hi if any body having good head then plz advise me what shall i do. i love a girl and she also love me. i know i am not her first love. but now she is mine and she only think of me. i have fallen inlove with her since last 8 month. now i am a lecture and earning rs 11500 as monthly income. but she want that my salasry should be more then 20000 and good software job before marry. so what shall i do. i dont want to loose her. she is my life. without her i will die. can any body ans me what shall i do. but u should remeber that getting a software job in reputed comapny is not a easy task because they are asking for software exp and i dont want to show fake exp?
2006-09-04 17:29:34 · 36 answers · asked by kailash 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is hard to understand you. No do not fake your credentials get the job you can being honest. If she does not like what you make then she is not worth it. If she only cares about money you should not love her she is trashy. You should dump her and find someone else. Do not be ashamed for what you are. If you are honest and hardworking you should be proud. A nice woman will love you. This woman is trash. You do not want her anyway. She just wants money not you. You can do better. You will never be happy with a materialistic woman. She will never be happy and she will leave you for a man that makes more money because that is what she cares about and not love.
2006-09-04 17:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by adobeprincess 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If i were you I would ask how she came to figure of 20000. If the difference in your current salary and that amount is material in nature you can either work out a plan so you can look towards saving for that with your current salary and get there in a little while longer than you would with 20000. That should convince her....if not....ask her to work too.
Marriage is based on respect and fulfilling each others dreams NOT to satisfy one person's whims despite how besotted you are with her. It would eat away into your subconscious mind and soon you will just be dedicated your life to fulfil her material whims.....NOT a happy situation...
2006-09-06 04:40:52 · answer #2 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can give you a bit close to ur question
i also love a personwho is also a lecturer the case is i cant marry him coz is already married but to tell u
if i get chance idefinitely ask him also to get a bit more salary than he is earning its not that im in love for money but its for our own happiness to live happily without much hurddles due to financaily week so you can understand now that y your love want you to earn more money till
you said you r in love since eight months by this time you would have know each other very well so you know better about her what she really want from u
and secondly a software is not the only job where you can earn more than your current salary so tell her that yuor goning to earn more but in different way not just sw engg
all the best
2006-09-04 21:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by immine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she is right when she asks you for a better job. Software job is very common that's why she has suggested you that job. Explore the world, you would find better paying jobs. Girls seek financial security and truth is you cant sustain with your current salary. The girl is not after your money but she wants you to rise further in your career. All the best :)
2006-09-05 16:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by shan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she does not love you it must be cleared from so many answers
but now there is a question for your position my dear friend.if you understand the meaning of love , then you should leave her without any regerets. still you are not able to leave her then it is not love it is some other thing like
If you love some one because you think that he or she is really
gorgeous -
then it's not love - it's 'infatuation'...
If you love some one because you think that you shouldn't leave her
because others think that you shouldn't -
then it's not love - it's 'compromise'...
If you love some one because you think that you cannot live with out
her touch -
then it's not love - it's 'lust'...
If you love some one because you have been kissed by her -
then it's not love - it's 'inferiority complex'...
If you love some one because you cannot leave her thinking that it
would hurt her feelings-
then it's not love - it's 'charity'...
If you love some one because you share every thing with her -
then it's not love - it's 'friendship'...
but if you feel the pain of the other person more than her even when
she is stable and you cry for her... that's 'LOVE'
If you get attracted to other people but stay with her without any
regrets... that's 'LOVE'
If you let her go knowing that she has to go but she doesn't want
to... that's 'LOVE'
where are you decide yourself
what you are going to choose it is you life
my suggestion is that you will loose the diginity of love by choosing her she does not exist anywhere in the field of love . she love your money and career
2006-09-04 18:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by KrishanRam(Jitendra k) 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you hardwork. You shurely get a software job. Hard work is the key to success. Then u can marry her. But i don't think that, she is really loving you. Anyway you can get a good job. For the success of every man a lady is behind.
2006-09-06 00:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u will have 2 forget her bcz she doesnot love u she loves money. if u can get a job in software and marry her with 25th salary then she wants 30 from u. if u can't success then she try to find 50 earning guy. bcz if any one love a guy then she can live smoothly on salary of 11.
2006-09-06 06:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by bibu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my opinion will be different from everyone else's: i think that she sees some potential in you that maybe you do not see. she is not saying that you have to be rich to marry her, but to wait until you get more experience and your career going before you jump head over heels. maybe she is just looking out for your best interest as weird as it may sound and seem. i think that she wants someone to depend upon with bills, kids and so forth and not to struggle 5 years down the road.she just wants you to gain more knowledge, to maybe grow up some and then to settle down. in the mean time give her a promise ring or if you reallt are serious about her an engagement ring.
2006-09-04 17:41:20 · answer #8 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should try to convince her that money will come with time, and that you want to marry her now.
You can try to get software experience in your spare time, voluntarily without pay, so that you can get a software job later.
Don't think you will die without her.
2006-09-04 17:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by Cormac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want, but she's very shallow and she's not in love with you. This kind of woman will not make you happy, she will only use you and live like a parasite off of you. There are many more deserving women out there.
2006-09-04 17:41:03 · answer #10 · answered by mj_indigo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋