I met a girl online who works near where I work. Every once in a while we get together at lunch and go places like Barnes & Noble and we play this game like we don't know each other and are sitting down reading a book and she will give me fleeting looks up her skirt kind of like Basic Instinct. We do this for a while until we are both horny, but then we go back to work and back to our own relationships at night. We have not done anything else. Do you think this is strange or considered cheating?
2006-09-04 16:26:18 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you shouldn't be doing this. Technically, you aren't cheating on your wife but little games like these do lead to cheating, trust me on that one.
Please, stop with this childish stuff. Infidelity is not the answer to any marriage issues (or lack thereof) the two of you may have.
Think if you were vice verca in the position and your wife was doing this type of thing with another man, it wouldn't feel too good would it?
2006-09-04 16:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would it turn you own or p*ss you off if you caught your partner doing the same?
I think it's cheating !(Mainly because your on here asking this question like you feel guilty for acting in this manner Instead of talking to "your partner" about this .)
My husband would beat me or possibly kill me for doing something like what your are participating in.
Something leads me to believe this girl has an ulterior motive to be engaging in such a lewd act with you.You know you partner well enough to have a good idea about how she's going to react .This isn't just a game this brings up issues about your relationship.
(1) Honesty
(2) Trust
(3) Respect
(4) Love
(5) Commitment
(6) Understanding
Cheating in a relationship is and should be defined by the couple involved! The list above should be a guide...
2006-09-04 18:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by nighneev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I feel that is cheating. It is only a matter of time before, the the REAL act happens. So I would suggest you stop while you are a head. But if you are doing this now, then maybe you are just a cheater and don't need to be in a committed relationship!
2006-09-04 16:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not cheating but it will lead to cheating real soon. Instead of Barnes & Noble at lunch it will be a room at a hotel or motel.
2006-09-04 16:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sangue 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is considered a form of cheating - emotionally. I would not recommend continuing this as it could lead to more than just fleeting looks. Take my advice and pretend to not know her FOR REAL!
2006-09-04 16:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I could safely say that if my boyfriend were doing that I would be pissed. If it is something that you are keeping from her and will hurt her if she finds out then why should you have to think about it? GEEZ you must be a moron. Either break up with your girlfriend (b/c you probably don't love her if you're doing this) or do not continue with your little escapade. Just look at it as if you were in her shoes.
2006-09-04 16:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Heatha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's cheating if you're both in relationships! Anytime you're intimate (even lustful) with someone other than your mate, it's cheating! You're going to get yourself into a situation where something will happen before long. If you love the one you're with, leave this other girl alone!
2006-09-04 16:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by Lady J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not cheating, however it might lead to cheating. Try to concentrate on the people you love, and don't risk what you got for a fling that probably ends up after one night anyway.
2006-09-04 16:30:51 · answer #8 · answered by q127 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes l would say it is definately cheating.How would you feel if your partner was doing that to you. Coming from someone who has been cheated on l would be devistated if l found out my partner was doing something like that. Wake up to yourself l think you already know its wrong or you would tell your partner yourself.
2006-09-04 16:37:35 · answer #9 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is cheating. you have no business up anyone elses skirt or any other piece of clothing besides your wifes. why dont u play some games with her.
for fun tonight u and your wife should re-read your vows. if u have any doubt if u are cheating ask your wife. i have no doubt she'll be very clear if she thinks this is ok for her or anyones husband.
2006-09-04 16:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by psychpath64 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋