My 2 yr. old has no problem listening to her step-dad, but when I tell her to do something she acts like she can't hear me. Or worse yet yells gibberish at me and screams no. Which is troubling because she really is a sweet, sweet child. When it comes to discipline we use time out, and when I put her there she gets back out and goes right back to what she was doing without missing a beat. It is starting to cause problems with me and my husband. He hates that I get so upset at the fact that I can talk until I am blue in the face and she won't listen. Are there any helpful hints to try and get her to listen to me as well as him?
2006-09-04 19:52:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
When my daughter was that age, I used to sit in a room with her for time out. When she is throwing fits and screaming "no" at you, mimic her back.
My daughter would act up in the store. It only took me twice to put a stop to it. She began to yell and scream in front of everyone, I turned to her and copied her screaming. Needless to say everyone will stare at you, but children do not like to be embarrassed.
You have to put your foot down. If she cries and screams and refuses to listen, ignore her. Let her cry herself to sleep. A mistake that I have witnessed people make is to give into their children, when all the child is doing is trying to get their way.
When she learns that crying and screaming will not give her the attention that she needs, she will stop. I know that it is hard; my daughter is 6 now, but try not to yell at her for the time being. She will learn that she has to respect you too.
Even though people may say that they are too young to understand, wrong, children learn very early how to manipulate a person or situation and how to push your buttons.
2006-09-04 20:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stay at it you got to show her you are the adult and in charge not her. Other wise shes going to keep running over you and its not going to stop once she gets older. Put her in time out and dont let her get up, if she does find another punishment. Take her toys away from her for a period of time, dont let her watch T.V, or play games while she is in trouble. DONT spank her thats not going to solve anything. Try rewarding her when she is good. Dont do it all the time she does something good cause then she will learn to be good when she wants something and once she gets it think she can act up again.
Set rules and make sure you and her step dad are on the same page and stick with the rules. She probably listens to him and not you cause he might be giving in and letting her have her way alot more then you do. Remember to keep it up dont give in things get worse most often before it gets better. So if you stick with it she will learn she is not the one in charge and not getting her way.
2006-09-05 03:00:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi arent' the terrible twos wonderful? I'm a second time vet myself currently entering that wonderful world agian. My daughter will be two in 3 wks but has been a terrible two for 3 months now. She is the sweetest cutest little girl you ever met until you tell her no. I stand with her in time out (one minute for every year she is)I stand with her til she learns what is expected of her in the corner. (Face in corner, arms at sides, standing straight.) She's barely starting to learn it. As for the listning to step dad. Some girls fear a mans voice. Well not fear but jump to attention and do as told. My daughter will do that to. I'll tell her no and she'll scream back and hubby will say listen to mommy! and she's doing anything I say. lol all we can do is be patient (and yes I also spank) One or two swats is all that's needed at their age. And for the big stuff (touching stove, etc) they are exploring their world and their boundries. Never give up. They sense it the second you do.
2006-09-05 06:47:06 · answer #3 · answered by johnsmom326 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never use corporal punishment with your daughter you dont want the feeling "you can beat but you cant kill" grow inside your daughters mind spanking sure provide fast results but these results dont exists very long..you can try to solve the problem with love you play with her for 1 hour a day always talk to her in a sweet and polite voice and you know if you gonna love her and if she gonna start doing bad stuff all you gotta do is to ask her in a poliete way that stop it! and she will stop it cause she will think that his mommy love her so much and she will come back to you and stop doing what shes doing you might think that 2 yr old cant understand that but trust me they do..you know the main reason your daughter is doing all that stuff is to get you and your husbands attension if you gonna play with her love her you will see the things getting better..its an age where child is exploring things and he might get lil cocky while doing all that...and what you can do is whenevr shes good give her lil stickers when she act bad take all of them away from her and tell her tht she gotta earn them by behaving good..try to solve out the problem with love..its a common stage of a toddlers life....
2006-09-05 07:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by cool k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What tone of voice are you using? You need a firm tone, stating it like you mean business. A whiney voice and yelling won't get you anywhere. Be persistent, and follow through with your threats (being careful what you threaten her with).
Talk to her while she's being good, and really get to know her... it will create a bond between the 2 of you.
When she misbehaves, firmly explain to her what the consequences will be if she continues her actions... then follow through! Inform her she has 5 (or whatever) seconds to correct the situation, and after that, enforce the threat.
2006-09-05 03:12:18 · answer #5 · answered by ♫☼♥ ≈ Debbi ≈ ♥☼♫ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, do not get upset with your child. She will feed off of that. Turn off the TV/radio when you need to talk to her. Make sure she knows there are consequences to not listening. When you ask her to do something and she does not do it, ask her again and tell her she has three seconds to do it or she goes in time out. Count to three, and if it's not done, put her in time out for two minutes. Keep doing it. Be vigilant.
2006-09-05 02:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by wmichgrad 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I let my daughter stay in her room without the toy she was playing with or, I get down to her level and talk to her like a little adult sometimes this method works sometimes I just take her for a walk around the house and she relaxes a little bit hope this helps.
2006-09-05 13:46:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent she's the child. Time out is for school, while she's home a little hit on her butt and look at her as u do it. You have to let your daughter know it's not a joke. when she wants something say no to her. I know it's hard but she's making it hard for you. i think you should start now before she gets older. Good Luck
2006-09-05 03:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by kayla b 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but you have to keep putting her back in. She's testing her limits right now and has to be shown that there are repercussions for her actions. My youngest was like that for a while, I also began taking TV, Junk food, toy privileges away until it wasn't a problem anymore. And when you get upset, walk away and count/breathing in and out as you count.
2006-09-05 03:02:11 · answer #9 · answered by dakittenizcozmic 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well she is two so most likely the only way to respond is with a two year old response. When she wines that she wants something like a drink or something to munch on.. simply ignore her as she does you. Then when she crys explain to her that when she ignores you that you will ignore her. This almost never works on the first go but it will in the long run.
2006-09-05 03:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Zac L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋