Self preservation or misery what a choice
2006-09-04 19:50:27 · 17 answers · asked by Mr Mister 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is wrong, but it happens when the person will not even try to help themselves. We are human not saints.
If they aren't going to help themselves, or they won't take help... what is there left to do?
2006-09-04 19:52:30 · answer #1 · answered by PreviouslyChap 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the severity of the mental illness. I am bi-polar (manic depressive) and in remission & stable. I have been in the hospital 14 times, but for the past 19 years I have had no need to go to the hospital. It most certainly is possible to get better. I am fortunate...my family members have not pushed me away...even when I was hospitalized. Of course I take my Meds because I most certainly do not want to go where I have been. To put it mildly it is pure hell & the more love & understanding you give a person with mental health issues, the better.
However, there are different types & different levels of wellness for this illness, which by the way is a brain disease (anybody ever had an illness in other parts of the body...the heart, pancreas , gall bladder, thyroid, appendicts, etc?). For me it is a chemical imbalance in the brain & there are Meds to help with that. But it is very important to get the help of an MD and a therapist you trust & who LISTENS to you. Again, I am very fortunate because my treatment team is excellent & I attribute my wellness to them, plus my desire to get better & so cooperate with them as they cooperate with me.
However there are people with this illness who simply do not want to admit they have a problem, do not want to get help, so they go on their way wreaking havoc for everybody else...& don't understand why people can't be around them. They can be dangerous to themselves and/or others. In that case you have to intervene to see that they get help by hospitalization & hope & pray they will some time realize they really do need the help. Sometimes it has to get pretty bad for that to happen & sometimes, unfortunaely, it never happens.
In my case, I am well enough to help others who are not yet at the place they'd like to be with their illness...but will make progress toward it. As someone above said in thinking they should just be put away, that is not always true at all. There is a lot of stigma & prejudice about mental illness & I would like for people to come out of the dark ages & realize it is not like it use to be. There is much improvement in the understanding & treatment of this disease & hopefully there will be more & more.
I could go on & on, but think it's time to just hush.
2006-09-05 03:57:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what people, govt, doctors or human right activist may say. Only a family who have someone with mental illness will understand the gravity & the pain of living with mentally ill person, I suggest mercy killing in all such cases as the mental process can never be reversed & the family dont have to undergo pain & trauma. Mental institutes are also of little help as behind the curtains one does not know how a patient is treated. Infact the patients may be illtreated out there, they dont deserve this.
although killing an innocent is bad, but under such circumstances you are actually doing good by giving him freedom from dependancy, go for mercy killing if you country permits it.
2006-09-05 03:01:59 · answer #3 · answered by El-Nino 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, first off, you have to remember that someone with a mental illness cannot help it. It's an illness. No one asks to be sick. Dealing with someone with a mental illness is always hard. It can be very frustrating and make you want to pull your hair out at times. As for pushing them away, that's difficult to answer. Are you in physical jeopardy? Will this person harm you? Or are you just so frazzled at how to deal with them you would rather shut them out than try? I'm sorry, but this is something you are going to have to look deep in your heart to find the answer to. Is it worth hurting them just so you feel comfortable? Or can you love them enough to put yourself out there for a time so they can be close to you? The answer lies within your own heart. Good luck to you.
2006-09-05 02:56:36 · answer #4 · answered by CrazyLady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real? Have some humanity and support them.
Medication is so good and you can control most psychiatric illness.
Mental Ilness should not be treated as something dreadful, it is no different to a physical illness. It just needds treatment.
My advice would be for you and your family to go talk to a shrink and get some help for your self so that you can cope with it.
One day it might be you who has a mental ilness, would you want family and friends to walk away from you?
I wish you well and hope you do learn to cope and love this person.
2006-09-05 02:59:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
It is never right to push away a family member for mental illness unless the very wellbeing of the entire family is threatened. At that point it may be better for the patient to be institutionalised so that he/she does not become a threat to itself or society.
2006-09-05 02:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by ancalagon2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being around some one with mental illness can be very tiring.You may not be able to deal with this situation. Not everyone can. But try not to let it affect your relationship to this person. It is a sickness and can not be cured only medicated. But most people with mental illness can lead pretty normal lives on the right medicine unless they are severly mental retarded or severly mentally ill.
2006-09-05 02:56:22 · answer #7 · answered by marilee w 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one - very tough.
You can support and assist and aid and love that person as much as possible, however what do you do when that person is becoming a major contributor to the demise of your quality of life?
In my experience, when that person firstly does not realise they are ill and refuses to take their medication and becomes delusional, violent and unbearable to live with, it was, as you said a matter of self preservation.
2006-09-05 02:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it is not right to push away a loved one. unless they are an uber-immediate direct physical threat to you/the family, call police...get them stabilized, but remain family with them. they need the support and love.
seek a counselor...they have classes or coping sessions for families who have a member with a mental illness. you, family and person in need may all be helped.
2006-09-05 03:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by j-man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is for your protection....but I wish that my parents would listen to me and my family would care more about me. I am depressed and have intense anxiety at times. I have even had panic attacks several times! I wanted to be comforted and supported and cared for by those i thought loved me. I guess that if this person is so bad of a family member that they have to be pushed away wow that is sad...
2006-09-05 02:59:29 · answer #10 · answered by darkmatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends: is the mental illness one that can cause the family member to inflict bodily harm on you or themselves? If it's not and their illness has no outward effect on your body and mentality then yes, it is wrong.
2006-09-05 02:59:53 · answer #11 · answered by jo.jo_the_amazing_idiot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋