I've been having great times with my girl, we've had fun, we care about each other, and we never fight or argue, am I being TOO nice to her? She said she might want to break up with me because she doesn't want to cheat on me. She hasn't cheated on me, but why would she say this just because she might?
What am I doing wrong? I've been caring, loving, and very kind to her, and what have I done to deserve this? I don't know what to do!
2006-09-04 16:30:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, I have given her anything a girl would ever want, and she cant find someone better than me. What else can I do?
2006-09-04 16:33:53 · update #1
Everyone says she isn't interested, then why would she say she loved me, or better yet, say things she doesn't mean. Why go out with people if you aren't going to get married, and devastate so many men?
2006-09-04 16:38:51 · update #2
You did nothing wrong. I personally thinks she is a fool for leaving you, which she will learn the hard way very soon.
In the meantime, if I were you, break it off immediately. She had admitted that she is interested elsewhere. You are much better off with a girl that truly adores and appreciates you, that someone that is going to cheat on you.
2006-09-04 16:33:44 · answer #1 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ahhh hon...she's CLEARLY not ready for a committed relationship. It's wonderful that you were so caring and loving and kind to her - and that's the way it should be...but..that doesn't mean she is still going to be ready...if she isn't. If she isn't ready, she isn't ready and there is nothing you could do one way or the other to change that...It's not about you..it's about her. It's sad and hard and heartbreaking when two people aren't on the same page at the same time - it sounds like nobodies fault - and at least she is being honest...and really?...ya just need to let her go if she wants to...maybe another time or maybe another girl..but doesn't look like THAT girl right at THIS time. That's all.
2006-09-04 23:44:07 · answer #2 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship very similar to this one. The problem I had was that we were together for TOO long... I just got tired of it after a while. Perhaps she is bored of the monotomy, routine, etc. I'm not saying you're boring but depending on the length of time you guys have been dating and your ages, then perhaps this is why she feels the way she does. It's nothing about what you did. It's probably just where she is in her life and how she feels.
2006-09-04 23:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a really stupid thing for a girl to say to a guy who by all accounts seems to be treating her like a princess! Talk to her openly and honestly to find out the real meaning behind her statement. Maybe she's feeling too up on a pedestal, or that you're too good to be true. If she still thinks she needs to cheat, break up with her and move on to another woman who will treat you as good as you seem to treat her!!
2006-09-04 23:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by MegW12 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old are you? Teens are too young to stay in a one on one relationship for very long. You need to meet other people to learn about human nature and life. Don't take it personally if she wants to see what it's like to date others. There is plenty of time to find the right person. Meanwhile, have fun and enjoy your youth.
2006-09-04 23:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think that fighting in a relationship can be healthy. are you holding anything in? like not telling her when things annoy you or something? because if you are you should stop. you should be completly honest with each other and this will make you become even closer then you are now. if you dont know what im talking about then maybe you just arent ment for each other & it seems cruel but then there will be someone else for you.
2006-09-04 23:33:34 · answer #6 · answered by lb 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Alright, calm down!
You're not doing anything wrong at all. That's great that you've been showing love to her and you don't deserve this. It's just that she chose to do this, it was her choice; not her fault.
Forgive her.
Just know that it's not your fault, you didn't do anything, and it was her choice that this happened.
Do the same thing you've always been doing: showing her you love her.
Don't change anything about your attitude towards her even if she does break up with you.
2006-09-04 23:33:55 · answer #7 · answered by soapsniffer712 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is obviously afraid of a serious, long term commitment.
Sometimes us women take the good guys for granted but in the end we realize that all we really need is a nice, loving, caring guy to be there for us forever.
She probably just doesn't know what she wants yet and is confused. Give her some time to realize what she wants.
2006-09-04 23:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you know what dude, girls always say they want a nice guy, but they want to be maimed at the same time. you do the right thing, if she wants to let you go that is her loss. i KNOW you will find yourself another girl. so if this girl gives you a bullsh*t excise like that to break up, she is not worth half your drama. she might be fun and all, but she might have guy issues.
2006-09-04 23:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Eryc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may love you or confuse love with lust and she wants her cake and to eat it too! maybe you two are not on the same page and maybe she feels that she just does not want to settle down with you because she is young eventhough you are a great guy.maybe she has doubts about the relationship or maybe she does not want the relationship as bad as you do.
2006-09-04 23:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋