Why do guys give mixed messages? Especially if they flirt openly with you always making eye contact, smiling, and joking but yet never ask you out or try to get your number? I have a boyfriend but I'm not married; do you think that has anything to do with it.
2006-09-04 20:10:36 · 18 answers · asked by Busy Lady 2010 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been seeing with my boyfriend for ten years it's not like we are gonna get married anytime soon.
2006-09-04 20:13:08 · update #1
maybe ur long time relationship seems more or less so stable tat he dun want to be blame as the 3rd party tat ruin the whole thing n yet find himself kinda having alittle crush on u
2006-09-04 20:19:44 · answer #1 · answered by Western 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons, they are not only to do with you but they could be in his world.
Too many to write about but they are probably related to some sort of fear. This could be fear of actually asking or fear of being in the relationship.
The former can be to do with self image and self confidence. The later could be related to more practical issues or judgements about / fear about how the woman is.
The later is not always grounded in reality. He may want a relationship but not think he can sustain it due to other commitments in his life. In fact in reality the attention he is able to give may be perfectly acceptable to the woman in question. Of course there are many other possible scenarios.
Golden rule is don't assume either way.
The only way to find out is talk, probably indiectly with some probing questions.
Then you will find out otherwise you may never know.
2006-09-04 22:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, of course he is nervous about your boyfriend!
YOU HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR TEN YEARS!
He's probably wondering when you're going to marry your boyfriend!
If he likes you, he probably considers you taken. I mean, TEN YEARS!
I've known some spectacular women in real long-term relationships. It's not something that's fun to try to mess around with, unless you and the guy are both sure that you no longer want your boyfriend, and your boyfriend is made to understand this.
Hell, he probably doesn't imagine you would like him!
2006-09-04 20:24:01 · answer #3 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is possible! i have a problem too. i like this girl, but there are reasons why we cant be together. Mine is distance...
There could be several reasons, maybe because the guy is too proud to date you, like if he dated you it could ruin his reputation. He could also be a player. He could be really busy and not have time for a girlfriend. He could have a girlfriend.
Guys are scum. Remember that. I have seen girls that have been really hurt by other guys. Sometimes i am ashamed of being a guy when i c **** like that!
Never doubt yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Always remember that you have something unique to offer, and that any guy would be lucky to have you!
2006-09-04 20:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, see guys aren't afraid of relationships. They are just worried that they could always do better than the relationship they are in. So that leads to flirting, mixed messages, or even creepy behavior. Or they really do like you and are just to big of ******* to as you out. My solution: alcohol.
2006-09-04 20:15:35 · answer #5 · answered by socrates 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be. He is probably just being nice and/or flirting with you. If he is serious enough, he will find a way to let you know that he is interested. It sounds like you are interested in going out w/ him? Whatever you do, don't cheat! Good luck!
2006-09-04 20:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The whole having a boyfriend thing is pretty prolific in your predicament. It could just be his style, I am the same way and don't usually notice; it gets me into loads of trouble with the ladies.
2006-09-04 20:24:04 · answer #7 · answered by andy.bones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reason women give mixed messages; there are a 1001 reasons why.
2006-09-04 20:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know why dogs bark don't bite? Yes, those men who fall on this type of category, they just like to capture your attention but when it comes to a serious matter they back off. My advice to you is just don't let them bother you as they are no harm to you.
2006-09-04 20:22:27 · answer #9 · answered by Rod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive asked girls out that do all that, when you ask they say " just because a girl is nice to you doesnt mean she fancies you "
Im confused
2006-09-04 20:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by ARAN S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋