Is it necessary to send a written thank you when staying at someone home, even after giving an oral thank you in person?
Isn't it also proper manner to send a written thank you for a gift from someone, even though they stayed at your home?
2006-09-04 15:21:54 · 16 answers · asked by cheapcanuck 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
yes if it's genuine and from the heart. not because you feel duty bound to do it
2006-09-04 15:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by mescalin57 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this depends on how close to that person you are. If you are best pals than just an oral thank you would suffice. However if you are just friends where you occasionally meet for dinner or do other group activities together, then yes, a nice written thank you note would do wonders for the future of that friendship.
The same double answer goes for the gift. It depends on how big and how unusual the gist was and again how close to that person you are. It may be a big gift because they felt like they had to pay back for letting them stay in your house. In that case, a small thank you note would be a nice gesture. If you arethe best pals and you know each other's ins and outs then nothing is necessary unless you both have formal personalities.
2006-09-04 15:36:19 · answer #2 · answered by Tulu C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, a written thank-you should be sent when staying in someone's home.
The second question is a bit more tricky. A gift given by the guest is a form of a thank-you, so then the host is sending a thank you for a thank you, which typically wouldn't be done. Perhaps in this case, a less formal phone call or email would be appropriate.
2006-09-04 15:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by I'm_Bored 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A written note is a very proper gesture for any acknowledgement to someone.
Whether you were given a gift, a stay over, support during a hardship, or another act of kindness, it is always in good taste and a touch of class on your part.
Go ahead and send a thoughtful note...doesn't have to be long, just a thought from your heart.
2006-09-04 15:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation, some people lead such busy lives! You might think of taking something nice, like some homemade soap in a basket for the hostess affordability permitting. It is nice to think of someone in that way, but it is not to be expected. You can't expect people to reciprocate with a gift or written note because that is what you think they should do or they think you should do. Then again some people are plain clueless as they were never taught manners because their parents lived in a skanky upbringing where they weren't taught such kindnesses. Take it for what it is worth. You will learn the differences in people from this experience, whether you are the giver or receiver. Another nice-ity would be a wonderful basket of fresh flowers with a "thanks for the hospitality" card attached, if you think of it, and can afford it, do it, from the heart. A BIG BASKET from their local florist!
2006-09-04 15:40:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proper mannors would dictate a written note in both cases, be it that you are the person who stayed or the host who recived a gift of a person who stayed in your home. However, today not much importance is placed on these things, so f you are worried about appearing rude if you do not, please dont. If you do send the notes, however, they will remember percisely how polite you are and will be more willing to invite you over on a return trip or in return for their stay in your home.
2006-09-04 15:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by mother_of_bonehead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A written thank you for the hospitality is always welcomed by the receiver. A thank you for the gift is always appropriate.
2006-09-04 15:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
Dear John / Mary
Just small note to say what a wonderfull evening James and I had at your place.
Love
Jane
xx
Ps. We must meet up for lunch sometime.
2006-09-04 17:23:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-06 10:18:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the hand-written "Thank You" is common courtesy. You can never show too much gratitude. Just don't expect t he other party to reciprocate with their own "Thank You". We all set our own standards for ettiquette. Wouldn't it be nice if the whole world set their standards higher. I say Do IT!
2006-09-04 15:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. In both cases a small thank you note would be considered correct etiquette , not to mention it takes only a few minutes of your time yet the kindness/thoughtfulness remains in their memory.
2006-09-04 15:25:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋