My wedding is in April and I am wondering who is actually supposed to throw the shower. My mom doesn'y feel like its "her job" and my best friend who is my maid of honor is not very reliable. I was always under the impression that the family did usually have one and sometimes the bridal party either helped or planned another. I'm not trying to sound like a brat I'm just curious because at this point i'm not sure i will get one at all.
2006-09-04 16:17:40 · 21 answers · asked by andrea 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It usually the maid of honor. But if your maid of honor dosent want to do it, then your mom should. She should be happy to most moms stick there noses into everything. lol. How about the grooms mother?
2006-09-06 00:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Mom to Isobelle 2, & Gavyn 8mths 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ettiquette wise a shower is never supposed to be thrown by close family like mom or sister because it looks like you are pleading for gifts.This is straight from any bridal magazine,site,or ettiquette place.Now their are some exceptions only two really your sister is your maid of honor or your mom is since neither is the cause it would be bad etiquette for your mom to throw you a shower.No one has to they are supposed to volunteer and since no one is volunteering you may not get one.I suggest talking to your maid of honor and bridesmaids and telling them that in order to have the bachelorette party which they are probably looking foward to or have metioned you first have to have a shower.Then see if they volunteer usually the job of a bachelorette party,bridal shower,etc end up on the maid of honors shoulders to plan that is why it is such a large commitment both finacial and emotionally to be the maid of honor.Usually these parties are paid by the combined funds of the maid of honor and the bridesmaids and usually all of them intend.Make sure you don't tell anyone they have to throw it or you could easily become the new talk of etiquettehell.com a website about people who have made really bad etiquette mistakes you also need to keep in mind that if said bridesmaids have to travel long distance or buy extra expensive stuff they may not have the budget to throw a shower.
2006-09-05 01:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by movin12006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry - you don't sound like a brat. It sounds like you're just trying to help your family and friends out.
You can have multiple wedding showers - I have seen as many as 3 for one bride. The maid of honour threw one, an aunt threw another and then there was one put on by her church. If your Maid of Honour is unreliable, than maybe your bridesmaids can plan one together. The church one tends to be if the bride or her family is active in the church where the ceremony is being held. If that isn't the case for you, then don't worry about that one. As for your mom, no, it is not her job at all. However, maybe if she has a sister or sister-in-law, they could do one or a future aunt from your fiance's side. You see, the idea behind showers is so that the bride can meet as many people from all sides of the family that you wouldn't normally see. It's a chance to get together and celebrate your engagement.
Now, just so that your family doesn't thin you're being pushy or sounding like a brat, I would discuss this with your mom and then she can pass the information on to potential people to throw you a shower. Hope this information helps and that someone steps up and plans you a shower.
2006-09-05 14:31:01 · answer #3 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's supposed to be the maid of honor and the rest of the bridal party, but now a lot of families will throw one for the bride also. I was just in one wedding where we did not have a maid of honor and actually a close friend of the bride threw a bridal shower for her! I would bring it up with your maid of honor and your mom-let your mom know that she could throw one just for your family if she would like or she could help out the maid of honor if she has other things going on. However, you are not supposed to ask for the bridal shower-they are just suppsoed to throw one for you.
2006-09-05 12:34:53 · answer #4 · answered by newjerseygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is the Maid of Honor that is suppose to throw you a bridal shower. As usually you pick your best friend or someone who who is very special to you to be your Maid of Honor. If she knows hows important and what an honor is to be even asked, Your Maid of Honor wouldn't even hesitate. Your mom and dad have enough expense with the wedding.
2006-09-04 23:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by kathy m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow, your wedding is in April - so you have about 6 mons before your bridal shower should be here. You have plenty of time to get this one figured out.
The person who holds it for you is the person who wants to to do it. That can be a sister, best friend, aunt, mom, cousin - who ever. So, you go and do your bridal registry any way and tell your mom to find someone to take care of it... But your mom should probably help and you maid of honor.
2006-09-04 23:25:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its alittle early to be worrying about your bridal shower but who throws it depends on your culture. It is supposed to be your friends in your bridal party. My daughter insisted on this although in our family, its always been aunts, cousins and sisters that threw the bridal party. Its absolutely not your mothers job, give her a break she's got enough to deal with. Its your maid of honors responsibility, but the rest of the wedding party can certainly lend a hand.
2006-09-05 00:12:30 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually the bridal party throws one and the mother helps like with games or organizing it. Is there anyone else who is excited in your family that wants to get involved? I'm usually the one who gets really excited about weddings and baby showers! If they want to be in your wedding they have to do something special for you right!
2006-09-04 23:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by denise r 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your maid of honor should be the one who heads it up but all of your bridesmaids should share in the responsibility. You could always help your maid of honor organize the shower, just to get her started.
2006-09-04 23:24:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lov'n IT! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The maid of honor. This is their responsibility. If you feel they are unreliable then you should of thought about this before you asked her. No offense.
Just bring it up to her in a casual conversation. This way no ones feelings will get hurt. Just ask if she has came up with a time for the shower or if she needs any help with planning it. Honestly it wouldnt hurt to help her if she needs it.
Good luck to you.
2006-09-04 23:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋