2006-09-04 18:26:04 · 16 answers · asked by cdub2601 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My daughter is 5 yrs. old and she is overly enrgized! she will not clean up after herself; toys, food, drinks!
and she helps herself to what ever she wants! she aslo like to try to sneak out of the house! we live in a trailor park and she thinks that she can take our big rottwieller dog for a walk, or go to the store! please help me! i'm very desprate!
2006-09-04 18:29:45 · update #1
That is something that we all face.. needless to say I have found that they there is no cartoons, video games, etc until the chore is done. Once it is then they are allowed to do one of their favorite activities.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-04 18:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom, you need to start being "MOM" and stop trying to be nice. Your daughter is only doing these things because you've allowed her to. Chances are, you are one of the moms who pays the necessary attention but nothing further than what is required. If she's not cleaning up after herself, it's either because she doesn't see you doing it, or you've always done it for her and she sees no need to.
If you want to honestly get her to obey a little better, start her off with a chore chart. At five, make it simple. Such as brushing her teeth, making her bed, putting her dirty clothes in the hamper, etc. Give her about five chores to do each day. Then give her an allowance. You'll have to sit her down and explain to her how it works, but it's pretty easy.
As for the walking to the store? That's just absurd. I have a five year old that isn't even allowed outside unless we are with him and we live in a very nice neighborhood. His 14 yr old brother isn't allowed to go anywhere either without checking with us. That too, comes from parenting. You have to teach children about "stranger danger", not going anywhere without mommy or daddy, etc. If she wants to take the dog for a walk, go with her!
This is pretty basic stuff honey, and if you don't get a handle on it now and do your job, it's only going to get worse as she gets older!
2006-09-04 18:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't pick up after her. Insist she stay put untill she puts her things away. Don't let her just run off to do whatever she wants, elswhere in the house without picking up her mess first. Use a firm but fair method. Praise when she does well and remembers, do a "time out" if she throws a tantrum. Try to stay indifferent to pleading/anger and don't counter it with your own.
PS if you can make a game out of it, DO! I love doing a pickup race with my nephew. We each use two toy baskets for cleanup and see who can get the most toys in their basket first. If he wins (which...suprise suprise, he often does. hehe gulible kids) He sometimes gets a sugar free popsicle reward or gets to choose what we do next.
2006-09-04 18:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by blandnamenotworthremembering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch the nanny and follow her lead. She addresses similar topics every week and every week every problem has the same answer.
Basically, you tell your daughter the rules of the house and she gets a star everytime she follows them. When she has collected enough stars she gets a prize of some sort. When she doesn't follow the rules she doesn't get a star or if she breaks the rules big-time she goes to the naughty chair.
2006-09-04 18:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a 5 year old just be kind and teach her then have a test if she pasts the test that will be good.But after the test and she doesn't know how then be nice two times then after just tell her that she had 100% on the test you gave her then tell her to clean her mess,If she needs help don't help her.
2006-09-04 18:35:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know how much you love her. Discipline, does not mean beating it means teaching. the more love you have the better teaching you can do, everything she has in her life was given in love. If she is acting unloving, you withhold the rewards o your love, not the love, just the rewards. ask her what her plans are for dinner, let her know you will be cooking for those who respect your love. works at all ages. no TV, no computer, no tinker-toys no Friday night out. the rewards vary by age. but always done because you love them and want for them to be a loving person.
2006-09-04 18:35:36 · answer #6 · answered by sllyjo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how old she is....2-3yr make it a game, 4-5 reward, 6-7 reason with her and then surprise her with reward but dont offer ahead of time because you take the motivation from her. 8-10 could be a part of daily chore routine.
2006-09-04 18:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by sassilass06 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe if you dont clean 4 a while she'll get tried or grossed out and start cleaning up after herself or take everything she left lying around and put it in her room or on her bed
2006-09-04 18:29:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By putting all of the mess she leaves around the house in her room. No matter what it is! If it's dirty dishes they go in her room if it's potato chip bags left on the couch they go in her room etc... See how she likes it!!!
2006-09-04 18:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by Not Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read Nanny 911. That's what I did. It really works!
2006-09-04 19:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Joy! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋