What do you think?

Question

Well i was dating this girl and we broke up after like two years. I love here and want to be with her. While we were broke up i was trying to get back with her. I signed up for a site where you meet ppl it was a swingers site. Dont know why but i did. Well she found it and asked me about it i did not lie about that. But i did lie about talking thru email to some of the ppl on there. I feel bad i do love her i want to be with her. I have talked to girls on the net before and she found those emails to. I have done alot of stupid stuff but i still love her. She says that she dont know if she can trust me anymore. I dont want to loose her. I am a big flirt i know this it is just the way i am cant help it i am not shy. I just dont know what to do. I have del the account on the site and we are still talking. I still see the kid that she was preg with when we started dating. I am his dad. I just dont know what to do any help would be great. I know we were talking about seeing each other again

and we were not dating when i signed up for the site but she is mad i asked her for another chance but who knows what will happen. She told me every time we talked on the phone before the site that we were not dating and were single i did not sleep with anyone but her. What do i do. What do i tell her please help

let me say this again i did not meet anyone did not have sex with anyone. And i dont care if she finds this or not i want to know what other people think. Like i said we were not dating when i signed up for the site.

Answer 1

~Try talking to your kid about it. From what I'm reading here, he's probably already older than you.

Answer 2

That is not true - that "you can't help it cause you aren't shy". Many people that are in relationships and that care about someone are not shy and don't cheat - you don't have to be shy to remain committed to one person.

The longer you continue to believe that the longer you will do these things - obviously you don't like doing them or feel good about it so that should tell you something in itself. If you want one girl -don't play games. You don't want to teach that little boy to act like this and treat women this way - internet or no internet if your thoughts are on someone else and should be on and with her -it just isn't right. And you know that so time to leave the past and old you behind, be a man, take care of yourself, her and that kid - emotionally.

If you were not dating - then there is nothing wrong. If you want to date her - then don't say - who knows what will happen cause if you don't want something to than it won't 0 it really is a simple thing. There is something sexy about a man who is committed and won't flirt with some other girl - he is off limits and he puts out that message. The guy that is with someone and put out an I am free message - not sexy. Either you choose her or you don't - you choose to not be committed - that is your right. Don't make it if you know you cannot keep that promise to her. - It really is the worst pain and betrayal that another human being can do to someone they care about - cause it shows they don't care.

I make it a habit to treat people how I would want to be treated - I mean how would you feel if she did this to you?? It just isn't the right thing to do. I mean you can date people - if she knows that and agrees to see you anyway but you can't do this and act like you are committed so she always feels betrayed. Break the cycle is my advice - the past does not have to define who you are.

Answer 3

if you are writing all this just so she can read it you are ***** ...a good idea is to grow up,become more mature and prove her everything you are saying...acts speak louder than words!

I'm sure she loves you too,but she wants comfort and someone to always be there for her no matter what!

Answer 4

there's nothing to tell her..... what you need to do is to show her how you really feel.... i'm sure she's just seeking security and honesty.... why don't you try courting her again..... start from the beginning...... try and show her how you really love her.... start being faithful to her man.....that's the only she's waiting for you to do..... if she's gonna stick to you, she needs some assurance..... show her that she's really the only one for you....