2006-09-04 17:55:53 · 38 answers · asked by specal k 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't really understand the out of wedlock sex/childbirth is a sin concept touted by many of the religious community.
1. If a newborn is a gift from God, then why is it a sin?
2. If sex out of wedlock is a sin, then why did God bestow them the gift of life if HE/SHE considers it a Sin? Isnt that rewarding someone for a crime? eg Murder someone and get a brand new Ferrari! ( and I am sure Satan cannot create life... if he could, then anyone could be Satan born!!)
3. Only some religions consider it a sin to have a child out of wedlock, NOT all major religions. Abortion is the act that is frowned upon by most religions, although some are more tolerant of it.
4. Bottom line... Sex and Child Birth is not a sin... if both are consenting individuals, KNOWING full well the responsibilities that come with the act of passion if a Child should be born. Being a parent without a certificate of marriage is not a sin, how can God bestow a gift on something he considers sinful and agianst his nature?
All the sin and wedlock shabang I believe are cultural, to protect young women from being preyed upon by irresponsible hormone driven men. This all happened many years ago, when women were not give equal opportunities and rights of education, work etc... these days women are more educated, independent and no more a shadow of men... so childbirth, wedlock and sex has nothing to do with the Divine, it is a choice made by a man, a woman and the potential parents to be.
2006-09-04 18:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tiara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's in the Bible some where. A mortal sin I don't think it is. But it's more beneficial to the child to have both a mom and a dad married. Think about that. How can people be so self centered and all about the sex and the pleasures of it to get pregnant that they forget the most important thing. Be married first then enjoy the sex and the pregnancy to have the baby. It just makes more sense to be married before having sex or children. It's even historical. Remember when the Clinton's said it takes a village to raise a child. Well even though they're left wing nut wacks they're right on that point. LOL.
2006-09-04 18:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Children are gifts from God, how could that ever be wrong?
The first thing that someone should be considering is whether the idea of sin is actually real.
If God is supposed to be perfect how could She have made anything or anyone that wasn't perfect.
Think about it. The idea of sin assumes certain things about God that seem highly unlikely.
First it assumes a God who is too incompetent to organize a simple educational field excursion and figure out a way to get all of the students home safely.
How likely is this that God would not be smart enough to come up with a plan for our salvation that is going to work?
It also assumes that God must have created us imperfect if we are sinners.
One might assume that God would be able to create someone perfect each and every time if he chose to. Assuming God is capable of this, then it follows logically that we must be perfect creations if we are actually creations of this perfect God.
Unless of course you are saying that God chose to create us imperfect.
If God created us imperfect then anything that may go wrong is Gods fault, not ours. This seems a bit illogical at best so I think that we need to assume that What God creates would have to be perfect.
If this is the case and Gods creations are perfect, then nothing that we can do could change what God created perfect and make it imperfect unless we think that we are more powerful than God is.
How likely is it that we the creation could be more powerful than the creator. I personally find this idea somewhat amusing, and a bit absurd.
Religion tells us that God is perfect. If this is true then it could hardly be logically for Gods creations to be considered to be anything less than perfect.
If this is the case then Nothing that we can ever do could possibly change this perfection that God willed, unless we were so powerful that our choices could override and change the will of God.
How likely is that????
Think about it.
The idea of sin is simple nonsense; a lie made up about God by religion.
Love and blessings
don
Source --- Course in miracles
2006-09-06 11:45:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each to their own I say. Everyone has different beliefs and morals that this is really an answer based on your own personal upbringing and also your life experiences to date. In my opinion it is not a sin... the most important thing is whether you can love and care for that child. In the ideal world or what is know to be socially acceptable, life has a sequence... Fall in love, get married, financial stability and then children. My view is that so long as you are happy, living life to the fullest, being the best person, friend, lover, sister, brother etc. that you can be then life is G double O D
2006-09-04 18:12:31 · answer #4 · answered by Dreamer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How would you think it would be for the child to not have both parents? Do you think it would be harmful to the kid? Studies have shown that children born out of wedlock are put at a considerable disadvantage throughout life. A person who brings this situation about has not only caused harm to another human being but to a human being to which he/she owes special responsibilities and trust. Doing damage to that can hardly be anything other than a venal sin.
2006-09-04 18:01:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Uh, yes! In all of the major religions I know, it is a sin. Extramarital sex, sex before marriage, and incest are all strictly forbidden. So if you have a child out of wedlock, then obviously one of these was done. Having the child itself is NOT a sin but having the sex part is a sin. Having the child just puts it out in the open for everyone to see your sin.
2006-09-04 18:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by The Prince 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I have one of those...and my child is AMAZING! People often ASSUME that parents that are not married are not together and cannot be a successful family. Now, studies show children born out of wedlock are behind the 8 ball...blah blah blah...how many marriages end in divorce?
If this happened to you, I would first hope that you are not taking becoming a parent lightly, and that you & your partner are very serious about life...IF not you shouldn't become a parent....IF so enjoy your family, and establish paternity legally!
2006-09-04 18:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by ogPOOH 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any type of sex outside of marriage is a sin, and is an act of either adultery, fornication or both, whether it produces a child or not. According to the word of God, Religion has nothing to do with it, there are many religions, Gods Law is not a religion, and without the laws, and statutes of God, "there is no law." The laws we use to judge people in our courts today, was first ordained and given by God almighty, the "everlasting".and was passed on down through generations, of course there are new laws and guide lines today given by man, and are changed day by day. but immoral sex, and having children out of wedlock is still a sin today, even as it was from the time God forbade it in the law which He gave to Moses in Bibical times to give the people.
2006-09-04 18:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
premarital sex is a sin...so yes, having a child out of wedlock is a sin. The only exception I can think of is if the girl was raped.
2006-09-04 18:03:09 · answer #9 · answered by Beth 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes it is a sin.
I have had three children out of wedlock, but guess what... God forgave me and God had blessed me greatly, and God forgives all the other millions of sinners that do the same.
However, it has been very hard raising my children as a single mother, and I truly understand why God's law considered it a sin because it has hurt me & my children in the long run.
However, God's grace is more powerful than any sin you can think of, and he forgives us of them.It is up to us to accept God's grace & forgiveness!
2006-09-04 18:03:27 · answer #10 · answered by erinjanae 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋