last yr there was a college girl helping me at school,like a private teacher.after schools over we continued going out,walks,shopping,coffees,cinemas all summer long...we are both single and know everything bout each other...but,now that im leaving home to study abroad,i realize that im feeling more than i thought about her...i wanted to let her know but im hesitating now...help me pls!!!
2006-09-04 21:24:42 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is wrong to think that you are a lesbian if you like your friend.
Even if you want to enjoy phusically with her, that too is normal, because human nature is like that.
To check if you are (or becoming lesb) give yourself marks on a scale of 1 to 10 i.e. how much do you like girls and boys, generally.
If your marks are more towards boys than you can't consider yourself a lesb.
If your marks towards this particular girlfriend are more towards 10, but still you got lower marks for other girls, than still you are not a lesb.
There is nothing wrong in liking others even if they are boy to boy or a girl to girl likings.
Keep enjoying life!!!
2006-09-05 01:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by GS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its nothing more than time being infactuation, believe me u r feeling like these coz u r going far from her, whn u will get new friends u will start feeling normal again. Do not say anything which will finish ur friendship n respect between both of u. Try to think good things, n it seems that u do not have much friends n she is the only friends of urs. Go out world is very big u will find more people. May be tomorrow u will find a handsome n loving guy, with whom u will want to get along.
Or make a boy friend then think who will miss u most ur girlfriend or ur boyfriend.
I bet once u will get physical with any guy u will stop thinking all these things. So leave her and urself for some boy.
If u cant do this then try to be physical first with a boy then a gal then u will find urself that which is better. So be bold if u want to do, Do it.
2006-09-05 05:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by Rekha J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope u r not a lesbian unless u fantacise bout her or feel sexually attracted towards her. what i think is the case is both of u must have provided a lot of emotional support to each other n this is what is troubling u . u may be thinking of what wud u do wid out her. has she ever kissed u or have u ever touched each other sexually, if thats not the case then u have really becum very close friends but that shudnt mean that u r lesi. she has jus becum a source for emotional support for u. bout ur hesitation I think there cud be either of these 2 responsible. 1) u have heard n thought a lot bout this homo sexual relationships, which u consider as sumthng bad but u donno its details ( what actually it is?). 2) u r afraid of opening up urself to her as its an emotional risk , u might sound too sentimental before her.
I think u shud better tell her that shes ur best support n u need her . N emotional support , i bet, wud alwz be available to u even if u r physically or geographically seprated.
2006-09-05 06:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by ashu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of human's can be attracted to both sex. You should let her know if you're going to regret not telling her later. Whether or not it will scare her off as a friend, I don't know. That has mostly to do with maturaty I think. If she's not scared off, then she's able to handle a more complicated situation. But also, how are you going to deal with her if she doesn't feel the same way? If you're cool with however she feels, then you guys might actually become closer friends from it. Honesty is always best in my book, but that doesn't mean that she can handle honesty. But if she can, then hopefully only good will come from it. Either you'll become closer friends, or she'll be interested too.
2006-09-05 04:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by Corandero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you need help for? Just by your hesitation must tell you something. You already know what's right.
Do you want to tell her that you love her and want to marry her and have children...not adopt but actually FATHER her children?
Do you want to tell her how much you have to offer her in so far as a prospering future how well you can provide for her?
Being a lesbian is a choice that only you can make why involve others? What you do with your body is your business...right now.
2006-09-05 04:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Vera W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know - that is totally fine. I started to feel this way about a few girls and I was like - what is this ? I always thought I was a strictly for men girl but I am not - it is more about the individual with me. I would tell her that you are feeling more for her than friendship and see how she feels and says - I wouldn't say too much just in case but are you getting a vibe like that from her too?? If you feel too nervous to talk to her, you could write her a letter so she reads it and thinks about it before you talk to her again but I would want to see her initial reaction so I would tell her.
So - it does not mean that you are a lesbian - lesbians are only into women and sleep with women. It sounds like you are bi-curious meaning that you are interested in women and men (if you are into both) - that is ok. Tons of women are - younger and older and need to find out. You don't even have to think about her that sexually to know that you may like her more - some women don't go that far with other girls but prefer them or like I said - it is based on the person. You could just be feeling admiration or knowing that you will miss her - but it sounds to me like you have thought about it and know that you are thinking more...
Most of the time, women are interested in other women - some will admit it and act on it and most won't - but why not? If you don't, you may always regret that you didn't. Even with you going away - live for the moment - not for tomorrow... I would tell her - what do you have to lose?
:o)
2006-09-05 04:28:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How well do you know her? Has she ever hinted in the least that she would be game for a lesbian relationship? Are you sure those are the feelings you're having?You could be just curious, and that really isn't what Lesbians are, they know what they want, and who they love, do you think you love her, or just want to have sex with her?Do you think you need help if you are a lesbian? That could piss an awful lot of gals off!
2006-09-05 04:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do u know what ur saying or what's like to be a lesbian ? U will have to go down on her & do the toy thing to each other. U will not go that far & realize that's it's diquesting a girl on girl relation. Ur bicurious & confused about friendship & sex. Don't mix the Horse with the Donkey or u will have one nasty Monkey.
2006-09-05 04:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so quick to label yourself. Follow your emotions....as far as love is concerned, they will never be wrong.
Maybe try casually slipping into a convo a story about how you lately you've been wondering what it would like to try kissing a girl (not out of the blue, but like if you're talking about relationships). If she responds positively, then proceed to seduce her. If she doesn't, you can still be friends.
2006-09-05 04:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by davey_dangerously 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's important,drop her a letter or give her a call and speak up.U can ask a close friend of urs to say it to the girl ur thinking about.Have u ever thought about sex with her?If not, then ur not a lesb
2006-09-05 04:28:50 · answer #10 · answered by aditi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋