This girl... I consider my first love. I down-right thought she was my one and only.
Well after a little while dating... we ended up hitting a rough patch and breaking FAR apart.... Well we're friends again and the only thing keeping me ok with all of this in my past was the idea that she told me she loved me... I thought the feelings were mutual. Now she tells me she only liked me and it was never love and a lot of what I felt was just me.. not her.
I'm feelin really crappy about this and want to know:
Should I still consider her my first love if she didn't love me back?
Can I truthfully say that I've loved?
How should I feel? Should I move on?
Gimme your opinions...
2006-09-04 20:22:03 · 12 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey thanks, ya'll.
I know I have to move on... I will and I know that I'll find others. But right now it still kinda hurts. Once I get past this self-pity stage I can move on to finding others.
Thanks though, you all have been pretty nice about this.
2006-09-05 05:39:32 · update #1
Move on.....
2006-09-04 20:24:46 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love regardless of whether the feeling is mutual.
Your ex sounds a bit fickle so don't take anything she says too serious. Sometimes we even forget how we felt in the moment. She even may be trying to help you detach.
You should be happy for the good times you had but accept things have changed and move on.
Hopefully soon you will find another girl in which you can have a more mature relationship with.
I wish you all the best.
2006-09-04 20:35:29 · answer #2 · answered by Love of Truth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you loved her than yes, you can still call her your first love..... and as for you two hitting a rough patch and now coming back together, take things slow.. just be friends,,, who knows maybe in time she will fall in love with you,.. but you cant sit and hope that she will you need to keep your life moving but you can always keep her a part of it......
2006-09-04 20:26:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That really sucks, and I'm sorry. Please don't let this one bad experience make you jaded. Of course you can always think of her as your first love if you know you loved her. She doesn't have to love you back. Im going through something similar, and I feel trampled on. But you have to remember that it was one of many life experiences. Just dont put up a wall for other potential love interests. And yes, sadly it would be time to move on.
2006-09-04 20:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by Chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have loved, and yes you can move on and love again. Someday you will find someone who will love you as much as you love them and the pain of your first love will fall away. You should be proud that you were strong enough to love without receiving the same type of love back for that is the purest type of love, love without expectations. Agape my friend.
2006-09-04 20:58:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sarita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still understand her after knowing all that then you have loved unconditionally and yes, you should consider it first love because even if she did'nt love you the same..you felt and have given love.
Move on, there are a lot of greener pasture around.. ;-)
2006-09-04 20:30:57 · answer #6 · answered by Creine_Athena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe once u LOVED her but she wasnt.
I think a relation cannot work when its ONE-WAY !!
So i'll suggest move on in life,U'll find someone else BETTER THAN HER.
Best of all.
If i were u i'd stop talking with her cuz everytime i meet & i'd remember all the good & bad things.
NOW ITS UPTO U,
2006-09-04 20:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by miss_rimi1989 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. When youre in love...you dont think past another person. You think of a future with the one you are with in the present. If the love ends...however it ends...even one-sided...it would still be your first love. Guess youre on to your second love...take it easy and cherish each love in your life! :D
2006-09-04 20:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the form you inspect me makes me sense like im the only female interior the worldwide. you and me mutually is the only element it is clever anymore. the sentiments I even have for you're extra advantageous than the wind in a hurricane.
2016-11-24 22:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can still call her your 1st love.. its the first time you loved and it doesnot matter if she loved youback or not. you should move on though there are nice girls out there who would love you back and then you can call her your true love...good luck...
2006-09-04 20:26:23 · answer #10 · answered by Ariel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it. She was history. Move on with your life.
2006-09-04 20:25:04 · answer #11 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋