We've been dating for about a year and planning to move in together in a couple weeks. Still, he won't say "I love you" or call me his "GF". I know it sounds old-fashioned, but I really do want the title. He says I'm his "baby" and I do believe he is not cheating around behind my back. Any advice? How do I approach this topic without sounding like some crazy commitment hound? I'm not saying we get married tomorrow, but I don't want to move in together and try to build a life with someone that can't even say he loves me!
2006-09-04 17:26:21 · 17 answers · asked by Easygreasy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
definately, move on.......good luck
2006-09-04 17:28:06 · answer #1 · answered by slaytanicmobilization 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it may seem like a lot of girls are obsessed about guys doing stuff like holding their hand in public, saying that they love them, etc. (no offense to u or anything) but they just want proof that they are a real couple with their boyfriend.
just ask him straight out, or hint about it
trying saying stuff like that u love him... and wait for an answer. if he seems uncomfortable, them pounce and confront him. otherwise wait and try again another time.
write him a sweet letter asking why he doesnt call u his girlfriend or say certain things to u. cover it up with compliments and make it gushy if u want.
maybe ask his or ur friends to talk to ur BF about ur concerns. he may see their questions in a different way than when u say it.
if all this doesnt work for some reason, then gently dump him, explain why, and move on. if he tries to get u back, they try the relationship again if u want another chance with him too. otherwise, just find someone else and move on.
good luck!!
2006-09-04 17:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by Dancerette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a year.. it doesn't make you sound like a 'commitment hound'.. moving in together is a big step. You should be sure of where this relationship is going first... You might be better to move on.
2006-09-04 17:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jerry R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has lived in the UK he might use this as a subtle way to signal that he really likes you. Especially if he is of Nordic (Scandinavian, German,..) origin. You just don’t say things like that there unless you do have some "love-like" emotions for that person. I would say he is "hooked". So take him slowly to the next level. Good luck!
2016-03-26 22:34:18 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd call it quits. You've been together long enough for him to be able to declare his feelings. If its not love by now, then he might not be someone that you want to move forward with.
I think that you should just approach the topic openly. Tell him that you need to talk about something that's important to you, and just flat out ask him what he feels for you. You don't really want to beat around the bush with this. Blunt wouldn't be bad.
2006-09-04 17:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by ncladams 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it is time for a cooling off period.it is not old fashioned to expect him to refer to you as his gf. maybe you need to approach him with what that he thinks that he is to you? bf? you do not sound like a crazy commitment hound you only want to see where you stand in this relationship.go for it girl. you will only know the truth and the truth will set you free, good luck girl
2006-09-04 17:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by tracytracyspikes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys are like that. They don't like to schnoozy woozy and say "I love you" etc. It's a type of person. But then, what's wrong with being a commitment hound?
2006-09-04 17:34:52 · answer #7 · answered by blind_chameleon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run, don't walk. I had a BF like that and it just got worse over time. I spend 5 long years hoping for the title and it never came. Move on. He's disrespecting you.
2006-09-04 17:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Margarita 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats exactly the way I act towards a girl and you act like her , But I don't want a long term relationship with her ,its a time sharing thing as I call it
2006-09-04 17:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by newjersey2112 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him you need to know where your relationship stands bfore you take that kind of step. Is this relationship headed someday to the alter. If not do you want to put that kind of time in something thats not going to go anywhere.
2006-09-04 17:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IF YOU FEEL THAT YOU ARE NOT GET THE RESPECT THAT
YOU NEED FROM HIM THEN MAYBE YOU NEED TO LET HIM
KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. BUT MOVING WITH HIM MAY NOT
BE THE ANSWER THAT YOU ARE LOOKING FOR. HE MAY
NEVER FEEL THE WAY THAT YOU DO, SO YOU MAY HAVE
A DECISION TO MAKE WHETHER TO STAY OR GO.
2006-09-04 17:37:38 · answer #11 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋