my son has a wife and he lives with me and she lives with her parents. but during the day they sit on my couch til late at night and lay across it too. then they order pizza and he buys x-boxes and rent movies and games. he gave me a 100 dollars to help with the bills. but he goes and buy her a car and set her up an account. now in a months time he has spent over 2000.00 dollars on them and only 100.00 in my home. would it be wrong for me to tell him to leave and go stay with her because he cares more about whats going on over there with her than where he lays his head at. i know he suppose to do for his wife but im his mother and if he is living in my home he should do a lot more than 100.00
2006-09-04 19:42:02 · 11 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
her father doesnt know they are married and they didnt tell him cause they know he would disapprove
2006-09-04 19:43:59 · update #1
If they want to play married couple then they need to get their own place... If they still want to act like children and life with each other's parents, then they need to act like that too..
They can't have their cake and eat it too...
My instincts tell me that they will keep freeloading off of Mom's generousity as long as they can....
If you are really afraid that they can't make it on their own, you need to be more like a landlord and less like mom. Charge 400 rent and confiscate belongings if he doesn't pay on the 1st of the month.
2006-09-04 19:54:20 · answer #1 · answered by Michael W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You:
"Listen. You are my son and I love you. But this living situatiuon has to change. IF you have enough money to go buy your wife a car you can afford an apartment. Now figure out if you want to say here and pay my rent, or go save some money living somewhere else., cause the rent here just got raised to 600 dollars a month. And it will increase by 500 dollars every month you camp out on my couch. Now quit being a degenerate and go do something with your life."
2006-09-05 02:46:53 · answer #2 · answered by ripperdear6766 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go tell her father whats going on. He needs to know...what if it was the other way around? Your son married and you had no clue?
If your son is married he needs to get a home and move into it.
As far as the money goes, your not having sex with him, she is. Need I say more?
Why is your son married at all? He needs to pack up his wife and go be a family. Its like he wants to have some of the perks of marriage but not the responsibilities that go with it. Its time he grew up. Tell him he has 30 days to get an apartment and move out. Then he and his wife can play their silly game.
You really need to talk to her parents. NOW. If it were my daughter, I'm not sure who I'd be most angry with. My silly daughter or the other parent who as a parent and an adult, should have known better.
2006-09-05 03:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by john d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.,Love is thicker than water they say.But that does not give your son a room to be messing around with you. Firstly,Your son is an adult that is the reason he took a wife and he should think of how to get a home for him self and live his dream life ,not under your roof. Secondly,He should have known that it takes more than my wife before getting married .Talk your son into moving out politely ( not to loose him because of women power)so as to take care of him self and his wife.But i have seen mothers who encourage their kids to get married under their roof and yet complain because they can not get money or they do not have time for them any more then they start to get jealous. Well, if this is the case, then is bad .If not let him make his home some where and that will make him strong .Like the adage says :We can never call mom or dad forever.
2006-09-05 03:07:39 · answer #4 · answered by lit22lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are letting them have run of the house. set some rules and stick to them. he is obviously old enough to be married so he is old enough to move out. it also sounds like you are a little jealous of his wife because of the money and time he is spending with her. give him an ultimatum about the money and then he can make a choice.
2006-09-05 02:47:07 · answer #5 · answered by burn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yuck, a leech. I lived through that and it will continue as is for as long as you allow it. It is your home, and even though he is your son he must learn to take care of himself and pay his dues. 100 bucks isn't going to cut it. Give him two options: hold your own or get out.
2006-09-05 02:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by andy.bones 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?! Are they married? Why the hell aren't they living together setting up their own house?
I think it is time he lets go of of his mother. - and you of him.
2006-09-05 02:45:47 · answer #7 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him if to chip in more around the house.
2006-09-05 02:45:21 · answer #8 · answered by CH CH CH CHIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw the bum out
2006-09-05 02:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by not_prfikt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get more money off the freeloader
2006-09-05 02:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Ted747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋