There is this girl i have been going to school with for about 3 years, we have been best friends for about 2 years, then last year we started going out.. but about a month ago i cheated on her... and she broke up with me. We fought for about a week and now we're back to best friends. She tells me she still loves me with all her heart. and i love her too. but i asked her if she wanted to start a relatioship again and she said no because what i did (cheated on her). A couple of weeks i asked her if i should just move on from her and start seeing other people and she said no wait for me. So i told her i will and its been about a month and she still dosnt want to start a relationship with me... I think about her every night and, when ever i see her with other guys i get really jelous and start thinking she wants to be with someone else and im just her back up incase things dont go her way with other guys.... What should i do????
2006-09-04 15:43:29 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like its just not meant to be, thats a tough thing to overcome because you can't put her on the spot beacuse its your fault that your in the mess. I think you should tell her, that shes really hurting you and that if she doesn't start showing you she wants to be with you, you are going to move on. If she gives you ish about the cheating thing, tell her you already apologized (which I hope you did lol) and that if shes going to hold it against you forever, then it's never going to work anyway.
2006-09-04 15:50:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mere fact that she asked you to wait for her when you were about to move on with your life without her is a very visible manifestation that she still cares for you. May be, she's just not yet through with the heartaches that your cheating on her have caused. Give her some more time to think about going bak to your arms.
Assure her that you won't cheat on her again because you've realized that you really love her and that you don't want to lose her again if ever she gives you another chance. Show her that you really care for here by being more thoughtful and romantic. Give her little unexpected presents when there is no occasion at all. Call her or see her as often as possible at her convenience.
Don't be affected when you see her with other guys. May be, she's just trying to see how you will react to those scenes. Or may be, she's examining herself if she really can move on without you. But whatever her reasons are for going out with them, give her the benefit of the doubt and just wait for the right time to know whether or not she's going back to you.
Don't pressure her too much for any fruit that was forced to ripe is bitter and tasteless. Just like in a love relationship, when someone is forced to act, the outcome may have a negative impact. She's buying time from you, so sell her that. Good luck.
2006-09-04 22:55:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ruzzo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont mean to be rude but you cheated. If you felt the way you felt why would you do that to her? I am sure she really feels the same way about you too but maybe she feels that she cant trust you. Think about it , if you told her what you just wrote her first thought is gonna be then why would he cheat? Is he weak minded or has no contraol over himself , and when is he gonna do it again. You have to give her some time to fully get over it and if you love her how you say youll wait, as far as her holding you for back up, you never know . All you do is wait and see. I wish you the best and hope it works> I also hope you have learned your lession. When you love somone you dont cheat on them, that is my opinion. Good luck
2006-09-04 22:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Robyn D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that is what she is trying to do. When you cheated on her, you hurt her deeply. Maybe she is doing this, so you will see her with other men. If you love(d) her, why did you cheat? All I can say is tell her that if she doesn't make a decision soon you will move on. But you need to understand that people don't heal fast when the person they love goes and finds someone else WHILE still in a relationship that you so called 'loved her' in. And if she decides not to have a relationship again with you, its your own fault, and hopefully you learn from your mistake. Good luck. ;)
2006-09-04 22:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dude; it's obvious that she still doesn't trust you and is testing you out.
Try to regain her trust; and have an honest hard-to-heart talk with her. Clearify that you want her and what an happened was really a stupid mistake. And your sorry for that, but you are not going to spend a lifetime apologizing for a stupid mistake. Ask her straight on whether she is committed to you, if she is...then make sure you REALLY convince her big times that that will never ever happen again.
2006-09-04 22:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ankhesenamun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right you may be the back up. You need to determine if this girl is really the one for you or can YOU do better. I mean why did you cheat? Was something lacking in the relationship?
2006-09-04 22:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Lady G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, pal.....you are blabbering. You cheated on her and once a cheat......always a cheat! Learn from this exeperience and move on. I can see nothing but trouble......you screwed up! If she was that "wonderful" then you wuld have no cheated on her. Shame! Shame! I, for one, have no sympathy for you!!!!!
2006-09-04 22:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have her trust you . if she were to go out with you shell probably have it in the back of her mind that you going to do it (cheat on her) again.the fact is she still probably doesnt know if she can trust you again .
2006-09-04 22:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by tina2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she really loved you i mean unconditionally then she would commit and spend her life with you. This girl is playing games with you and just wants you to believe she cares and loves you. Maybe she is already involved.
2006-09-04 22:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by cupcake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on with your dating and stay her friend. If you're meant to be together, give it time and it'll happen. Good Luck
2006-09-04 22:47:09 · answer #10 · answered by noneofyourbizwax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋