My ex left me to live with a black female. He's white? We have kids togther and I think it's very confusing for them.
2006-09-04 16:47:44 · 17 answers · asked by trish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it's an issue really. Diversity is a wonderful experience, and even though your kids may think it is weird, you or your ex should explain to them that the new woman is a person just like you and every other white woman. Embrace this opportunity instead of using it as an excuse to push her away.
2006-09-04 16:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by magz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think there's nothing wrong with interracial dating. I am Asian and my boyfriend is white. My family loves him and his family loves me. I think the real issue here is not with the relationship your ex has with his new girlfriend, but the broken relationship between him and you. I know that if I were in your shoes I would feel quite lost and unnerved by the possibility of raising my children alone because their father has left me for another woman.
2006-09-04 23:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lumburger 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't be confusing, although its a little different, there is nothing wrong with it. It is actually good for your kids so they get to know other race's before they grow up so they will be alright with the world living together and not be racist. (its not good for them that he left you though) i am sorry to hear that I'm sure its been very hard for you and your family ⥠⥠â¥
2006-09-04 23:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by mary lynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be confused about why your husband left you. That is a natural, difficult and never resolved concern, but I suspect it has nothing to do with his new mate being black.
Please do not project your confusion onto your children. Young minds tend to blame themselves when the family breaks up. Tell them that s*** happens, and although confusing, it is not their fault nor yours.
Mochica
2006-09-05 00:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with inter-race dating. If he left you with the children you had together that doesn't make him very much of a man does it..
2006-09-04 23:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by aintlovegrand78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interracial dating is fine and its actually not bad for the kids. It exposes them to a different side of life if he's still involved with them. Other than that they may grow up one sided and that's not good.
2006-09-04 23:53:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sangue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see what teh big deal would be? She is a person like anyone else. Your children should be more confused my dad leaving mom and living with another woman more than dad's girlfriend is black! I don't think her color should have anything to do with it!
2006-09-04 23:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH IT, AND THAT NOT THE
REASON THAT YOU ARE UPSET, BECAUSE IT SHOULD
NOT MATTER WHAT COLOR SHE IS, YOU AND HE HAVE
KIDS, AND THAT SHOULD BE THE IMPORTANT PART
OF WORKING IT OUT WITH HIM. SO THAT THE CHILDREN
ARE NOT CONFUSED. YOU ARE UNHAPPPY THAT HE
NOT WITH YOU ANYMORE, HE YOUR EX. SO IT SHOULD
NOT BE A PROBLEM. UNLESS YOU LET BE ONE. BOTH
OF YOU ARE ADULT. SO FOR THE KIDS SAKE, BE
ADULTS AND PARENTS. NOT CHILDREN.JUST A QUESTION
IF SHE WAS WHITE WOULD YOU BE AS UPSET OR NOT.
2006-09-04 23:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a personal thing everyone is different. I don't think it's wrong and I don't look down on people that do it it's their chose, but for me myself I don't believe in it.
2006-09-04 23:50:11 · answer #9 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Inter-racial dating is fine.. but leaving kids is not.
2006-09-04 23:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by awesome_eo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋