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I hate smoking but my girlfriend smokes but not around me. She knows I hate it. Before we met she had no tattoos. I don't like tattoos either and I told her this, but now she has two. Now she's talking about getting certain areas of her body pierced which I really don't want her to do. I'm terrified of needles and piercings are just as bad. Also I don't think tattoos and piercings look good on the body and take away some of the physical attraction. Now she says I don't think she's beautiful because she has tattoos. It's obvious that my oppinion doesn't matter at all and now she's putting words in my mouth. Does my oppinion matter at all and is she right for being mad at me for giving her my opinnion when she asked for it?

2006-09-04 20:41:48 · 29 answers · asked by korines 3 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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No reason for either of you to get mad. Being mad doesn't solve issues in a relationship. Do this, Take her out for a nice dinner. Tell her you love her and that you are sorry for not understanding her needs. Love is a daily challenge. Don't let pride destroy that.

2006-09-04 20:49:58 · answer #1 · answered by myothernewname 6 · 1 0

A relationship symbolizes a certain importance of the two people to each other. Because of this your opinion should matter at least a little to your girlfriend, like her opinion should matter to you. I think it's time you and your girlfriend had a little heart-to-heart about the reasons she is doing these things. Speaking from experience, I find it easier to argue about more superficial issues with my boyfriend than to dig deeper to find the reasons for my emotions. It sounds like your girlfriend is having an emotional reaction, possibly because she misunderstood something you said, or even just because she didn't agree with you. Instead of having a calm logical reaction that you would understand, she is allowing her emotions to control her actions. That's not to say that emotions are bad, just that she is reacting poorly to a situation that is better dealt with through some quality discussion. It may be worth sitting down with your girlfriend and having a serious discussion. Don't air your opinions. Just ask her why it is that she wants to have certain piercings done. Find out why she got tattoos. But remember that girls are very sensitive and need to be reassured over and over again that they are loved for who they are and not what they do. However, you need to know for sure what you can and cannot live with in a relationship, and if both of you are unwilling to compromise on the issue, then you need to seriously evaluate it. But remember, all good relationships require a lot of effort on both parts, and if this relationship is worth enough to both of you, then you need to work out some good communication strategies.

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2006-09-05 03:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lumburger 1 · 0 0

No she asked and you told her. But it doesnt seem that this is the relationship for you. She smokes, tattoos and body piercing are things you don't like but she does. Will you be able to live with these things forever, if not get out now. No need to keep torturing yourself and find someone who is more in tune with you.

2006-09-05 03:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by sexylips232 2 · 0 0

No, she shouldn't be mad at u for u giving her your honest opinion. U need to ask yourself though, why u are with her to begin with & if it was for the way she looks, then u need to move on cause obviously her idea of beauty & yours are so different. If u loved her before those things, and the relationship is based on more than just the physical, it shouldn't matter that she did them if that makes her happy.

2006-09-05 03:59:31 · answer #4 · answered by JeenaBlahBlahBlah 3 · 0 0

You must be young.It's like the ever popular question about pants making her butt look big. There is no right answer.The only thing close is refusing to answer the question in some subtle way.It's her body she can do what she wants.Your only option is to accept what she does or go elsewhere.If you love her it shouldn't matter. If she tattoo's some other guys name on her face or her a.s.s. u got something to complain about. Until then you've told her what you dont like. She asks again you know what to say.

2006-09-05 03:50:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hi, Tattoos are away of expressing who you are.I see nothing wrong with your girlfriend getting 2 tattoos.I don't like body piercing,but thats another way of expressing your feeling and who you are.Sorry to say,It's her body ,and she can do whatever she wants to do with it.Sounds like you 2 never really had anything in common.I would say,It's time to move on and find someone more to your liking.

Clowmy

2006-09-05 03:56:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes your girlfriend has a right to be upset. You are acting more like her parent than a boyfriend. Honey, she's expressing herself. This is who she is. And if this isn't what you signed up for or want out of life, then maybe she's not the one for you. If you love and care for her enough to over look her flaws, then let this go. She could be doing much worse!

2006-09-05 03:45:42 · answer #7 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0 0

You told her tattoos were unattractive to you and now she's throwing it in your face that you dont think she's beautiful with her 'in your face tattoos!"....is very controlling.

She is lifelong committed to permanent tattoos and body piercings and making you a fool.
She doesnt see your relationship as a committment or anything permanent. Opinion doesnt count here...she doesnt respect YOU.

2006-09-05 03:58:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Well for starters it is HER body... Personally you can agree to disagree but what do you love her for ? Who she is or how many tattoos she has or piercings... My BF doesn't like my nose stud BUT he loves me anyways. Cause that's what love is. Loving someone even if they change... Love sees past those little things and to the person they are inside. I wouldn't care about anyone's opinion. She will do what she wants so you can either accept it or move on.......

2006-09-05 03:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

If your interest and hers are different now then you need to separate because getting piercing and tattoo's can be addicting. You need find out if she really wants to be with. And you opion does count if you care about her but she might not be able to see that yet.

2006-09-05 03:45:40 · answer #10 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 0 0

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