This past weekend we had our batcholors and batcholette party and apparently, things on both ends went overboard. Each party was rather large and there was too much booze and members of the opposite sex willing to put out. I cheated on her, and I found out that she cheated on me with 2 guys...apparently at 2 at once!!! WTH. Should we call off the wedding or try to sort tings out? Go to consuling?
2006-09-04 15:09:00 · 11 answers · asked by nittanyisland2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is the exact reason why I do NOT understand the insistence people have for having these STUPID events in the first place. WTF is right!
I would strongly consider getting counseling for both of you to sort out your emotions and address future trust issues - because DAMN, I know I wouldn't be able to trust MY future partner if that had happened (either way - let alone with both of you!).
Until you get things settled one way or another, I would STRONGLY recommend postponing the ceremony. It's easier to call off an engagement than to get a divorce - no matter what people say.
2006-09-04 15:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Id say things got out of hand. Id also say your story is the reason why people dont like these kind of parties. I just recently got married, and we had our parties and our fun. But no cheating was done! At least not by me or my husband. My advice would be that is you still want to marry someone who cheated on you, and who you cheated on, then get lots of consuling first. After all, dont you think that is a sign on both of your parts that something just isnt right? Good luck and i hope things work out for you,
2006-09-05 01:31:18 · answer #2 · answered by BeckyKay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You two are not ready for any commitment! I don't know how either of you could trust the other - ever. I say you both need to grow up a bit before you bring children into this world. It's cheaper to ditch the wedding now than a divorce in a year or two.
Think of it this way, it's better that the two of you found out now and not later.
2006-09-05 02:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to each other. Maybe she didn't cheat on you. Maybe she was really drunk and didn't know what was happening. (Not that that is an excuse.) Definately have a talk with each other and go over what happened at the parties-discuss again what you too think about commitment, cheating, fidelity, etc. There must be some reason why you two are engaged-see if those reasons are still there. Good luck!
2006-09-05 12:40:55 · answer #4 · answered by newjerseygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would have a serious talk about your commitment to each other seeing that you both cheated. Find out if you are okay with it. If you are (it was a crazy night, your last opportunity, whatever), then go ahead, but if you are upset (and it sounds like you are), talk to her about why both of your conduct was unacceptable and talk with a member of the clergy or a counselor to make sure you are ready for the commitment.
Good Luck!
2006-09-04 22:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by emp04 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
It sounds like your upset that she got two guys and you only got one girl. Tell her you need to be with another girl to even the score.
2006-09-05 05:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by c_u_b_s_f_a_n_81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Work it out. Don't call the kettle black. Forgive and forget. Never bring it up again.
Remember, jelousy is stupid, annoying and petty. Get married, have a good life, and if things get out of hand again, keep an open relationship.
2006-09-04 23:19:20 · answer #7 · answered by candicescustombridal 1 · 0⤊ 4⤋
Holy ****... reassess if you still actually want to get married to each other...
don't go to counselling... you both already know whats wrong here...
2006-09-05 00:57:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
WOW..I'm getting married soon and this just decided our stag parties...they will not be stag.
2006-09-05 01:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica T 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should both find a very tall bridge and JUMP.
Duh.
2006-09-05 00:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋