my dog died do you ever get over it?

Question

im so sad it seams like ill never get over it i was just playing this song she likes on the piano today andnow shes dead....

Answer 1

No, you never get over it, but you do learn to deal with it, and cherish the memories..
WHERE TO BURY A DOG
There are various places within which a dog may be buried. We are thinking now of a dog, whose coat was flame in the sunshine, and who, so far as we are aware, never entertained a mean or an unworthy thought. This dog is buried beneath a cherry tree, under four feet of garden loam, and at its proper season the cherry strews petals on the green lawn of her grave. Beneath a cherry tree, or an apple, or any flowering shrub of the garden, is an excellent place to bury a good dog. Beneath such trees, such shrubs, she slept in the drowsy summer, or gnawed at a flavorous bone, or lifted head to challenge some strange intruder. These are good places, in life or in death. Yet it is a small matter, and it touches sentiment more than anything else.
For if the dog be well remembered, if sometimes she leaps through your dreams actual as in life, eyes kindling, questing, asking, laughing, begging, it matters not at all where that dog sleeps at long and at last. On a hill where the wind is unrebuked and the trees are roaring, or beside a stream she knew in puppyhood, or somewhere in the flatness of a pasture land, where most exhilarating cattle graze. It is all one to the dog, and all one to you, and nothing is gained, and nothing lost -- if memory lives. But there is one best place to bury a dog. One place that is best of all.
If you bury her in this spot, the secret of which you must already have, she will come to you when you call -- come to you over the grim, dim frontiers of death, and down the well-remembered path, and to your side again. And though you call a dozen living dogs to heel they should not growl at her, nor resent her coming, for she is yours and she belongs there.
People may scoff at you, who see no lightest blade of grass bent by her footfall, who hear no whimper pitched too fine for mere audition, people who may never really have had a dog. Smile at them then, for you shall know something that is hidden from them, and which is well worth the knowing.
The one best place to bury a good dog is in the heart of her master.

Answer 2

I don't think you ever completely get over the loss, but there does come a day when you can look back and remember the good times with your pet. That takes time, though, and in the meanwhile, you may find that a lot of things remind you of your dog and make you cry.

Please don't let anyone tell you that it's silly to mourn your dog or that you should be over it in by X number of days. You have the right to grieve for your dog in the way that you need to, and it's not the same for everyone.

There are groups online that help you during this time. Some of them have forums where you can talk about your pet and your feelings. They really helped me over the rough times, and I hope they can be of help to you, too.

I'm sorry for your loss, but I'm sure your fur baby is waiting for you at the Rainbow Bridge.

Answer 3

Tough question... it'll take some time but eventually you'll get over her. You often spend so much time with your dog, and she's around so much that they become part of the family in every sense. Not only that, any affection you show her, she returns it with pure, unconditional love. Not many friends in the world will do that. As with any loss, it will take some time, but it will get easier. I had a tough time when my first dog died many years ago, I actually cried more than I did when an aunt died. Just know that you gave her the best possible life she could've asked for and that she's in a better place now.

Most importantly, don't try to forget her, remember fondly the good times with her, and the healing process will be easier.

Answer 4

Grief is grief ... person, animal, child, any living thing. When my husband died, people were always saying 'you'll get over it', however I found that the more realistic answer is that you'll get through it! Eventually, I've always gotten over the sadness of the lost one (animal or person), and have found it easier with time to remember the good things with a pang of sweetness rather than with the ripping of grief. Don't push, but don't let your grief linger .... it is possible to develop depression over any loss - even a job loss. If you think that you're not seeing the light at the end of the bleak tunnel, see a counselor. AND, most importantly, don't let anyone convince you that you must go out replace your lost dog .... you will know when you are ready to love something else, for themselves, for their own individual personality. Never look to a new pet as a replacement, simply another being who needs love.

Answer 5

When a person has a close attachment to a pet, it's very difficult to get over. Sometime you never get over it, but it just gets easier to cope with. My dog McKenzie, was put down 2 years ago, I still miss her. She was 14 years old. When she was 3, she had litter of 6 puppies in my lap. The vet couldn't believe that a dog could trust a human this way, but she did...she was my baby. God bless her little soul!
I hope your pain passes quickly, try finding a new little friend to love.

Answer 6

A pet is a member of your family. No you don't get over losing a pet. However after time the pain lessens and you will never be able to replace your pet but you can make new memories with another pet. It has taken us 2 years and now we are ready to find another member for our family. We still talk often of our little dog. We were fortunate to lay her to rest in our yard. We laugh about the fact that there were more toys buried than our beloved "Puppy". Just hang in there.

Answer 7

Get a new puppy ,and in a few weeks your old dog willl just be a pleasent memory.
I am old and have had many dogs in my life ,some i loved more than others
and i remember the special ones at times
like that was a really good dog
,,no more and no less
it is a sad fact of life that dogs only live a fraction of our lifespan
nothing you can do about that except keep getting new dogs.

Answer 8

You will "get over it" to the point where you can move on with your life. You will never forget her, and she will never forget you.

I don't mean to sound cliche, but life does go on. Hold dear to your heart the memories of the time that you've shared, remember her.

Keep playing that song, and keep thinking about her. When the time is right for you, bring another in to your heart and home.

You'll see her again some day.

Answer 9

I want to express my sincere sympathy over the loss of your dog. I can not put myself in your shoes or your sorrow. Only know that when I loss one of my cats or dogs it was like the lost of your own child. (I had them cremated and still retain the ashes).

Reality is that we are all born to die. The main thing in life is to move on and when you feel the time is right, get yourself another dog. Ofcourse this dog will never have the same personality traits of the dog that passed away, but you will grow to love your new dog.

I tell all my patients who have lost a love one, human or pet that you really will never find closure in life pertaining to the loss.

Something every day that you see, smell or experience life in different ways you will always bring back the memory of your loss. This is very natural. So don't expect to find closure. (I know some psychiatrist say, "you must find closure"). I don't agree because our daily life experiences don't allow you to find closure.

What is important is that you realize the reality of your loss and move on in life. Don't allow it to get you in a state of depression.

Times always has away of healing your pain and grief. Plus I am sure when you are ready, you will have another pet in your life to love.

All the best to you.

From a clinical psychiatrist

Answer 10

I'm so very sorry for your loss. It is a devastating thing.... the death of a loved one.

Honestly, no, you don't ever get over it.... you manage, you get through, you go on.... but you never get over it. She was a big part of your life..... she will always be a part of your heart.
You can and will love others but that loss will be with you always. Just remember, the unconditional love that she gave you..... you are indebted to her to give to another pet. Otherwise, you would not be honoring her. Pass the love on!

I wish you only the best.