My boyfriend and i broke up this summer (he cheated) and im still in love with him. We go to the same college and ive see him twice. We hooked back up the first night and then it was ackward because im so in love with him and i dont know if he is just using me. He tells me he's crazy about me and misses me but what do i do. ive tried moving on but every guy i meet i just think about my ex. I dont call him but when i drink i somehow call him. what am i going to do. Should i just try to be friends with him? Should i just forget about him and wish i never meet him?
2006-09-04 15:27:37 · 20 answers · asked by jenks1545 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should take the answer behind door # 3. Men can be lying manipulative bastards when it comes to getting sex. I know I'm a guy. You believe in your heart that you love this guy that doesn't call you, stands you up, cheats on you and lies to you. And you love him b/c why exactly?
Maybe you love the idea of being in love and somewhere inside you you think you don't deserve such a great guy. Excuse me, great guy my a**. Real true love is like the first smell of apple blossoms in the spring. It leaves you breathless, not lonely. This is the hardest advice to take, but you should just move on with your life.
When I was in college this girl broke my heart and I mean baddd. Hell I had already bought her an engagement ring b/c we had been talking about getting married for weeks. Then I walked into a party she was going to with her sorority and I caught her making out with this other guy. I felt like crap "Why God, why me?"
Then a friend stopped me from going out one night to drink my sorrows away and convinced me to go to a meeting at the campus radio station. I ended up getting involved there. And while it still hurt to think about her, I didn't really have enough time to wallow in my misery. So do whatever it takes to fill up your free time. And if you do drink leave the cell at home.
2006-09-04 15:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by lifhapnz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at your own thoughts about him. People connect with one another very readily, but love is much more difficult. Love is altruistic. My understanding of love is that you want the other person to be happy. How do you actually feel about him? If you are attached to him, that will pass with time. Realize that your feelings only arise in dependence of your mind. As your thoughts change your feelings will too. Look at how many people start as lovers and end up hating one another, or vice versa. Look at other relationships you have had, like with parents and how they changed. If you focus on your thoughts you will see how they change. Then you can decide what to do about them.
Regarding the fact that you call him when you have been drinking, you can try a few things.
1) Tell a friend not to let you call him.
2) Unplug your phone at home and lock your cell phone in your car.
3) Don't drink (as much?).
Good luck. Emotional rollercoasters take us in so many places and yet none of them seem to make us happy. I hope you find yourself feeling more peaceful soon.
2006-09-04 22:33:36 · answer #2 · answered by David 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there! Don't try to be friends with him. It will make it so hard to get over him because he will be around and doing all those cute things that made you love him in the first place. Just walk away. I left a guy after 7 years. It was hard. I was miserable, but at the same time, I couldn't move on until I walked away completely without any contact whatsoever. I got over him pretty quickly after that, met my husband, and life is grand. It will get better. It will get a lot better.
2006-09-04 22:32:00 · answer #3 · answered by oklasoonerpoet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I promise you life will get better. I was dumped in January by a guy that I was totally in love with. I thought I would spend the rest of my life with him. I just found out that he got married on August 19th-Seven months after he dumped me. Anyway...I got through it. I surrounded myself with friends and family. I bought myself a cat so that I was never alone-You think about them the most when you are alone. And now I have met this great guy and I don't think about my ex. I don't think I could ever be friends with a guy who cheated on me. He is not worth getting upset over. You will meet someone who loves you and only you...I promise!! Cheer up girl!!
2006-09-04 22:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by ohiogirl27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not deal with him anymore because he has cheated on you and once a cheater always a cheater. I know that it is hard to let go because when your in love it does not matter what anyone says, you are still going to want to be with this man.
The best way to get over this boyfriend of yours is to get another man. Get a man that is going to respect you and someone that you can trust. Do not move backwards, move forward.. Never go back to your mistakes...(Good Luck)!!!!!
2006-09-04 22:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by Vicky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to stay friends with him. But think about who is calling whom. You say you call him but does he ever call you. If the answer is no than try to move on. It may take some time but things will get better and you'll find someone you like better then him.
2006-09-04 22:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by Cris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that drinking doesn't impair judgement......It allows you to express your true feelings and emotions. And no life never get's better, it's always the same. It's all just an illusion when you think it's better or worse but it can never be.
2006-09-04 22:34:59 · answer #7 · answered by Zebra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe learn from it. Learn what a cheater sounds like, acts like, sweet talks like. Learn what you did to allow it to happen. Don't let it happen again.
This guy just knows you'll obey him and he'll use you because he can. I'll never buy anything in Nieman Marcus, but I love using their toilets, they are clean and pretty and I can usually crap really hard in them too. Are you a toilet? Sounds like he thinks so.
2006-09-04 22:32:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex just broke up with me and iam still in love w/ him and he was cheating try to be his friend and if he says no then tell him all he is a b***** and u are over him and you will never want to talk to him again
if you need to talk to anybody email me dvshrtn@yahoo.com
2006-09-04 22:31:27 · answer #9 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I should just forget about him and wish I never met him
see you answered your own question
2006-09-04 22:31:10 · answer #10 · answered by rsist34 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋