I don't even know if I would like sex very much. I don't like being touched by anyone, but have desires like any normal male. What can I do? I would not know how to have sex even. I have never had a girlfriend, well only some old ugly bittch who was drunk come one to me. What can I do?
2006-09-04 17:00:38 · 30 answers · asked by I know nothing 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was a virgin for 24 years before meeting someone very special, whom I married. First off, you can't get down on yourself. I know its hard when everyone around you seems to have someone special, which to me seems like the real issue here, and not the lack of sex. But you need to believe that there is someone out there, and that in turn will give you at least some measure of confidance as well as comfort.
As for the drunk who came on to you. Hell...I had my best friends wife strip down in my living room and beg me to have sex with her while I was drunk....so these kinds of things DO happen. Shake it off.
And as for being worried about your ability to perform....that is a worry I think that most virgins have at one point, I know I did. If the woman you find is indeed the right one for you, she will be very understanding of your virginity, as long as you are honest about it with her. Anyone who scoffs or laughs, while painful yes, isn't worth your time.
Lack of girlfriend? Get out and meet people, and I don't just mean the bar scene although that is definately an option too. I know its hard to do around work, but if this is really an issue for you, you will find time. Oh....and don't ask for sex....build a friendly relationship first....then let the two of you take it from there.
I hope this was of some help to you.
2006-09-04 17:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Seth H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow !! you should be proud of yourself! Not too many people can say that today. They seem to think it is cool to share it with just about everyone now days. I think you might have morals and values and that you respect woman. Added with the fact you are not very forward or pushy. Maybe even a little shy. No one know what to do the first few times. So you do what feels good. it will come to you naturally and woman tend to let you know. Your hands play a big role along with your lips the first few times also. maybe you have a friend that happens to be a woman, you could talk to. You could also watch some soft p*rn to get some hints. can you dance then you can.... well you get the idea and if you would like some advice write me. Good Hunting. Come on in the waters is really nice, just take my hand.....I promise it will only hurt for a second....HA HA
2006-09-05 00:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by tpepper22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what? You can live without sex if you have to, the toughest part, 18-25, is over. You've gone so long without bumping and grinding that you need to start with basics.
My suggestion is to forget about sex for a while. But do this: fill your social calendar so that you are around people at least three times a week. I don't care if it's bowling or playing contract bridge --anything! Try to make a couple of friends out of these social gatherings.
Try to build acquaintences, select the best as friends, and then have some laughs and relaxation. If you get a really good, really trustworthy friend, then discuss this face to face in person.
2006-09-05 00:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You obviously have a negative view of women. The first thing you need to do is start therapy on a regular basis with a mental health professional. I'm not trying to be mean, it's just that you post leaves several clues that therapy is the right call for you. Good luck.
2006-09-05 00:30:26 · answer #4 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to develop a meaningful and honest relationship with a woman. When you meet this woman, be honest with her and you will have no problems. Ever watched the "40 Year Old Virgin"? take some tips from that. Good luck!
2006-09-05 00:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're not sure you're interested why worry? When the time is right and the girl is right you'll be fine. Any girl worth being with will be understanding. OK part two of my answer is this, and please don't take offense becuase I don't mean any. If you aren't sure you're interested in sex with girls, is there a chance you might be gay? That might explain why you feel so uniterested.
2006-09-05 00:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by Gent Of Style 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go pick up a girl or date a girl u like and ask her directly once the relationship matures. Or you can consider dropping subtle hints to let her know you want her tonite.
2006-09-05 00:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by lemondevil88 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When you meet the right girl it will come naturally , don't stress to much about it , it will come naturally, Do you masturbate??? Also if you take drugs or anti-depressents or even drink alot that could affect your sex drive....
2006-09-05 00:05:11 · answer #8 · answered by cslynn1980 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell this to a girl friend and maybe she'll offer some pity sex. I had a guy friend who asked me to kiss him if he hadn't recieve his first kiss by the age of 19. Just my luck he got one.
2006-09-05 00:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
do nothing,just because your 29 so what,it will come naturally! it's not your turn yet and believe me when the time is right you will meet the right person and no one will have to tell you what to do,you will know! leave it alone! god will let you know when,good luck!
2006-09-05 00:06:33 · answer #10 · answered by G. kravitz 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋