My boyfriend's 2 closest friends are girls that he works with. We have been going out for 6 months but previous to our relationship he has always been on holiday with them, sharing a room. They recently went to Bahamas together for a colleagues wedding, this was booked before we started going out.
Yesterday he said that one of the girls asked him whether he would still be able to go on holiday with them as he was going out with me. She said to him that if she had a boyfriend that she would not like him to go on holiday with two girls. My boyfriend doesn't see a problem with going with them.
I do trust him but am uncomfortable about him going on holiday with them and sharing a room. Am I being unreasonable about this?
How can I explain this to him without looking like I am 'not allowing' him to go?!
2006-09-04 21:25:32 · 18 answers · asked by imalandamcuteasabutton 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you are not being unreasonable. Just be honest and tell him how you feel. And since one of the girls that he is going with has already brought it up tell him you feel the same way. If he still choose to go, then you decide whether or not you want to stay in this relationship or better yet go with him.
Good Luck!
2006-09-04 21:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by sexylips232 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off ok y didnt he invite u to come alone with him afterwards ok it was planned a long time ago but hes in a committed relationship now hell no he would not be able to go i will say i dont want u to go sleep in a room with two females i will be like well im coming to and u and ur guy can get a room by ur self then he can still go to the party
2006-09-05 04:38:25 · answer #2 · answered by t t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not cheat on you and he may. There's a possibility that he may. If I were you I wouldn't let him go, simply by telling him that you're scared and situations arise. Ask him if he'd like it if you went with two of your good guy friends. But don't be too harsh about it tell him nicely cos its not been long since you guys have been going out.
Good luck and tell me what happens
2006-09-05 04:35:15 · answer #3 · answered by Puja N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem who have is you.
Relationship is based on trust - if you fill not comfortable in this situation what is gonna be later.
The freedom, enjoyment being in commitment is base on trust without hiding something behind - He is onset to you and don't be worry. You try to give him hard time or care for him to be happy with you.
2006-09-05 04:42:12 · answer #4 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
Do not pretend, it is not the matter of allowing or not, it is about how much he cares about you.
Just tell him you do trust him but you are not comfortable with a situation like this, also ask him to think himself in your position and ask his idea.
2006-09-05 04:40:09 · answer #5 · answered by f_alsafi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you go too? It is a vacaton so why wouldn't you plan one with each other? Seperate vacations this early in the game is kind of weird esepcially if he's doing it with females. JMO
2006-09-05 04:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by mama mia! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him.I would be the same way because of women now days don't care if the guy has a girl or not.
2006-09-05 04:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by DiamondXxx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he'd like it, if the tables were turned. You were to go on a vacation with 2 guys from your workplace.
2006-09-05 04:35:18 · answer #8 · answered by Dragonlady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its better not to maintain a relation in which u r always scared or hv doubt abt ur bf bcoz then u will always remain insecure,and relation also wont work out well.
2006-09-05 04:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by tanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has always done that. dont try to change it. he'll hold it against you and your relationship will go down from there. me and female friends kick it like that and nothing happens. i would never date a girl that didnt understand that. these girls are like sisters to me.
2006-09-05 04:29:24 · answer #10 · answered by The Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋