Well, I'm just sitting here wondering why some mothers(and fathers) get so offended and judgemental when another chooses natural parenting for their own children. For example: breastfeeding, cloth diapering, co- sleeping, non- physical discipline techniques, not doing the "cry it out" method, finding a sling that is wonderful and using it to carry your baby alot, know what I mean? I just find it sad that a woman who chooses not to breastfeed might be insulted by another woman choosing to and being proud of her choice and commitment. I mean what is good for one might not be good for another but why judge? I'm not trying to suggest anything I just can't understand it. Any ideas................ ? (I'm a mother of two and as you might of guessed I am a big fan of natural parenting)
2006-09-04 16:49:41 · 11 answers · asked by 1hAppyMoM 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't get me wrong....... I'm not 100% natural and I'm certainly not arrogant about the natural things that I do manage to do. I breastfeed, have used cloth diapers (don't now), my baby sleeps with me 50% of the night after he wakes. I guess I just don't feel that I can judge other moms no matter what they choose and I feel extremely offended when I hear crap about choosing to and being proud of nursing, or not letting my kids cry it out, or whatever. Some of these choices are healthier and why is it wrong to be proud--- not arrogant though. I don't judge anyone for using formula or letting their kid cry it out. And I also feel that natural mommies can't judge other mother's choices and than demand not to be judged....
2006-09-04 17:16:33 · update #1
I dont know, I dont get it either. I wont go so far as to say I am into natural parenting to the extent that you are, but I use cloth diapers since they are better for the baby and better for the environment. Loads of people think I am nuts. I guess doing a couple extra loads of laundry a week just does not bother me. I wanted to breast feed, but it just did not work out for me as I did not produce much milk and had to supplement and my milk supply dried up in 10 weeks. Plenty of people made me feel very guilty that I had to bottle feed even though I dont feel I had any control over it. What can you do? I just think you should do what is best for you and your family and not worry about what other people think. I dont push my ways of parenting on to other people and dont want them to push theirs on me. If someone askes me for my opinion I am happy to share my views.
2006-09-04 17:08:09 · answer #1 · answered by sooz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No idea. Just go to Mothering.com and chat with other crunchy moms. That's what I do. I think it must be ignorance, because I think it's the most loving way. Maybe their not so 'offended' as they are ashamed that they didn't put in the work that we do. Throw diapers in the landfil, feed the baby powder from a factory, let them feel abandoned when they cry, etc. But that's just one crunchy mom's opinion.
2006-09-05 00:00:14 · answer #2 · answered by loira74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yesssssssssss! earth mommies untite! I also believe breast is best, and have had 3- 100% drug free natural births- but I have heard the most retarded things from people, and honestly I just think its people who have never been exposed to both sides of the situation. Everyone knows about mixing formula, plastic diapers and cribs, but many women have never seen first hand how much bigger, healthier, and happier natural babies are, so it makes no sense to them why we inconvenience our selves for the sake of our children, when they see theirs as being normal and fine. We know the benifits of the natural ways and they dont.. think of it as our little parenting secret*wink*
2006-09-05 00:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Empress - 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people get offended by the stupidest things...lol The only thing that bothers me is when people try and push their beliefs on someone else... for example the commando breastfeeding moms who act like you are murdering your child for feeding them formula, etc I personally think its great you are going the natural route especially if it works for you.
from a disposable diaper using formula feeding mommy of 2...lol
2006-09-04 23:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People look at me like I'm stupid as hell when they find out I use cloth diapers. They can't understand why in the world I wouldn't just buy baby wipes at the store? Why I don't leave her by herself more often so I can talk on the phone or watch tv? Because I don't want to and I don't think what's convenient for me is always what is best for my daughter and family. I have to listen to people tell me all the time 'you should just buy disposable diapers - luvs are pretty cheap- blah blah blah'! I never asked for someone to tell me how to take care of my daughter! I don't run around telling people to use cloth diapers or sew things like burp rags and baby wipes and such themselves. How could you not think it is rude to say things like this to someone?
Anyway that is just me. There are the crazy people from both sides of the road that like to argue over who is more right, and the people that know what they are doing is best for them and their family and don't care what other people have to say about it.
Personally, I don't think any one is more right than the other. What feels right for you and your family is what you're going to do. I just wish people would try to be more helpful when it comes to taking care of our earth. If you're going to use disposables - at least try to recycle the rest of your trash that can be recycled!!!
2006-09-05 00:07:56 · answer #5 · answered by .*AnNa*. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, i like what you said here. i understand. i have 1, son now age 9. i did breastfeed him up to age 3 or 4. he was lactose. i loved it. i got to hold him and be close. you get the great mothering feeling. i never did the cloths diapers yet my mom did to us when we were growing up. a lot of peoples methods or parenting are going to be different. the way they are raised i guess.
tash
2006-09-04 23:57:51 · answer #6 · answered by tash 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me get use to it. it does not matter what you decide to do with your child someone somewhere will have an opinion on your parenting abilities! why can people not mind there own business is the right way to ask that ? the answer is opinions are like *** holes everyone has one and they for some reason have to use them.
2006-09-04 23:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by dydy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. and I'll bet your kids are happier for it too. I really don't know why sme people get so upset at those of us who don't believe a baby should cry for more than a few seconds. Perhaps they feel you are subconciously looking down on them. However, I did smack my kids bottomswhen they were especially bad, and do for my grandkids as well.
2006-09-04 23:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just in people's nature to be defensive and judgemental. sometimes its guilt too.
2006-09-04 23:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by Mina222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im also wondering like you!
2006-09-05 07:53:50 · answer #10 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋