2006-09-04 16:17:08 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey cutie...
OF COURSE there are attractive women who are attracted to all sorts of guys. I've been told I'm attractive, i was the high school cheerleader blah blah blah... and the guys i have been MOST attracted to, they are the ones who are unsure of themselves.
Most guys are unrightfully cocky. They think they are the best, and they treat everyone accordingly. Even their own girlfriends feel the wrath of their *********! I was in a relationship like this. I felt like I couldnt measure up. Only after I broke free did i realize...that this kid was just scared shitless and put on the cocky act to cover it up.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE guys who admitt that they are flawed, who admitt to having insecurities. I love the deep, honest, open-ended conversations it leads to. I love being able to grow and discover with a guy who isn't cocky. It's wonderful. It means that the guy has accepted that he is not god, and that there is still so much to learn and see and improve.
Every human should be more unsure of themselves. If we all help each other out, point out each others strengths instead of weaknesses... we'll get somewhere in this world.
Find a girl who makes you feel great about yourself, but doesn't contorl you. Make sure that she doesn't say things like "you'd be nothing without me". Gradually, she will help you realize the amazing guy you are. And even if things don't work out, that confidence will stick with you.
Confidence is always sexy. ********* is not. EVery guy should have a balance between insecurities and self assurance. Find the girl that brings out the best in you, and let her show you how amazing you are and how much potential you have.
And sometimes, the good-looking factor doesn't matter. Plenty of the nicest girls i know are not good-looking. You don't need someone good looking to feel confident about yourself. Sure, every guy walking down the street with a gorgeous girl will automatically feel more confident and cocky. But when it comes down to it, will this good looking girl satisfy your deep emotional and psychological needs? Is there something beyond the pretty face?
Pretty faces are nice to walk down the street with. But they aren't necesarily the people who will change you from the inside to believe that you are indeed a great guy with great potential.
2006-09-04 16:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Me 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you seem to expect a certain gender equality here. that is not the case. and even if you got asked out or something, that women would be very self confident and probably too much for you to handle. ignorance and rejection is part of the job. you don't have to be loud or aggressive. just voice what you want to the girls. some will they say 'yes'. many will say 'no'. you can't have success without failure. be honest here. if you go out and ask 100 girls out, do you really think they all will say 'no'? you just want to avoid the rejections in between. sorry to say: there's is no fool-proof way to do this.
2016-03-26 22:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. Because humans are naturally attracted to things that make them feel good about themselves. If you are attractive, if you are confident and self assured then we will naturally be attracted to you. If you have that certain sparkle in your eye that shows. But if you are quiet, not confident and sort of depressed looking then we might not even know that you even exist and really would you want to be with someone who didn't feel that good about themselves. The saying goes: You need to love yourself first before you can love someone else. Because if you don't even like you, then how can you expect someone else to like you?
2006-09-04 16:23:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not? I would never date a man who is overly confident. If I liked his personality and we got along well then I would not mind if he had low self esteem, maybe I could help him feel better about himself.
By the way the guy that said girls only go for money is not true well for a lot it is but not all so don't believe that crap!
2006-09-04 16:25:53 · answer #4 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to polish my husband's ego when we first dated because he had very low self-esteem! I gave him confidence! Now he is an HR Director for a large mortgage firm and has developed an ego and confidence!
By the way, I know I am attractive!
2006-09-04 16:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by ladydragondale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...and that is the truth. A guy who isn't confident or sure of himself spells trouble and needs too much time and maintenance. Why should we bother ourselves?
2006-09-04 16:19:42 · answer #6 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure there are. its called the movies.
sory buddy. but the reality is women are full of themselves,
materialistic and shallow. havent u seen sex and the city.
women go for 2 things.
look and money.
if u got both. then ur gold.
2006-09-04 16:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. I pesonally go for the cocky ones. It ends up being a mess in the end, but it's what appeals to most women.
2006-09-05 05:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Attraction is strange phenomenon.
2006-09-04 16:18:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ishan26 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure there are. Lots of them. You just keep looking.
2006-09-04 16:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by AngiesHusband 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋