I would like opinions and advice as to whether the following relationship can be saved. Last year, I came out of a long term marriage and met a lady coming out of a long term relationship. We both knew our former relationships had long been over before our break-ups. She presented herself as a very traditional "one-man woman" and said she wanted an exclusive relationship with me. She also made a big deal of being old fashioned and that she had only been with two men beofre me. I fell in love and we have been together for a year and I have been faithful to her. Now I found out that she has slept with at least two other men more than once in the last year she was supposedly exclusive with me. To make it worse, she slept with them in my bed while I was out of town. She lied at first and then came clean. I told her I forgive and love her but she seems unable to get over the guilt. She tries to find ways to blame it all on me. Should I forget it or keep trying? Please be kind.
2006-09-04 16:59:06 · 9 answers · asked by calvinci 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's not what you want. Think about it. If you made a list of everything you wanted in a woman, would you put on there #2: monogamous (but if she cheats once or twice, that's ok)? Don't settle. The REAL lady that deserves you is out there, but if you keep this knucklehead, you're gonna block the path for her to enter your life. Clear the way. She's trying to find you. I've been where you are. I got my King, but I blocked my own path a couple times before I got. As a matter of fact, I was chasing an idiot similar to what you have now. Stopped chasing, and... did you see the word fiance a minute ago? :) Cleared the path! Good Luck!!
2006-09-04 17:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better is SO relative.
In Rolling Stone Magazine, they once wrote, "There is no good or evil, only total corruption and futility." I don't know about that.
I do know that shared sorrow is half sorrow and shared joy is twice joy.
What's better for you?
Love? Money? Health?
These are the 3 influences upon one's life after the main survival concerns are achieved.
Pick one as the root of what is missing in your life and plan on increasing this root in your life until the tree of well-being sits firm in your soul.
Gosh, can you believe this crap some people write?!? Get a freakin fortune cookie.
Get up tomorrow. Do what you did today over again. and the same the day after that.
Either let defeat be your standard or start with a goal and succeed in achieving that goal.
Most of us live lives of quiet desperation and will soon be forgotten within 2 generations of our death.
Stop the internal dialogue and LIVE LIFE!
Okay? oKay.
"Life is a feast and most poor suckers out there are starving to death." MAME
2006-09-05 00:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by comedianwit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very simple for us to answer but wil suck for you! run dude run Lying and cheating will be a part of her all her life once a cheater always a cheater simply run , good luck
2006-09-05 00:06:17 · answer #3 · answered by freeby1011 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater, always a cheater.
Don't wait to smell the coffee.... run as fast as you can the other way. she's using you. she'll always find things to blame you for cuz she need to find excuses for herself. don't stay with her. She'll come home and one day you'll find that she gave you STD, and blame you for that also. STD - sexual transmitted disease
2006-09-05 00:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Liz R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear of your situation. I think she will be disloyal again, because I firmly believe once someone is a cheater, they are always a cheater.
2006-09-05 00:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by Margarita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is blaming you because of her guilty feelings. Although you say you love her, do you think you can trust her? Think about the next time you are out of town...will she be faithful or playful?
2006-09-05 00:02:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A cheater always blame the spouse, once a cheater always a cheater. move on
2006-09-05 00:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by soapfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who cheats on you?
Kick her to the curb and find someone new.
2006-09-05 00:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by YourAnswer... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget it
2006-09-05 00:01:10 · answer #9 · answered by nadaclue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋