Hello Answer friends,
The Dude needs your help big time. I just got my heart broken BIG TIME. No jokes, please and no JERKS either. I try to answer questions honestly, I ask the same.
The Question: What was the best way you got over a broken heart, if you were able to.
Official GF of The Dude hasn't fallen out of love with him. She needs to work out some issues on her own and The Dude knows that he is far from perfect. He wants to be with her, she wants to be with nobody.
So The Dude's heart is in pieces. The Cure is all he hears. Pictures of You is the most prevalent.
Your stories and experience are greatly appreciated. If I could give everyone 10pts, I would.
Misery loves company, that's for sure.
2006-09-04 18:57:45 · 12 answers · asked by The Dude... 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your girl must not have fallen out of love maybe that's just the best reason she could ever give to lessen the burden the separation would brought you. Maybe all she ask is freedom, some space to solve those issues she has on herself until she totally feels complete as a person. For she could never express love and give it totally if she is bothered with herself/identity, if she's incomplete.
The fact that she doesn't want to be involved with anybody just means that you still have 100% chance of having her back. Be patience and wait for her, because who knows she might look for you after curing all her wounds.
But If she ever did fall out and wants nothing but to extract you from her life. Then show your love.. let go. Because If you truly love her you would sacrifice your own happiness for hers.
Then move on. It would be very difficult I know. I guess you've already been into denial, you don't wanna believe the truth that she is yours no more and soon you'll suffer bitterness, anger, revenge until you forgive, accept and forget. There is no easy way to cure a heartache, only time would tell. but to make things easier even a bit, refuse to go to places you been through together, don't watch romantic flicks or hear romantic music, hide her photos, and be involved in what you love doing, concentrate on grooming yourself and being the best in the field or hobby you want. For sure your mind would be too tired to think of her..
Hope have helped..
Good Luck!
2006-09-04 19:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by Creine_Athena 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh I also had a broken heart like in July. My ex broke up with me all of a sudden. I was travelling for business so it was terrible. I couldn't stop crying at the hotel room and nb else was around to cheer me up. It was really like the end of the world. I couldn't eat for three days really. When I saw the food I wanna puke my guts out. But it's very true that the first three days are the most terrible time. after that, you gradually recover. but the heart still aches. and that also ruined my job. I preformed very very bad and was complained by my seniors. Honestly, for me, I tried to look for another guy. I know this is not the best solution, but it worked for me. Like I got to know some guys at clubs, and exchange numbers so that at least I got somebody else to think of. But of course, do not do stupid things^.^
2006-09-05 03:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I have broken my heart a lot of times but it always gets alright..It might be because I'm still 16..=p I just think that you should have your friends close and go out with them..Meet people(I don't nessesarry mean find another girl)just make new friends and everything and try to be yourself..
Oh...I don't know what to tell you..I just don't like seeing others like that.. =( Really sorry..
2006-09-05 02:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Elli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First give your GF time for herself. If possible send her encouragement letters/ cards....If you still care for and love her deeply (as you said you want to be with her) just show her you are there for her no matter what happens: a shoulder to cry on, a listening ear, a mentor and advisor if needed be. Do not yet close the door..........
But if worse comes to worse e.g. she tells it to your face that she doesn't want to be with you nor she doesn't love you anymore - at all.......... then you have to move on. Second step, find a hobby you would love to do with your free time, volunteer for any outdoor activity, travel, get busy with work, anything that would make your mind wander away from the past and away from memories of her.......Consider praying for a mended heart.
2006-09-05 02:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by yunesa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry to hear that. It takes a while to really be over someone you love. I guess you just take it one day of a time. I tried to busy myself with work and hanged out with friends. I tried to look for a hobby and that worked too. Take baby steps and allow yourself to go through the process. Dont try to block it out. You will forget her in No time.
2006-09-05 02:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi THE DUDE... m so sorry u have a broken heart...time heals all wounds... if u love ur GF then give her the space she wants...let her deal with wat ever she needs to deal with...go to a friend to talk to or try and occupy ur time... Hope all goes well for THE DUDE.. my best wishes are wit u...!!
2006-09-05 02:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Alice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Poor dude. My partner broke my heart over 5 months ago and it's still not fixed yet. It's takes time but it's different for everyone. sorry for you again hunny, just hang in there.
2006-09-05 02:05:56 · answer #7 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a sensitive person. Take time to heal and see what you can do to make yourself a better person. Everyone gets hurt in this life you are not alone. Even movie and tv stars get hurt. Keep the faith and better things will happen.
2006-09-05 02:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by dynamicDee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess you can try to distract yourself for right now. The best you can. I wish you the best, Dude. Good Luck!
2006-09-05 02:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by Drivliam 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude i'm sorry you have a broken heart, i hope she works out her issues and gets back with you
2006-09-05 02:32:42 · answer #10 · answered by geena_tanner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋