I love my big sister in the whole world, and I have looked up to her and copied whatever she has done ever since I can remember. But recently, she decided to join the army. Does that mean I should also just to follow her footsteps? I admire her so much...shes the best big sister ever and I love her, but I don't know about this decision.
Serious answers only please.
2006-09-04 15:00:03 · 27 answers · asked by Karen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
XXXXXXXXXX You sister is your role model now but soon she'll be a hero to a lot of us.
2006-09-04 15:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I spent over 3 years in the Army, and I can tell you without question that it is a huge commitment -- worthy, but huge. You must follow your heart. It turned out that I didn't like the Army and I decided to do something different with my life. On the other hand, I can't overstate the benefits the Army game me -- self confidence, discipline, and patriotic pride. Please explore your options -- all the world is open to you at your age. What is right for one person may not be right for another. If you decide to join the Army, good for you! But if you don't, good for you too. What's important is to understand yourself and what you want for your own life. Things might come clearer to you once your sister is gone and you are out from under her shadow. I'm not saying her influence is bad, not by any means -- I'm just saying that you will do well to learn more about your own hopes and dreams outside her sway.
2006-09-04 15:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she decided to jump off the Brooklyn Bridge would you do that too? Your sister doesn't want you to copy everything she does and this was totally her decision on how to live her life. She has been setting you good examples but that doesn't mean she wants you to make the same choices. She wants you to make the choices that are right for you. Support her and love her and stay in contact with her. The first few months in the Army are hard and she will need all the love and support you can share.
2006-09-04 15:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you look up to your big sister and that her actions have been what you haev followed. I am sure you grew up and are growing up to be a great person. But... I dont think you have to copy everything that person does. You are still your own person. You can still follow your big sisters steps by following your own dreams. I am sure one of her goals was to go into the army. Is that your dream or goal? Do you think your sister would want you to go into something you didnt enjoy or like? I am sure you can still use her as a role model by following the way that she acts... kindness, love, being an example to others. I think that would make her proud and you would still be admiring her.
You have to make decisions to follow your own dreams though. I bet if you even talk to your sister about this she will agree and want what is best for you!!
2006-09-04 15:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you admire her it doesn't mean you have to live like her. She chosed to join the Army and it didn't have anything to do with you. You don't have to do this also just because she did it.
Of course it seems you don't like that decision she made so in no way you should do it also just because she did it.
Support her and thank her for being a good role model. Start living you life the way you learned through her but making your own life decisions. She will be proud of you for being your own person and looking to fulfill your dreams.
2006-09-04 15:03:53 · answer #5 · answered by LoveD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to follow in her footsteps and join the military if that isn't where your heart leads you. Just because you admire your sister, it doesn't mean you have to be exactly like her. Be supportive of her decision and keep loving her and you'll find your own path when the time is right.
2006-09-04 15:02:42 · answer #6 · answered by SlumberPartiesbyHelen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you have to do what makes YOU happy! Only go into the army if that's what YOU want to do. You can still follow in her footsteps as she is your role model but only make this decision if it's something you want not because she is going into the army. She can and will still be your role model even if you decide not to enlist. Your role model and who you are is not defined by actions yet your personality and grace. God Bless you and your sister.
2006-09-04 15:05:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad role models
2016-03-26 22:22:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The army provides a great career for many people, but you definitely don't have to join just because your sis did. I look up to my older sister as well and she has been in the military since I was 10 years old. She talked to me about it when I was in high school but I decided it wasn't for me. Once you figure out what you want to do with your future you can better decide if you want to enlist or not.
2006-09-04 15:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lady G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI, just because you look up to your big sister doesnt mean that you need to do everything she does to a T. Your admiration for her and looking to her as a role model helps you become the person that you are as in the qualities and morals that you stand for. Your still your own person with your own journey in life...follow your heart and love everyday.
2006-09-04 15:03:44 · answer #10 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm gonna say no. You can look up to a role model, learn from her, copy her, but in the end, you've got to live your own life. Not hers. She made her decision -- you must make your own. To simply follow her into the army would not be using her as a role model, it would simply be walking in her footsteps, being her shadow. You owe it to yourself to think for yourself, just as she has done. Find your won path.
2006-09-04 15:11:02 · answer #11 · answered by CHos3n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋