How do I get motivated about losing weight?

Question

I am a 26 year old young woman, unemployed, depressed, totally unhappy with my life, and I weigh 432 lbs. I have tried to be keep positive about the passing of both my parents but it's not working. My mom passed and six months later my dad left me. I have tried dieting and it didn't work for me. I started exercising but I wasn't seeing any results. I have been discriminated against for being a big woman and that hurts like hell. It's like when I start something that I think is rite for me, something always happen and it sets me back. I'm trying so hard mentally to over come the obsticales that I've been through and move forward with my weight lose. Can someone give me some REAL and HONEST feedback on what my first step should be?

Answer 1

I would begin by evaluating your eating habits and determining if there are specific foods that you tend to gravitate to when you're feeling down. If there isn't a specific type of food, I would recommend stocking up on fruits and vegetables and eating them when you have cravings or just want to munch on something. Keep a food journal, and write down everything that you eat or drink in a day. Count calories and see what your intake on a normal day is like, then try to reduce that a bit at a time. Your goal should be to burn more calories in a day than you consume.

For exercise, try something like walking at first, and work up from there. Whatever you choose to do should increase your heart rate while you're doing it. Keep it up for 30 minutes or so at least 3-4 days a week.

However, you did mention that you're attempting to overcome mental obstacles--if you don't feel that you can overcome them on your own, you should find a therapist who can help you with that step. If you're not mentally prepared, you'll still be fighting an uphill battle. I wish you all the best, and I'll be praying for your success.

Answer 2

Okay, I can relate. I am 35 and i am about 80 pounds over weight and it is all i think about. I have been on one diet plan or another for the past 4 years and i've lost and gained the same 20-25 pounds too many times to count. I know that diets don't work and a life change is in order but it is damn hard!!!! I absolutely hate, detest to exercise. My best friend is about 350 pounds and she is considering gastric bypass because she has been discriminated against too in the work force. I think to each his own on what way works best for you. Right now I am not eating but one meal a day (dinner), drinking lots and lots of water and taking Hoodia (makes you not hungry). I have lost 5 pounds in a week. I want to lose at least 20 by my birthday at the end of this month. I also cut out fast food. That will make you fatter than anything else!!!
Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Maybe you should try and see a couselor.

Are you a member of any church? Maybe a spirtual mentor would be able to help. If not, I would check out local area clinics. In the US, in most metro areas, free or reduced rate couseling is available. You need support during this stressful period. Another thing, it is my finding, that when you want to lose weight, you need a buddy there with you. (In fact, contact me if you like, check my profile and send me an email) I had a baby about six months ago and am still struggling to lose all the weight. I do know a few tips, tho.)

First step, with all the trauma you've been through, I would pray about it and ask God for guidance, comfort and help.

Answer 4

Hello, I'm sorry to read you're not feeling well. I can identify with your story, I think I understand how you feel, I've been in a simular situation. What really pulled me through was exercizing and doing positive things for ME. At first I didn't see a result, but I felt a lot better (in between my ears ;-) when I worked out, and afterward I would go in the gym's sauna and sometimes got a massage.
I started to work out for an hour twice a week, than I added long walks in the weekends and 2 pieces of fruit and 2 portions of vegatables to my daily diet. Slowly I noticed that my cravings for fast food and candy became less. Now I work out 4 times a week. I schedule excercising in to my calender, like I have an appointment with myself. Also I meet friends at the gym, or at a certain time after working out, so I have to stick my workout out. I'm doing this for 6 months now and have lost 15 kilos (I don't know how many lbs that is) and feel so much more positive about life and me. I figured that its lousy to drag yourself to the gym all the time, but staying home and eating made me feel lousy as well, so I choose the first option.
I feel I can deal with things a lot better now. Please look inside your hart, find that little spark that's about YOU and start working out and buy some quality vitaminsuplements. Hang in there, there is no quick fix for this. It didn't come overnight and it won't go overnigth, but it will do wonders for your brain and your butt will follow, I promise!
Please take good care of YOU, you're in my thoughts!

Answer 5

I see. what you gotta do is look within youself.

DEPPRESSION UNEMPLOYEMENT, it plays a big part because your not bein social.

and you know what?
you can work at it
one everyday imagin youself loosing weight. stay off the weight meter.

DEPRESSION::: know that that everyon had a diet so dont think of it as loosing weight do tai chi (a innerself movement) for starters. as for food. 3 times a day eat whatever you want eat early 6am. lunch 12pm and eat whatever you crave for dinner. but no matter what eat healthy but no matter what please dont eat anything before 7pm but lots of water and perhaps a fruit for a snack. sleep early if you have to or grab yourself a carrot.
drink a nice variety of Green Tea. it helps you loose weight.
if you are grieving for family lost remember you may feel alone but you arent.
SOCIALIZE! if you rather not speak person to person try the phone, dont chat on the internet it can make you hungry. and not deny eating.
See medical help. ask youre doctor if you are healthy enough for excercise. if you are. start walking. find a tredmile while listening to your favorite music. oh and meditate study it and do it youll feel allot better trust me!

ACKNOWLEDGE THAT EVERYONE FAILS ON DIETING BUT YOU DONT HAVE TOO! WHY CAUSE YOU CAN CHOOSE NOT TO! forget about your weight dont ever say how much you weight. i lost allot myself and i dont know how much i weight but im looking great! trust me. see if its ok with you and come back to your life. COME BACK.

Answer 6

I am sorry for your losses and setbacks. Know you are NOT alone. Things will get better.
First, I would recommend seeing a family therapist (in the yellow pages under Counseling) to get your bound up feelings and thoughts out in the open, sometimes just "thinking out loud" does miracles!
Next, I would see a Dietician and discuss options such as gastric bypass. I have known a couple of friends who had done that and their self-esteem tripled!
Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 7

Motivation for weight loss and fitness
One of the greatest difficult tasks is to motivate you for weight loss. After one month around, you start your enthusiasm in your weight loss and fitness program. I have learned few things that that has helped me to be motivating towards the fitness program and get my weight loss goal. I think these tips will also helps you as well to loose weight and keep motivated towards various weight loss and fitness programs.


* Once you have started your weight loss program, its a great idea to weigh yourself only once a week. If you keep on weigh everyday, you will only discourage yourself. If you weigh yourself only once a week, you will be able to analyses whether you need to make change to your existing routine or not.

* Keep a photo of a heavier version of yourself in plain view. This will keep be motivating how great you look after loosing weight than you were before loosing extra pounds. It will also prevent you from sliding back into old habits.

* Once you have achieved your weigh loss goals, and then imagine what you want yourself to look like. This will give you the motivation to keep the weight off.

* Keep setting higher and higher goals for you towards your fitness. If you do not set new goal for you and work to achieve them, then you will surely run in to our bed habit. As a result, you will not be able to keep the weight off. So it’s a great idea to keep on setting new goals and get in perfect shape. As you know it’s a really tough task to keep what you have achieved than what you are looking for.


These are some of ideas that keep me motivated towards my weight loss and fitness program. There may be many more reasons for you to motivate yourself to loose weight.

Answer 8

well, u know that life is beautiful maybe u do not have the right friends or u do not know the right people, i am offering u my friendship, u shoul exercise more and do not worry about not seeing any results, u will see them in a couple of months, try not eatint very much, just small portions, and u should run or walk, cardio is esential in losing weight, good luck and smile!!

Answer 9

look at yourself in the mirror. write down what you see. write whatever you see in a journal or diary that you should keep daily. write down what you disklike about yourself, what you want to improve, your goals-they should be realistic-and how to reach your goals. re-look over that and check out sites like foodnetwork.com to eat helathier-they have really healthy recipes. change your lifestyle little by little, walk every day for lets say 30 minutes around your neighborhood and making smarter choices. also, do not go with the whole diet thing since you will deprive your body-learn how to eat healthy, good meals for your body. cook with olive oil, replace peanut butter with reduced peanut butter and so forth: every little adjustmesnt counts. then keep track of what you eat, how many meals you eat and how much you work out and eat in moderation. start to look on the back of the labels and if you do that you will make smarter choices. chose water over soda, broiled food over deepfried,home made over store bought and so forth.it is a process but you can do it. make realistic goals for a week or month and try to reach your goals thru working out and eating right. once you can work out for 30 minutes increase the amt.of time by doing cardio-treadmill or eliptical, and weights.that is the only way you will butn fat and keep it off.best of luck to you.

Answer 10

always have vegetables on hand saute a big bag of frozen mixed vegetables in olive oil and garlic add some red pepper or turmeric for additional flavor and separate into portion sized containers for the fridge