wrong way, but I think i t would do you some good to get counseling as to what makes you pic these kind of guys,, and what makes you stay with them. Do you enjoy being abused? I hope not. It's the loser, not the job.
2006-09-04 21:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a horrible position to be in, and I feel for you and your children. To popular belief, the Army does not support people drinking. It sound like he is out of control. You need to contact someone in his chain of command and let someone know. If he is going to work under the influence, he is not just putting himself at risk, but the others he works with. They have multiple programs through the ACS to help with addictions, AA meetings and Anger Management. His chain of command can require him to attend these meetings. Maybe things will get better after he gets some help, but until then, I would find somewhere else to stay. If not for you, but your children. Good Luck with what you choose.
2006-09-04 21:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by dipydoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not married to him then contacting his chain of command is not going to do you any good. If you are having these problems I would suggest that you get out now. I understand that you are pregnant and probably want to make this work, but think about the child you have and the one on the way. Do you really want them to see or hear this all the time. No to mention that the stress is not good for you during your pregnancy. Once the baby is born, please believe the military will make him take care of his child. I know this b/c both of my children are military dependents. However, I am not.
2006-09-04 21:38:31 · answer #4 · answered by Lynda C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I didn't know I did these things because i'm in the Army. I guess some one had better tell my wife that I'm a bad father and drink all the time because as of right now neither one of us are aware of the fact that I do these things.
My point is, soldiers are human beings, just because they are trained by the army does not mean they will change WHO they are. As for me, I have been a soldier for 10 years, have been married for 5 years. I don't drink, don't smoke, don't touch my wife in any way other than a caring manner. You just got yourself a bad one.... Leave him and sue him for child support.
2006-09-08 19:46:31 · answer #5 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it's not just a miltary thing. Men that aren't in the military do such things also. You have a responsibilty to the child you have and the unborn child and should think about that before you try to fix a relationship that is obviously not a good thing. I was with someone and gave him way too many chances after he had "changed" before I ended it for good. The "change" generally only lasted a few months. He is who he is and you trying to chnage that will only make things worse in the end. Take care of your kids and let him worry about himself.
2006-09-04 21:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
o No woman needs to endure the abuse of any man let alone professing love there are plenty of respectable man coming back from a war zone who don't abuse alcohol and many have seen far more then your friend, NO EXCUSE put him on the sidewalk before you get yourself hurt physically and mentally as for your pregnancy that's now your responsibility there is an old saying IT you get up and there dark clouds in the sky chances are it will rain you should have thought about that considering your abusive relationship all is not lost pack up move on and don't look back progressively it will get much worse really think of your options now not when you or your child are injured by his selfish carelessness
2006-09-04 21:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by aldo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's that? I think its the sound of me not caring
2006-09-04 22:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That **** needs to go to Boot Camp ......
2006-09-04 21:34:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY are you still with him?
2006-09-05 00:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋