I will be 54 this month. I have a job I took when I was desparate after being laid off a few years ago. They work me to death for very little money, 1/2 of what I used to make. I have applied for jobs and gotten some interviews, but no interest. I am over qualified for the job I have, and it sometimes feels that I am being insulted daily.I am certainly treated like a whipping boy and am made to suffer when others need to relieve stress and I am handy. For a while, I could supress how hurt I feel about this, but is now becoming more and more difficult to continue like this everyday. I spend too many hours a work, and have neglected my social and personnal life. I am divorced with no children and my parents have both passed away more than 10 years ago.
I tried attending university extension classes at night, and I learned a lot, but have not made any friends.
I feel really isolated and I am really beginning to seriously hate myself. I feel like committing suicide.
2006-09-04 19:09:52 · 9 answers · asked by takemeawayasfarasyoucan 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Don't let others make you feel this way. Tell them how it hurts you when they treat you like that. Don't let them run over you. I hope you have better luck with another job soon. It's so hard to work at a place that you don't like and with difficult people too. I'm sorry your feeling so down. Hang in there. Things will get better.
2006-09-04 19:17:00 · answer #1 · answered by sweet.pjs1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I am a Geri-psych nurse. In the past few years, my doctors will not allow me to work in my field because of certain illnesses. I want so much to get back into nursing. I hated staying home so I actually took a very humbling job in a laundry-mat of all things. Talk about a cut in pay?? Holy cow, I had no idea how little people get paid for busting their butts washing others laundry, folding it, bagging it, and then the owners demand that you wash the floors every night before you go home. clean all the washers, clean the lint trays. and for what? Lousy minimum wage. Thank God I have a husband because I came home every night wanting to cry, My back hurt so much, my leg swelled. It wasn't worth it, but I wanted to help out with money somehow so I did it. Don't think you are useless and should commit suicide, that is not the answer. I know it is easier said than done, but be a little more patient and a better job will come along. Just keep looking. I promise, I will pray for you. God bless you. By the way, I am 60 and I feel I still have a lot to offer.
2006-09-04 19:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Memere RN/BA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have any savings then seriously consider quitting. Dont put up with being treated like this. I know jobs are hard to get in America right now but you don't need to be treated like this. Don't suppress the hurt. Let it out. What is the worst thing that can happen? They will fire you and do you a favor? Whipping boy is not in your job description. Just walk away and go and do your job.
If you are up for it- church could be a good place to make friends or perhaps a fun course at night school like pottery or a sewing class could work too.
2006-09-04 19:29:36 · answer #3 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the suicide prevention center now. Let me rephrase that. NOW!!!!
I work in a crappy job, get paid less than anyone else in the county and do more work and still I am here. WHY? I like what I do. But that does not mean you should settle. Friends will not find you. You will have to find them. And with your mood in the toilet it's no wonder it's hard to find friends. Get some help there my friend. Watch a funny movie. eat some ice cream. Relieve some "sexual tension" - if you catch my drift. But get some help. There's lots of help out there for you.
PS - It wouln't hurt to talk to god. Just because he does not answer doesn't mena he's not listening.
2006-09-04 19:29:23 · answer #4 · answered by ripperdear6766 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to remember, things will get better. Just keep applying for other jobs, something will come along, when the time's right. Might be worth it, if it's that bad, to just take something else, even if you're overqualified for that too. I don't recommend job hopping, but what's gonna happen is you're gonna get pissed and walk out or say something and get fired. Try going to places you enjoy. You like to read? Go to the library or a book store. Look in your city for clubs and stuff that meet regularly. Do volunteer work in your neighborhood at the hospital or animal shelter. Figure out what out what you really enjoy, and research what they have around you.
2006-09-04 19:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by tikitiki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear of your loneliness and frustration. If you really feel like committing suicide, please contact a crisis hotline immediately.
Next step, quit your job. No job is worth this much stress and anguish. I cannot tell you how few times I think about my past jobs. With each job past, I find great opportunities with my next one.
If you cannot quit just yet, tell them you need to take 2 weeks off for a personal leave of absence. Take that time to readjust, send out resumes, and work on yourself. You won't get hired somewhere else until you can present yourself as a well-rounded person.
Best wishes and take care.
2006-09-04 19:19:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest getting involved in a local church. I know that sometimes this is scary at first and it may take a visit to several churches before you find the right one but try that. In my time of need and loneliness I've found the Holy Spirit to be a great comforter. If you are interested in finding out more, or you would like me to suggest a church in your area, please feel free to email me by clicking on my picture then on contact. I'm certain you will find the peace you seek in our Savior. His peace comes without a price to you.....think about it....open your mind to it....I promise it will be the best thing you've ever done for yourself. God Bless.
2006-09-04 19:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by A Christians Honest Question 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Even though I don't know what to advise, I kept coming back to this question. If you want to talk, feel free to contact me.
2006-09-04 19:24:33 · answer #8 · answered by mlamb56 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to my site and email, I have been where you are, please contact me and lets talk.......................just click on my angel and she will take you were you can contact me............
2006-09-04 19:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by mysticideas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋