2006-09-04 14:27:46 · 12 answers · asked by kristin n 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
Legally the back support would go to the custodial parent, to use however he or she chooses (unless he or she was on welfare, in which case welfare might take all or some of it).
You have to remember the custodial parent used his or her money solely to raise the child(ren) without the help of the non-custodial parent.
In my case, I have 4 kids, one of them has a different father. He owes me $15,000 in back support. There is a judgment against him filed in the County Clerk's Office. My daughter has everything she needs and I let her see her father whenever she wants. He's a good dad, he just doesn't work. If he ever wins the lottery or a lawsuit, I'll get that money. Will I give it to my daughter? Hell no!!! It will be mine!! I spend alot more on my daughter than the $65 a week he's supposed to be paying me.
2006-09-04 14:42:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this strait, the kids are now over 18, there is still past due child support owed, you obviously supported the kids when other parent did not and you want to know if you receive the past due support if you must spend it on the children that are now over 18 that you supported all these years?
Am I right?
If yes, HELL NO you don't have to spend the money on them. You already spent all those years spending money on them while NOT receiving child support, it is now owed to YOU.
2006-09-04 22:03:58 · answer #2 · answered by creeklops 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought I had a great answer but after reading Judy_r8, Bill and Lisa's answers there is nothing left to say! I feel the same as they do!
You have already raised the children. Fed, clothed and provided for their needs. A struggle no doubt! The money should be of comfort for YOU. Take a little vacation, get your hair done or something special, you deserve it!
I will add that this financial information is personal and does not have to be disclosed to anyone, including the "kids". It is entirely your decision what to do with the money.
2006-09-04 22:22:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the custodial parent has spent money supporting the kids and you are a couple of years behind on support then I would see no problem in the custodial parent keeping the money. However, this is a question best left to the experts. You need to contact your local social services agency and put this question in their expert hands...
2006-09-04 21:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a Custodial Parent, whose Ex is a DEADBEAT Dad (and never paid one penny towards his COURT ORDERED share of Medical Co-Payments/Deductibles and Shared Costs, and also is past due on Basic Child Support as well as Child Care Fees) -- I can say for sure ....
ALL These years, I, out of MY pay, provided everything for my children (who have disabilities) -- struggling to make ends meet, pay the medical bills, and pay for everything they needed and their activities. The Ex deliberately went out of his way to make sure he DID NOT pay towards their care -- and YES, I filed with the State for Child Support Enforcement, and there is a BIG past due balance.
This balance IS carrying over past my children's 18th Birthday (and yes, this is the current situation) -- and it will continue to be active until the EX has paid the entire balance due -- which is ONLY Fair -- since he AVOIDED paying, went on Unemployment, changed addresses, quit working, etc etc etc -- all the time while I PAID EVERYTHING.
So yes, it should be both -- for the sacrifices that the RESPONSIBLE Parent had to TAKE ON FULLY because the DEADBEAT did not want to provide ANYTHING -- and after the bills and loans that the RESPONSIBLE Parent had to take out while the children were growing up.
2006-09-05 00:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have raised my three children without child support even though the mother was ordered to do so. I finally started getting arrearge in the amount of $18340.00 at 92.00 twice a monty. I supported them until they wwere grown and on there own, and I believe I am entitled to it to pay me back for all the years the mother did not pay.
I am currently going after $8500.00 of back medical payments the mother never paid even though ordered to do. She went on Welfair to avoid paying anything. A Dead Beat Parent I'd say.
2006-09-04 21:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by Bill 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, since you already spent that amount on the kids out of your pocket. past due simply is paying you back for what you have already spent. Besides, you never actually had to spend the money on the kidsin the first place, just things like rent/mortgage, heat and other necessities.
2006-09-04 21:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would think that no matter how old the child is the money should be used to support them. Else it would be called parent support.
2006-09-04 21:34:46 · answer #8 · answered by aurelie_moineau 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
morally they would be obliged to you would think, however if you found yourself in a postion when the childre were younger that you had to put yourself out in order to bring them up decently then perhaps if they are in a financially stable point in their lives you should give yourself a little treat for all the hard work you have done bringing your children up!
2006-09-04 21:31:20 · answer #9 · answered by Grant O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the money is for the children intended for{regardless of whether they are over eighteen} then the money should be given or used for them period......
2006-09-04 21:32:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋