my girlfriend of 7 years just left me. She says she doesnt know who she is anymore and needs to find herself. its been 2 weeks and she is already talking about an overseas trip with her friends which i previously said she shouldnt do because we just bought a house and moving back down into town with her friends. Every other issue she had with me i have worked on and she even acknowledges my progress but just has nothing left to give to our relationship. I have backed right off and given her space like she wants. Is it possible she will clear her head in time and try and resolve things with me. I just cant believe that our relationship could end so fast with little if any warning?
2006-09-04 17:49:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am really sorry and hope things get better with it regarding your relationship with you gf. Right now she may just need some space and the ability to be with her friends but at the same time maybe it would be good for you both to go to counseling. I don't believe its the 7 year itch that made your gf leave - there are other factors involved as well. Just a matter of finding out what they are.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brillant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-04 17:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that she has been unhappy for awhile now in this relationship, and unfortunately, she obviously didn't communicate that to you. Seven year itch or not, it sounds like she wanted to hang up the responsibility of new homeownership, and possibly let go of the fear of committment, and probably other factors, and it was easier for her to walk away from it all. Hopefully you both have the financial stuff worked out concerning the deed to the house and so forth. You can try talking to her and really getting to know why she became so unhappy. If she agrees to it, why don't you two agree to meet up in 6 months and become reaquainted with eachother. Till then, let her go. Improve your social life by joining an organization or group or take golf lessons or volunteer at a soup kitchen. Let your soul heal and grow, and who knows, you may even meet someone better than her...in fact, I'm sure you will.
2006-09-04 18:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by nellie_3000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably will clear some things in her head and then realize that she left the man that took care of her or the man that was always there for her but you cant blame the issue on her friends or the fact that she needs a change....if she does decide to get back with you, just spice some things up in your relationship, maybe go out and do things you never did before....but if she doesnt come back to you just confront and tell her how you feel and what you would do to save your relationship....trust me it helps but only for so little time so dont waste it....keep us updated...
2006-09-04 17:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by lilruby052001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a matter of fact it's a five to seven year itch. Keep the marriage spicy,surprising and fun. Don't get comfortable and boring and you'll be fine,oh don't forget to laugh alot.If you're not married, the same principals apply. If your girlfriend had to find herself, she came into the relationship this way and this has nothing to do with the itch.
2006-09-04 18:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Donna P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly some women get tired of having the same penis for years and years. They want something different.You run out of things to talk about.It just gets boreing after a long ride.Maybe you should have an open relationship.
2006-09-04 18:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Unknown_1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as for the seven year itch i dont believe it, but i have no idea how to help you. maybe she will maybe she wont, you should talk to her and tell her that you are part of the relationship too and that you want to know how she feels then if she still cares about you then maybe she thinks that you have given everything to the relationship but she doesn't know what she has to offer to it and wants to find herself to know what she can give. but definitly talk to her about it before she leaves
2006-09-04 17:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by ParadoxZero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure whether or not I believe in it but my boyfriend does, he said it has happend to him before and he thinks I'm going to do it to him. I dont know. I'm sorry you're having to go through this.
2006-09-04 18:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by prtybrneyez1081 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she is ready to move on. You should respect that and let her go.
2006-09-04 17:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ACTUALLY . I THINK THE SEVEN-YEAR ITCH IS A SLANG TERM FOR A VENEREAL DISEASE
2006-09-04 17:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by stacypeacock1967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry guy....been there before.
2006-09-04 17:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by xxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋