My father just passed away Saturday evening how do I deal with it?

Answer 1

grieve... its your right to- just know he has gone to a Much better place

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your loss. Dear one, take it one day at a time. Sometimes one minute at a time. Right now you're hurting, you're in shock, your grief has barely begun. You've got a long road ahead. However, on that road there will be people who will come alongside you, walk with you. They will offer a listening ear, not pat advice. They will hold you when you just want to cry and walk with you in silence when you don't want to be disturbed or alone. Find those people. They may not be who you'd think.

If it helps write. Write letters of remembrance about your father. You can even write a letter about how angry you are that he died. These are not to send, but to help you begin your process of grief. Healthy grief can take at least three years to go through. Allow yourself time. "Deal" can come later. Right now, just cry or scream or walk on the beach or whatever brings you comfort and peace...you need it.

Peace and comfort

Answer 3

Talk about it. Don't keep everything bottled up, it's not healthy. Know that its OK to cry, especially now. Be there for family members as they are trying to find a way to grieve as well. I know it's hard right now, but know that it will get better. Spend some time remembering all of the great times you've had with your Dad as well as the things that you had an opportunity to learn from him. I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 4

I'm SOO sorry to hear about you fathers passing.

Don't do like I did. After my mother died in 2001, I pretended that she was still around.

I refused to acknowledge her passing. After losing 2 years of my life to a lie, I was finally able to pick up the pieces and move on.

My mother was my best friend and one of the few people in this world I could ever trust 100% without any real judgement. It was rough having her abscent from my life.

Now that time has past, I've gone though all the grieving processes (which can take years to do) I can move on and know that I was truly loved by my mother and that she would want me to live my life to the fullest without her passing holding me back.

My father will never get past her death. He's still at phase one and will never recover ever. He lives his life day by day wishing he could die to be with her.

My mother never wanted that and if she were here now,, she'd prolly tell him to get over it,, she's happy where she's at. (I know my mom)

Your father is in a better place where he can't be harmed. He would DEFINATELY want you to carry on and allow him to live though you.

He is alive forever through you. Your thoughts and memories of him, your genetic link, and everything allows him to be alive forever.

Let him live through you as you share thoughts and memories of his life with others.

Answer 5

It just happen so it's gonna take sometime for u to deal with his death. But U also have to try to remember the good and fun things about ur father. He's now at peace now so u just have to try to be strong and be there for the rest of the family.

He is still with u when u really think about it,

He's in ur heart

Answer 6

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Dad unexpectedly 5 years ago on my mom and dad's 51st wedding anniversary. I just wanted the world to stop so I could grieve. But then you realize that life goes on. As a family we went through old pictures and made a collage for his visitation. That was good for us to reminisce. We spent every day and evening together as a family, which is so comforting. Then the next week we had to come face to face with our first holiday without him, Christmas. Somehow we made it through. My friend told me it takes 3 years to feel normal again after losing a parent. Allow yourself to grieve. It will get easier with time. Best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 7

My condolences to you and your family. Deal with it one day at a time. Kubler-Ross identified five stages of grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, grief and acceptance. You can expect to go through all of them at any given time for a long while, but it gets better. I lost my father in 1988. I still miss him. My advice is to just give yourself permission to grieve. Don't hold back. There are no medals for being "strong." I also advise you to allow the good memories to surface when they come and to not ever believe that it is too soon to laugh again.
My father was a wonderful gregarious individual that everyone who knew him just loved to be around. He was 66 when he died and it was too soon. Still, I know he wanted me to go on with my life and enjoy it. I'm sure your father was a wonderful person too who would want the same for you.
Again, my sympathy and prayers go out to you and your family in your time of sorrow.

Answer 8

While you don't mention his age, one thing is for certain, you must "celebrate" his life and not his physical death. If you are a christian then you know that our Lord and Savior one his second coming will lift him up to be with him in his glory...

Take time, while you "celebrate" his life to take yourself back to all the "good" he did not only for family but also for friends...remember that at the end we are all judge by our actions with our fellow men.

This is also an excellent chance to bring the family together and share the wonder full experiences you all had with him.

Yes, you will missed him, but remember he lives on in your heart and that is more precious than the physical love.

An i don't have to tell you the power of PRAYER....i will pray for your dad....

Answer 9

I have buried most of my family all that is left is my mom. I know what you are going through and how hard it is. Let me tell you first that you need to talk about your feelings otherwise they will just burn inside of you. It takes time to deal with something so horrible, and only time will help take some of the pain away. You will always feel the loss no matter what but you will learn to move on with your life with them in your heart. Please talk to someone, someone in your family, clergy, friend, or someone that you trust. My heart goes out to you.

Answer 10

One of two things. 1. Get off the computer and talk to real people. If you have family or friends talk to them. If not move to secondary people. People you don't know too well, but you must cross their path and they appear to be decent. Don't morn his death, celebrate his life!! Talk of good things. Cry a little and talk to God a lot.
2. The other alternative is that you are a spamer. Your dad is not dead and you just want something to draw attention to you on the computer. Either way, get off this beast and communicate with real people.

Answer 11

Im really sorry :( Im sure u were close with ur dad. Things like this arent easy to deal with. My dad has thoat cancer and they seem to think it has spread so thier isnt much time left i dont think. I havent really been close to him, but its like now i am more than i ever have. Its tuff, but u have to realize he is in a better place. No more hurting. U know when jesus comes and has a new jeruselum for every one u will get to see ur dad and every one else in ur family. It will be so great. prayers are with u!