last night i got home at 1130 but my mom thought i came home at 2 and has been shittin on me all day about it, she wont belive me. and shes been askin me to help out around the house all day but everything i have done shes told me ive done it wrong..like i put my dish and fork in the dishwasher..n instead of saything thank u, she starts yelling at me about how i put the fork in the wrong way. so then i was making plans on IM to hang out with my neighbors tonight and she comes it, starts reading over my shoudl and says I HOPE UR NOT GOING OUT UR NOT ALLOWED BECAUSE U DIDNT DO NE THING I SAID! OMG I FLIPPED i had done everrything she asked but she critisized it. and i needed to go out and get away from her so i went outside ne way...well she got changd out of her pj's and followed me out and then got all nice infront of my friends and said that i was bad and could come out..but i stayed and she got mad, went inside n called the cops on me..who didnt do ne thing cause my mom went gunzo.
2006-09-04 16:43:52 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i'm 16...and she and i get in fights..but not like this..she just flipped a **** today. it was really scary
2006-09-04 16:54:13 · update #1
and yes i have come in really late b4 but im only out with my neighbors theres like 10 of us who just sit outside and talk all night..no harm done. and my mom and i usually get along for the most part like i dont shut her out of my life and i tell her most things, but we do have our dissagreements. she was just like pmsing off the chain or somethign today.
2006-09-04 17:05:15 · update #2
There are always three sides to a story.
Your side, your mom's side, and the truth.
Evidently your leaving part of this equation out.
Sounds as if your mom cares enough about you that she wants you inside and safe at a certain time, and she is tired of you not listening and obeying the rules that she has set.
And she reached the end of her rope with you that day.
And if my child disobeyed a house rule and did what SHE wanted to instead of what the house rules are, then I would have been on her case also.
I will admit that it sounds like your mother went over board, and embarrassed you in front of your neighbors and friends. I do not believe that parents should intentionally set out to embarrass their children.
But you should be showing your mom the respect she deserves and doing as she asks.
Punishment in my house for going out after curfew is grounding and I make sure that grounding sticks. No ands, ifs or buts about it.
You had no business going out after your mom told you not to, it doesn't matter that it was next door or not.
Your mom is the one who is responsible for you. Your mom is the one who puts a roof over your head, food in your stomach, clothes on your back and money in your pocket.
Try showing your mom a little more respect, try using open communication with your mom, and show your mom that you can be a responsible teenager.
You would be surprised at how much freedom you can acquire once you prove to your parents that you can be a responsible teenager.
But the way you acted that night did not show responsibility, it showed a lack of respect, a lack of responsibility and a lack of maturity on your part.
2006-09-05 02:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good thing school is starting - work on your spelling and grammar. I gather your mother is a single Mom. We ALL go crazy for absolutely NO REASON from time to time. When you push she pushes harder and when she pushes you push harder. It becomes a never ending cycle.
Try putting yourself in her shoes... maybe she had a bad day at work, maybe she's just worn out - you also sound like you have a TYPICAL teenage girl attitude problem. WE ALL DID!! Maybe she's short on the rent, gas bill, 'phone bill...
Next time she goes off her rocker - try smiling, doing what she asks, no matter how ridiculous it is, and sit down and watch TV with her that night. She won't know what to do!!!
You get a lot farther with sugar than with vinegar (and I bet you HAVE come in at 2:00 am before, or she wouldn't have flipped.) Try to realize that she's WORRIED about you - no matter how mean she is when she tries to express it.
Cut her some slack - she'll cut you some right back and you'll wind up yelling a lot less.
2006-09-04 16:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by 34th B.G. - USAAF 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom, I'd have to say she has some real trust issues with you honey. Which means you've probably lied to her in the past and got caught. And based on the way you had total disregard for leaving when you were told to stay in, I'm not so sure I disagree with her. You are only explaining one side of the story and we don't know any of the circumstances surrounding it. I know it's not fair, and maybe she did over react, but she's your mother and when you show her so much disrespect, she's going to do whatever she has to do to keep you in line. Even if that means calling the police to get your butt back into the house where it should have been to begin with!
2006-09-04 16:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, we are kind of in similar situations except for the fact that you kind of get the freedom. I would tell you to listen to your Mom, but I know where your coming from, my Mom's the same way. My Mom won't let me hang out with my best friends hardly that's why I picked up a Summer job to kind of get away from her. I had a little more freedom and I got to do more things than when I was unemployed! Pick up a job and then your Mom won't be able to say anything to you because she's not going to have time to check on you on the job everyday! Just a suggestion though!
2006-09-04 16:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by T.S. Quint 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your mom is just overreacting. Of course, I am judging her on the basis of what you have said or what have happened since yesterday. Take a look at the bigger picture. Are you in general a good kid? Are you on top of your responsibilities and chores at home? How about your school?
I'll give you some tip. Next time you come home late and you think you'll be in trouble. Do not wait for her to ask you to do your chores/responsibilites at home. Initiate on doing the dishes or cleaning the house. Believe me, this will ease alleviate her maltreatment towards you.
In short, you need to balance your act....you can play but you also need to be responsible.
I think I deserve 10 points for this....;)
2006-09-04 16:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously, you're both a problem to each other. Maybe both of you doesn't want to be humbled enough to take all the blame and just be understanding. In your situation, since she is your mother you really have to be very submissive to your mom. If you are already at age, and it will come to the point you want to live independently you will not be feeling guilty anymore. you've made ur part as a child, and you will be blessed for not fighting back with your mom. Try as submissive as you could then start building a future for yourself. Gradually, your mom will change too for the better.
2006-09-04 16:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by mars 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a little older than you, and moms can be a pain, I use to get in trouble to. But let me say moms are not always right but they try. I no longer have my mom she has been gone for more than 3 years and I wish she was here to give me a hard time. I didn't see that at the time. sat down and talk to her, let her know that you know that she loves you and cares, I am sure that if you do that she will listen do not scream at her, show her that you are an adult and that will get you a long way----------GOOD LUCK
2006-09-04 16:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the undertaking isn't you, it is your mom. Your mom needs to circulate to counseling, she has extreme themes and she or he merely likes to hate and *****. perchance in case you point out the be conscious counseling to her, she would be in a position to in all probability have a cow besides. i visit grant you a technique on the thank you to handle her. Everytime your mom starts off appearing psycho and adverse, tell her you do no longer relish the way she is behaving and go away the room and visit a distinctive room (or go out of the abode) until she cools off and then come decrease back, if all is wonderful. try this each and every time. She cusses at you or says crap, tell her "i do no longer relish the way you're behaving" and go away the room. do no longer stay there and hear her crap, she is talking crap because of the fact somebody is there to hearken to her! So in case you go away the room, then she would be in a position to't talk crap because of the fact no person is there to hearken to her. See what i'm asserting? additionally, while you're out in public (say like the mall) along with her and she or he starts off getting mad and talking crap, then what you do is you go interior between the retail shops the place there are human beings present in front of you and she or he would be in a position to finally end up following you and this way she would be in a position to embarrass herself. Watch the look on a shoppers or sales rep facial features nd say sorry to them that your mom is being rude. such as you mentioned you have a loopy mom. i do no longer understand how a candy and style female such as you got here out of that witch. i became was once a cashier and that i've got been given rude and nasty shoppers on a on a regular basis foundation, I end because of the fact of obvious motives. desire this facilitates!
2016-09-30 08:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes parents get so crazy with worrying about you that they forget what's really important, which is making you feel loved and you trusting your parents to make the right decisions for you. It sounds like your mom loves you but maybe she's stressed or upset about something and not thinking clearly. Next time mom acts kind of crazy like this, say to her: "Mom can we sit down for a moment and talk calmly about what's going on here, because I am confused about what you want me to do and what I am doing wrong". Good luck!
2006-09-04 16:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude im a mom myself and i think youre mom is psyco and needs to chill out .......tell the school conserler so you dont get in troulbe for being a nark the counser is bound by law to say somethin so you can allways pull the i needed to talk to someone bull...if she knows someone else knows how she treats you then she will have to chill her ****
2006-09-04 16:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by lismo2121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋