We just started a company togther and have many investment properties together. He said we can still do our buisness together but that we can't be together. How do I get over him when I'm with him every day?
2006-09-04 16:08:19 · 26 answers · asked by trish 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's about associations dear. You have to create new ones for yourself. I know it sounds silly, but throwing out perfumes that you used to wear with him and buying new ones is a beginning.
Get all new lingerie and throw out dresses and or shoes or handbags that remind you of time spent with him.
Create new traditions for yourself and your child during the holidays. Put the tree in a different part of the house. Maybe hang a wreath instead of a tree?
Rearrange furniture in your house so that you are walking different paths and looking at different things.
Start a habit of buying yourself a bundle of flowers once a week to have in a vase in the middle of your dining table.
Get new placemats and maybe a new set of dishes so you can feel all princess like when you are eating.
It is so much about creating new associations and eliminating the old ones. Claim your life back, by creating a new one for yourself.
This will help. Trust me, it will.
2006-09-04 16:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by NONAME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out that my my son's biological father was having numerous affairs during my 8th month of pregnancy. I feel your pain. I threw all of my time and energy into my new beautiful baby boy. I am happy to say that my son is now 17, has nothing to do with his biological father (his choice) and I have been happily married to a wonderful man for 13 years. Please remember that you and your child deserve to be happy.
It will be harder for you, since you have a new business together, however, with modern technology, try to do most of your business transactions if possible over e-mails, or maybe thru another party (secretary, etc.). I wish you the very best and I promise you will get thru this, as long as you realize that you deserve to be happy and allow yourself to move on one day at a time. If you just feel you can not do this alone, talk to a therapist, a friend, church.
2006-09-04 23:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by pav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk. If I were you, I will definitely ask him out from the business as a divorce term and carried on with the business without him.
Com-on lady, obviosly he does not want this relationship anymore, what's the point of putting up with him any longer?
besides, like you said, how can you get this over when you are seeing him every day together, but not together in heart and soul.
fired that jerk and live your life in the way you deserved most.
Looks like that is the only way you can do.
I am sorry it might has to end this way but, its not your fault, so protect yourself while you still can.
I know its hard, but this is life, settle your feelings, protect yourself and move on, life will still go on, but it will be much better without him IF HE HAD ALREADY DECIDED TO GO ON HIS LIFE WITHOUT YOU.
My prayers are all with you. Good luck
2006-09-04 23:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by condon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sorry to hear you are so blue..try a support group other than family..meet new friends...but as "divorcee" and luckily we did not have kids, though we wanted them..God never saw fit for us to have any..we have both moved on and remarried..he will always have a "special place" in my heart...after all we were together from dating/married about 16 years..I ended the marriage, for some faults of his and mine..just was not "inlove" anymore...I moved 2-3 hours away and after 5-6 yrs, have moved back...well i was nice and let him charge a few items at a local yard equip place and left the phone and lights in my name...to make a long story short, lately everytime i turn around, people are coming after me for $$$ on things that he used..rigth now i am about 650.00 in debt on account of him... moral of this..no matter what they say, its easy to have good intentions ..for a while they may do what they say...but lots of times the "other" person gets tired of the dealings with someone from the past...
I say look after your child...they did not ask for any of this and both parents need to take responsibility, but I would really think hard of cutting my losses, and see about getting out of your business together..just make sure to do it legally and make sure that you get what you are entitled to
It will get easier in time, and hope you meet someone that will treat you like you deserve !!
2006-09-04 23:26:46 · answer #4 · answered by iwrk4911 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sure could pay child support for the child.,for starters.I would get all the money out of the company,that I invested and ALL the other investment properties*******I would do whatever it took to dissolve the so called 'partner-ship. Good thing you found out what kind of person he is,Try not to be upset ,cause he is not worth your trouble. Every day ,that I was around him I would force myself to smile,(if it kills you) and be nice and kind.Play it out ,nothing will bug him more.Do not cry in front of him,
2006-09-04 23:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by Tinkerbelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is accept it and get on with your life. If you show the mature side of you and just give him that time to figure it out for himself, if you were meant to be together it will happen. It may be that being with him in the business world and in your personal life may just be too much for him. Cut him some slack and he will realize that 24/7 doesn't necessarily mean 24/7 You need a coffee break from your job, so give him a break from round the clock. Giving him that break you may realize that you may be better off without him. Being better off with out him as friends would definitely be better for the childs sake than enemies battling it out and making it a life of torture your your little one.
2006-09-04 23:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by Addy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He still has a responsibility to his child. Get him to pay child support or take him to court. Sell your shares of the properties and let the other woman have him. Chances are, he'll do the same to her when he meets someone else. You don't need anyone like that in your life. All you need is his child support money, and make sure you get it.
2006-09-04 23:14:52 · answer #7 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a very hard situation and I feel for you.Unfortunately there is no easy answer to your problem.It will indeed be twice as hard overcoming your feelings for him while you work together.Allot will depend upon your mentality.Try to minimize as much time as possible.Do not engage in conversation other then what relates to the buisness end of things.You might consider hireing someone to serve as a communication mediator between the two,and have seperate offices.Try to go on with your life,if hes not willing to be in a relationship with you.You will have to mourn the loss of this relationship and it will be tough,remind yourself that he is no longer the same person,the relationship no longer exists,it will take some time to heal so give yourself allot of patience and time.Try to open up your horizons get out and meet new people.Talk out your feelings with friends and consider proffesional or religious counseling...All the best !
2006-09-04 23:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has moved on then you must move on. If the investments are working out then stick with them because in the end it's to the best interest of your kid. If you move on, change your looks, present yourself as happier, let him know that you don't need him and find a man WAY cuter and better, then he will be the one looking at you with envy. No better way to slap a man in his face than with another man who's more handsome and "bigger" in so many ways.
2006-09-04 23:17:48 · answer #9 · answered by Cheyene K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there and did that! Trust me, get out of the business cause if he left you hangin in your personal life he'll do it financially! You don't wanna be caught holding that bag!
Your better off with your own business, why help his azz!
Plus if he left you for another chick, he'll do the same to her oneday! Believe me he did you a favor!
Another thing.....there is such a thing called: CARMA and down the road he will get his! Girl, life will go on!! He hasn't stopped his for you! Leave that DAWG to his own vomit!
2006-09-04 23:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by lilsiciliangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋