People keep asking me why I don't have or want a boyfrined, I tell them because I am not ready for the drama of a relationship and quite honestly I am not ready to deal with the responsibility and emotions that come along with having sex; Worrying about std's, pregnancy and all that. Some people even question if im gay or something...just because I never had a boyfriend, but if that's the case I never had a dam girlfriend either. Im not gay, I love men, it's just that I want to wait untill I am truly ready and I want to be married. I can admit that im not ready for that step in life yet..im focused on going to school and reaching my goals before I do anything? What do you guys think? Am I being snooty and stuk up for feeling this way?
2006-09-04 17:48:36 · 31 answers · asked by StormyRain 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i don't think your odd.. i think your smart because i work in a doctors office and you couldn't imagine how many std's we deal with it sure shocked me... i've been through a divorce and the drama and etc... so i think you are being very smart you keep your head up because you have a good head on your shoulders... girl,, you have potential... reach your goal in life ... the other stuff will fall into place just keep your eyes opened and don't be blind... good luck
2006-09-04 17:55:40 · answer #1 · answered by babygirl29 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. You have priorities and you have goals you have to achieve. Everyone is different but that doesn't mean you're odd.
Don't worry about what people think. I didn't have a boyfriend till i was 23. It was my choice to wait til I was finished with college and got a stable job. And trust me, there wasn't any regrets at all that I waited all that time. Once you get most of your goals achieved, it'll be easier to focus on having a relationship with someone.
One more thing, when you finally decide you want to be in a relationship, i want you to know that, being in a relationship doesn't have to mean you have to have sex. You have a choice on whether to do it or not. If the guy really loves you, it doesn't matter whether you do it or not. He'll still stick around and be there for you, if he truly cares. If you're not ready, don't feel obligated to do it just because you're in a relationship. You'll know when you're ready.
I hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-09-05 00:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by ApRiL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO you aren't being stuck up or snooty. That's GREAT to hear that you are trying to be successful. A lot of young people DON'T WAIT then they wish they had because having a relationship and kids, std's and pregnancy pays a HUGE EMOTIONAL and METAL and even physical TOLL on a person and it's real hard work!
I think you sound like you are enjoying your life, your educating yourself with as much knowledge as you can before you settle down into a relationship. Those things are HARD to do along with trying to go to school and reaching your goals.
GREAT JOB! Thumbs up for this question. Hopefully people will see it and be encouraged. Life is NOT ALL about having a relationship and having kids. I think it's about trying to be successful and reaching your goals. However, having a wife/husband and kids ARE NOT a bad thing, it's hard work and if you can do it, ALONG with school and trying to reach your goals, I think those people should give themselves MORE credit than they think they deserve. Having that said, It's different for everyone! Everyone learns different levels. They mature differently, slower/faster than others. So I think it's completely AWESOME that you are doing what your doing! *Wink
2006-09-05 01:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women like you are rarely available, you are doing the right thing and you are perfectly normal and fine. You have came a long way and don't start listening to others, just because they are in the pot, that does not mean you have to join them, because when the pot get's hot, you will either get fried or you will either jump out of the pot, what i mean is, don't get caught up in a relationship that you may later regret it. Since you are a virgin, be extra careful, the whole world of not respectful men will forever crowd over you, many will want to make you there prize, many of them will want to take your virginity and that, you must protect until you married the right guy who will respect you and care for you and will love you always. Continue to aim high and prepare your life for the future, you have a whole life ahead of you, God bless you.
2006-09-05 01:11:23 · answer #4 · answered by samoy y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're odd. You're definently a rare, but not odd. I think that it is a very good thing that you haven't gave into having sex especially at your age. I wouldn't worry about if people thought I was stuck up. Hell, sometime I wish I was still a virgin myself because it is alot of drama having to deal with relationships and sex. Just keep on doing what you're doing and don't worry about what everybody thinks.
2006-09-05 00:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by prtybrneyez1081 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have to say that I am impressed. Despite what others are going to say you have done it right. Understand, that it is what you can't have is what you want most. Hopefully you will meet the right man that will repect you for your decsion. If he doesn't accept that then he doesn't respect you. This is going to be arrogant but I am a good looking guy and have been with my fair share of women. The one I am marrying in 07/07 is the one I don't have sex with. Stay true to yourself and he will stay tru to you. THIS IS THE TRUTH!!!
2006-09-05 00:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by micheal777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be proud that you born as natural human. Age of 20++ its time for thing of sex but not good age have a sex. Want you have a sex the time you enjoy are less than 30 minit after that you feel. but your future fail.Some people will tell can but you must thing your education.
2006-09-05 03:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by Asokhan N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, not at all. You're actually being very wise. Most people don't have the self-restraint to do what you're doing these days.
Keep it up! All the naysayers are wrong :P
Virginity is a one-time gift, make sure you give it to the one who counts.
Also, remember if people are giving you a hard time...You can always go out one night on the town, find a bar and become like them, but they can never, ever become like you again.
2006-09-05 00:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by Startoshadows 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
hey there you left me an answer on one of my questions. I don't think you got my point. well I left you a little note at the bottom of my description. I said that I was going to get him a gold necklace written in cambodian because he is cambodian. I wasn't asking for people to give me opinions on what to give him according to his race. He always wanted one like that. So im going to get him one. Come on now. I'm half thai for crying out loud And I we speak the same native language..I really hate explaining myself..grrr well have a good evening. Bye!
2006-09-06 01:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by blah blah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should be proud of your choice and decision. Don't let people tell you otherwise. I went through the same thing as you and I am older. I am 32 and still a virgin. Only difference is that I have a boyfriend but I told him no sex--I gave him my personal rules. Really, you don't have to explain yourself to anyone, just stick with your decision and be proud.
2006-09-05 00:52:27 · answer #10 · answered by Miss J 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋