Ok, he dumped me three weeks ago, and has been trying to convince me to take him back. (yeah like that will happen)
He invaded my privacy by reading my journal, checking on my phone, and general snooping around / He said he hated living here, accused me constantly of having "ulterior motives" (did I spell that right) (and what the h*ll is that supposed to mean anyways?) said he was going to leave several times, and then got mad when I told him if things were so good elsewhere, then go!
Then he got drunk at a party, left me nasty messages on the voice mail, and came here, packed and left.
This is the second time we were together... we dated last year and he did similar stuff then, and broke up with me (now what WAS I thinking getting back with him?)
Ladies, have you ever had one of these?? And what did you do??
2006-09-04 17:14:37 · 23 answers · asked by Ree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i know exactly what youve been going through my man left me after he didnt speak to me for a week and im still confused but hey get over it cause like u said its happened before and dont dought for a second that it wont happen again the first time it was his fault he second was yours because u let him back and the third will be his because u cant take the same old bull shyt from the same person doing the same bull shyt over and over because that makes all men look bad and if you dont get out of the path hes trying to take you on u will never find another that can appreciate the real woman that you are.
2006-09-04 17:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by K-Dubb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there done that. First time shame on him Second time shame on me Third time you asked for it.
Leave him for good. Don't answer his calls don't even talk to him. He will eventually get the message your are done with him.
My ex tried that and more. We were together off and on for 5 yrs. When I came home and found a woman in my bed I went nuts. This all happened just 2wks after I took him back for the 4th time. This time I called my dad and packed his sh!t and left it at his moms driveway. We just dumped every thing. Heard lots of stuff breaking. It really felt good.
2006-09-05 00:21:55 · answer #2 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've never had one of those. But girl run far, far away. Don't take him back again. First time shame on him,. Second time shame on you. He's done this twice he'll do it again. Poeple should really learn to hold their tongues in anger. It is unaccusible for him to leave you nasty messages. He obviously doesn't trust you if he's snoping through your things. Without trust, there can be no relationship. It's time to move on.
2006-09-05 00:21:30 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The anwer here is pretty clear....................tell him to go peddle somewhere else. Drinkin,vile language, leaving you at a moments notice only spells big trouble for you down the line. Respect is the name of the Relationship game. If a fella doesn't have respect for you when you are single, chances are you will get even less when you get married to him
2006-09-05 00:25:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much just answered your own question in the 1st paragraph. Don't get back with him.... Cause if I had a bf like your's, me and him would be fist fighting like Ike and Tina all day everyday. Personally I never did a bf like that and I am hoping that I would never do.
2006-09-05 00:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by chocolateheaven84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i did and he was begging me to take him back talking about he's changed and what not but I thought about it and realized that I deserve to be treated with more respect and trust so I left him alone and you should do the same.
2006-09-05 00:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by blackbeauty919 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend. you said it yourself you were only with him twice. what the hell were you thinking?i think that he is only using you a good thing. he is a real loser. what the hell is he doing snooping around? and furthermore if he hates being there he definitely has personal issues with not only you but women in general. change your locks,your phone number get rid of this overbearing creep. you are much to trusting. you sound as if you are much to good for this type of creep, kick his *** to the curb,get on with yourself girl good luck.
2006-09-05 00:31:06 · answer #7 · answered by tracytracyspikes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds either very insecure...or the other girl dumped him. Forget him!
P.S. There is ALWAYS another girl, when the guy tells YOU that you have ulterior motives!
2006-09-05 00:18:48 · answer #8 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I did forgive my guy twice... well it wasn't worth it to begin... wondered what got to me... anyway, later when i tot it over... decided that though i love his company but his reaction is way too much for me to handle... i went out of his life and got my life back on track again...
Ask yourself what you wanted so that you know where to start and what to do... trust me... not worth taking a guy back into your life if he thinks that life is just a game... which i think your guy is doing...
Get him out of your life and do what you had always wanted to do for a change...
You can doo it... Cheers...
2006-09-05 00:20:44 · answer #9 · answered by MC Helper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like insecurity, jealousy and possiveness. It already has turned to verbal abuse. don't wait until it turns to physical abuse. Run, don't talk to the nearest exit. He doesn't want you to move on with your life. He still expects you to wait when he gets dumped again and again. Move on, go on with life and be happy with the better life.
2006-09-05 00:27:06 · answer #10 · answered by Liz R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋