2006-09-04 21:02:25 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you want to get a guy to be crazy for you, just as you are for him? You have to be very patient, especially if you feel like you want to take it further than just a "silly little crush." Always be attentive and observant. Soon, your "crush" will be your "main squeeze." Here are some helpful hints on how to charm a guy, while still being yourself.
Steps
Find a time that you can strike up a conversation with the guy.
For instance, if he has the same class as you, or watches the same show, you could talk about that. Talk to him about something that you both like. Make a funny joke to get him to
laugh.
Don't go way over the top by trying to flirt. You just may end up looking desperate and scare the guy. You don't have to wave a flag with his name on it to get him to notice you.
Try to look really cute around him--however, keep in mind that most guys like casual,natural girls that look like they didn't spend a lot of time on themselves. Wear clothes that are appropriate to the situation (avoid showing way too much skin).If you are overdressed you will look and feel uncomfortable. Wear natural makeup, a little lipgloss,mascara and blusher are often enough.
Flash your best million dollar smile for him.
Don't push him into liking you. Let him make his own decision.
Chances are if he sees that you are comfortable with yourself, he'll feel at ease.
Be yourself - whether you're goofy, silly, crazy, or whatever.
They will know if you are being fake. If the guy doesn't like you for who you truly are, then he probably isn't worth it.
Ask around about who his ex-girlfriends are. Take a look at them, or talk to them, and see if you notice something that they all have in common, for example, they all have straight hair which they wear down, or they all play sports. This could be why he liked them, if they all share the same thing.If its something small like hair, maybe you could do your hair like his exes, but don't change something drastically just for him.
Don't be afraid to show off a little in front of him, but don't show off too much, or you will seem conceited. Guys appreciate confidence.
Try to let him take the lead. Take this time to decide if you really like him and let them realize this is what you are doing. It will make them step up their game.
Don't be too hard on yourself. If he is not coming around, then let it go. Maybe he will find interest later. If not, it's not the end of the world.
If he looks like he might like you, ask him out. But be prepared to keep your cool if he says no. He'll probably respect you for it either way.
Don't play stupid mind games or send mixed signals.
Be nice and kind to the person. If they ask to borrow something, happily say yes. Also give compliments.
Tips
If you get really nervous every time you try to talk to the guy, practice what you'll say before hand. Just take a deep breath and relax. Keep the conversation casual. Remember that you don't have to start dressing differently and change your hair color to impress. You're fine just the way you are.
Don't back off him a lot or he will feel like you don't like him. In other words, don't be so shy!
Patience, honesty, and being yourself will always win over anyone you like (or anyone who likes you).
Don't be pushy or impatient. Good things come to those who wait.
Tell them what you think of them. Never ask how they feel about you. If they want you to know, they will show (or tell) you. This approach will prevent you from getting your feelings hurt.
If there is no sign of him being interested in you, that doesn't necessarily mean that he isn't interested. He could just be shy, or be a little frightened, especially if he hasn't dated anyone for a long time.
Think how you would want someone to act if they liked you.
If you really like a guy and he doesn't like you or thinks you are annoying don't push him on liking you; start off by being friends and let it go from there.
If something bad happens to him, be there to listen to his problems.
Ask people what your best points are and highlight them! For example, if people say your eyes are really bright blue, exagerate them more by wearing a blue eyeshadow! Or if people say you have really nice legs, wear more skirts!
Don't be shy. Boys aren't gonna laugh at you or anything for taking these steps, so there's nothing to be afraid of.
Warnings
If he kisses you or does something you're not comfortable with, you could just hug him or you can tell him straight forward "I like you but I don't think I am ready for this kind of thing." If he likes you for you, he won't care and and he will respect your decision.
Don't bug him too much or he might feel like you are being a little too keen.
Don't confuse kindness with him liking you.
Don't pressure him, or push him to do something, he may not be
ready.
Don't tell him you like him if you don't even know him.
Don't be clingy!
Don't stare. This is annoying as well as creepy after a while. Just give him your occasional glance, and if he happens to be looking back at you, give him nothing more that a sincere little smile and maybe even a wave. If you've done this a few times already and want to be a little bolder you can even wink at him. He'll get the hint.
2006-09-04 21:07:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Following the Bro Code my answer is supposed to be um of course it's innocent, but lets be honest. In the context of this one conversation your boyfriend has a friend. I mean really who says oi oi to a lady and wants anything more then friendship. Get him a damn puppy, and all will be good.
2016-03-17 08:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just to let you know I'm no expert, but here is my answer!
If he doesn't know how you feel, LET HIM KNOW as soon as possible!!!! That will definitely speed things up. Then maybe you can sit down and discuss the idea of having a relationship. (BORING I KNOW)
If he does know, why are you playing hide and seek! Just grab the guy and kiss him, for goodness sake! It's not that difficult! Then tell him how you really feel, and move on to the next level of your relationship, and then the next level, and so forth!
2006-09-04 21:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by Fairy-Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to speed up to the next step, the beginning of a relationship is always the most exciting and memorable. have it go at its own pace, that's the best thing
2006-09-04 21:06:54 · answer #4 · answered by hoecake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~If you're in such a hurry, why wait for him to make the move. There's been this movement since the 60's about equality for women. It doesn't get a lot of publicity, but maybe you've heard about it. Try it - he might like it. I always do.
Of course, you say he's interested in you but he's not makin the move. Could be you are deluding yourself.
If the next move involves jumpin' in the sack and you're as young as I presume you to be on the basis of the question, maybe he's just smarter than you and doesn't want to go there. Good for him.
2006-09-04 21:09:54 · answer #5 · answered by Oscar Himpflewitz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly, are both of u sure and aware of each other's feelings? If so, think of why doesnt anyone make a move?
Is it because he or urself is not in any rush?
Is it because both are uncertain?
Is it because both don't wanna jeopardise the friendship should it go negative?
Is it because the objective is not strong enough to push for some action?
Maybe if u can analysis all these, U may find your answer and act accordingly!
2006-09-04 22:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by crow_nanc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you prepared to date him out in the first place? Can u imagine yourself to be with him in the next few years? If you really like him, you should be frank about it. Once you missed the chance, it's gone forever. Or maybe this should be said to the guy? ha
But, if he is a loser, then no point waiting for this kinda guy who only noes how to play the waiting game. Is he blowing hot and cold at you now? Spend your time on other guys instead, make him jealous. If he doesn't react, then no point carrying a torch for him. Assuming he is a loser, are u prepared to date a loser for the next few years, you will be lamenting about it everyday!
Friends can only help to a certain stage, but ultimately it's up to the both of you. Unwanted interferences can upset the whole thing and create misunderstandings in the long run. Be sure to tell your friends that they should draw a line between, creating opportunities and being "kay-po". Dun noe y some people are just so helpful nowadays. Period.
2006-09-04 21:25:36 · answer #7 · answered by KNN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What next stage do you mean?Take it slow enjoy each stage as it comes.
2006-09-04 21:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by eva b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say no to sex regardless of whatever next stage that is to come before marriage.
mercury of love
2006-09-05 00:43:25 · answer #9 · answered by mercury of love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may be he is a little shy,or think that makes you step back,so you can wait and show him you are ready for the net stage
2006-09-04 21:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by ss s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so simple just talk to him/her if the same feelings are there, than there should be no confusion just say what u want
2006-09-04 21:09:54 · answer #11 · answered by preet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋