my husband has to travel officially for atleast 15days a month.everytime he goes somewhere iam really upset.i even start crying jus the night b4 he is going to leave.iam fed of this and i want to change but i dont know how?i live with my inlaws and not in a good terms with them.iam a house wife.for some reason i cant leave the house alone with my in laws in.i cant take them out with me either.i dont have much(hardly any)friends.i dont work.my only time pass is keeping my house tidy and cooking and taking care of in laws.everytime my husband leaves i start crying and missing him the minute he leaves for airport.sometime it is jus 1-2day trip.then iam fine.but if it is more than 2days iam really upset.i dont know how to control my emotions.i know this upsets him too.i spoke to him abt this,but he is help less.his job is like that.he has a very responsible job.somebody pls help to over come this pls.he is leaving for 4days from tomorrow morning.
2006-09-04 21:07:47 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
First of all, you are wonderful. I wish the love of my life felt bad when I would leave. Try to be strong. What you are doing is important too. You are keeping the home together while your man is away. It's stressful, I know. You have a lot of responsibility, you know. I would cry, too. I would fall apart if my man left for days at a time, but he's not doing it on purpose. He loves you, and if he could be with you, he would. Be strong for him. How can he do his job, when he knows the love of his life is at home a mess. Every relationship has its difficulties. What I would do, dear, to get my mind off of him leaving, and this is going to be difficult, how can you forget, right, but anyway, what i would do is just throw yourself into your work. Make that house spotless. Or maybe take up a hobby, you know. Difficult, hell yes it is, but dear we can't go through life in constant pain over our loved ones being away. Do some shopping, cooking, anything that makes you happy. But, just keep in mind that your man will come home, to you. It's not permanent, dear. And don't let those in laws drive you crazy, either. It's your house... your marriage, sweetie. I hope everything works out for you and I do hope I helped. Best wishes to you and your man. Praise Jesus, he's a lucky bastard... indeed, God is good.
2006-09-04 21:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by urbania05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him know even more than you have about your feelings on this matter. If you are living away from him, and living with your inlaws who you do not get along with, Of course you are feeling overwhelmed!
He obviously feels the same way. What kind of job does he have? It either must be an executive position that requires travel, or a traveling construction crew type of thing, or a roadie, etc (low paying, high time consuming job), Money isn't everything, but we all know it is important.
Maybe you two could sit down and figure out a place to start off in, with a lower paying job with no travel required, and you could take a job too. It sounds like you both love each other, so work together to figure out how to be together more and live the same if not better. It is up to you!
2006-09-04 21:16:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest you look for a job, part-time also good. You need exposure, new friends/colleagues. Getting a job will also get you out of the house and keep you mind and yourself doing other things instead of the mundane house work.... for your consideration!
Or you can pick up a hobby, join an volunteer group to help the less fortunate - this will increase your self worth.
You need to have friends, go out of the house once a while...
Human is a social being.
2006-09-04 21:18:09 · answer #3 · answered by BaTu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask your husband to leave that kind of job and request him to join or look for an another job which must be peaceful and worthy to your expenditure where both of u can live peacfully .
2006-09-04 21:18:15 · answer #4 · answered by asif 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about getting a job or volunteering or joining some women's groups in the community while he is gone? Stay busy.
2006-09-04 21:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by catzrme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one way of recovering when he goes away is to give each other a souvenir. The souvenir is like a "sleeping" remembrance of yourselves while you are away. One thing is to spray each of your own pillows with personal perfumes. Your husband sprays perfume on your pillow while you do the same to his own pillow using your personal (better yet, favorite) perfume.
2006-09-04 21:18:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with him, in laws take care of kids. I live with my inlaw too, ****** hate it.
Your place or their place?
2006-09-04 21:18:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
THOR WILL COME ROUND TO ANITAS HOUSE AND PLAY HUSBAND FOR 15 DAYS A MONTH
2006-09-04 23:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
go with him and stop letting the "secretary" have all the fun.
2006-09-04 21:15:31 · answer #9 · answered by dogstyle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋