We have been together close to 7 years, not married and neither of us have kids. we each live in our own home (we each own) and we spend 3-4 nights a week together , we are considering moving in together. We are concerned the changes that may take place may not all be good ones.The time we spend together now is truely quality time, we wonder if the time together will become routine rather than special as it is now. after 7 years I do feel there is something lacking in our relationship but we both fear that we may loose the special quality we have now, as my boyfriend has said "if it aint broke why fix it". we have heard from other couples that when you live together they sometimes become "ships passing in the night" are there any other (current or former) 2 houshold couples out there? and how did it work for you?
2006-09-04 15:15:28 · 10 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My opinon from the outside...he's right. Not broke, don't f*ck with it! Enjoy eachother...go to dinner, go on vacations, entertain each other. Honestly, when things are meant to be a certain way, they will be that way without your consent.
2006-09-04 15:19:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been in a relationship now for nearly 3 years and we live 2.5 hours from each other. We do spend weekends together and talk on the phone nightly. But due to family responsibilities and employment we must stay were we are at present. We are getting married next May 20 and after the wedding we are still going to have to live in different cities for a while. I earn a pretty good living and have been at present job for 17 years and have most senority of all my peers. My fiance has interest in two separate little businesses and cannot leave them at present. I have tried to talk her into coming to live in my hometown as my mother, granddaughters and eldest son live there. Although she gets along with them all at present she does not wish to give up her hometown. I have tried to explain that she could retire for a year of so and we could manage on my earnings but she is very happy with her career at present so I respect her for that. My grandparents lived like this for many years and I believe and am convinced that our marriage will last just as good as theirs did. Good luck to you and your partner in deciding on living arrangements.
2006-09-04 15:29:52 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 7 years, come on! It's time to move in or move out. When you live together that's when you really know whether or not you really love someone and you really learn to appreciate them. A response like the one your boyfriend gave you only means that he wants you there whenever he needs you but doesn't want the added responsibility. He obviously wants you, but also wants to live as a single, you can't have your cake and eat it too. Think about it, 7 years is a long time to find out you've been wasting your time with someone who is afraid to make a lifelong commitment with you.
2006-09-04 15:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by chula 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to tell us that you believe that you two living together can be better than that you now have?
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"sometimes become "ships passing in the night""
SOMETIMES...?????
you're 40 and 44...
how much have you seen it different?
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I'm not a current or former 2 houshold couple...
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the one household couple that I had, well, i don't intend to attempt that again in this lifetime.
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May change my mind tho.
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I'm divorced 10+ years and no current gf.
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2006-09-04 15:41:01 · answer #4 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am one of them i guess. although we have not been together that long 7 years that is. but whats your work schedule? is your time together that special becuz of work or other activities in your life. the both of us we work all crazy hours so there is one weekend a month that we have together, and of course there is one week that we do not get to sleep together.
i guess if you guys can maintain an affectionate relationship and have done so for 7 years, i dont think there is anything you have to worry about really.
2006-09-04 15:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by cmeyerm2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the farther away a husband is the better. Just my opinion.
2006-09-04 15:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by diecast_heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me??? Some of us pray for a situation like that!!!!!! lol
2006-09-04 15:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If what you have now is good for you, don't change it.
2006-09-04 15:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think it would b better that way ,well for yous i dont know but me im never around my b/f ,yous will get along better like me and my b/f dont fight,but neways i dunno
2006-09-04 15:19:07 · answer #9 · answered by ~$#xyMammA~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no good
2006-09-04 15:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋