My Girlfriend and I have been having sex for a little over a month now. The problem is that every time we do she winds up having to get herself off after we're done. I've tried everything from straight intercourse to oral, anal, fingering, toys, etc, but nothing works for her except her own touch. I've never had problems in the bedroom before, and she has told me that this is the way it's always been for her. None of her other lovers have ever been able to give her an orgasm either. At first I thought it was just a matter of time, and that as we got more comfortable things would get better. But that hasn't happened and we're both getting really frustrated. Tonight we got in a big fight because she didn't want to have sex, saying "it's not worth it, you can't get me off anyway". What can I do???
2006-09-04 19:58:02 · 14 answers · asked by Alan T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Masturbate her!!! Or better yet, orally stimulate her.
2006-09-04 20:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girlfriend Masturbation
2016-11-07 10:48:18 · answer #2 · answered by tschannen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the other suggestions are not working, then maybe is it more about ‘not losing contact.’
To bring her to orgasm during intercourse means that she has to be already sooooooo close, before the intercourse even begins. Many women need constant external contact during sex
Men like to thrust a lot, but in doing that they lose contact with her body – which is less relaxing and the external stimulation is on a stop/start and she will literally never finish, or miss it completely, or she’ll frustrated – since there is now pressure for her to do this. Stay in deep and against her, gently rock, and stay in as close as you can even after you ejaculate. If she gets close to an orgasm she might need you to stop and simply apply pressure – with your pubic bone, or genitals etc. If this doesn’t work then why not forget about the orgasm and give her time to trust herself and you.
She might be feeling a lot of pressure, so why not just make long, slow romantic love for a while, and it might just start happening when you are not expecting it. Forget the technique and move you body to very slow music – forget the acrobats for a while. This under-the-cover dancing is also physically arousing/satisfying and brings warmth and security to a couple. Isn’t sex about the joining of two people?
2006-09-04 20:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had a gf for a few months with the same problem. What we finally did was this: She lay down on her back with a pillow under her butt. I lay in front of her crossways so that her legs were over my body. I VERY S~L~O~W~L~Y slid my penis into her while she fingered her clit. Then I would slide out equally slowly. She could feel the sensation of me and herself and when she used her vibrator, she came really hard.
It's really all in her mind about not being able to get off except in her one way. She needs to broaden her idea of it and instead of thinking there is only one way, which we all know is ridiculous, begin to see that there are so many ways that you can't possibly count them all.
2006-09-04 20:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by BBQribs 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She might need to see a doctor of some sort. There are people that masturbate too much and have a hard time getting of during regular sex with another person. That's just one of many, many possible causes.
2006-09-04 20:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well im prob. not much help... but i guess u can say my bf is having the same prob. with me.
i feel horrible cuz he cant seem to make me get an orgasm. i mean we havent had sex but we have done a lot of oral sex 'n fingering.......
it sucks also cuz he seems to *** way to soon... before i get the chance to fully get an orgasm....
ps.... the fastest i have gotten an orgasm was when he did me oraly..... us that tongue of urs boy.....
2006-09-04 20:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
at first, i was having hard time reaching orgasm with just plain sex, I rather touch it my own..thats from my xbf...but now, (my new bf is good in bed) i get my orgasm through everthing, oral or my bf touching mine..wat im trying to say is, its all up to both of you...your ways and her willingness,your tongue is a good substitute to her fingers.
2006-09-04 20:18:21 · answer #7 · answered by princess ysa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep on doing it. Practice Makes A man Perfect!!!!!
2006-09-04 20:25:43 · answer #8 · answered by Ss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, take the responsibility off yourself. It's not men's jobs to give women orgasms during sex.
In the end she has to decide whether she wants to orgasm with you during sex, and then she has to decide what she is going to do about it. She may need sex therapy or a helpful manual. It sounds like she is going to have to change her attitude.
All you can do is love her and support her through it.
2006-09-04 20:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Girl Machine 7 · 0⤊ 4⤋
buy a sex toy and do it yourself...the rest will follow
2006-09-04 22:09:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋