i go to school by day and take care of my kids by night. My husband helps me with the kds in the evenings but sometimes i feel so dang overwhelmed..How can i efficiently go to school full time plus help take care of 3 kids under the age of 5 in the evenings and weekends without losing my head
2006-09-04 14:19:43 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
That's a very difficult thing to do and I commend you for trying and pursuing your education. Perhaps you could have a discussion with your husband about how overwhelmed you feel and the two of you could work something out. It is important that during the week when you have class your husband is there to support you and give you time to study and relax. On the weekends, or perhaps one day per week you could get a sitter and spend time alone with your husband to keep your marriage strong. And then, maybe once a week or every two weeks have a night or a day with the family. I did a similar thing when I went to graduate school to get my master's and when I look back on it I have no idea how I managed. You just have to stay focused and count the day until it is over. Good luck!
2006-09-04 14:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Redshift Agenda 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to find a way to get a little time to yourself and for yourself from time to time. Even an hour or so can work wonders. Can you and your husband find a way to make this happen? Possibly Saturday morning to go to the gym or get your hair done or go to the mall or to the library - whatever works for you.
Also establish priorities. Decide what absolutely must be done, and leave the rest. We sometimes spend a lot of time doing housework that can definitely wait. Even though your kids are little, there are probably a few things they can do to help - bringing laundry to the washer, putting cutlery away, dusting, etc. And it will make them feel important and that they are contributing. The most important thing right now is that your kids are fed and clean and loved, and that you get your school work done - the rest can wait.
Keep in mind that while you are going through this it may seem as if it will never end, but it will. Before you know it your children will be older and much less dependent on you. I know this doesn't help much now, but it might help you keep perspective on it. Before you know it they will all be in school and you will be finished school, and you will look back on this time with probably some fondness. Even though you are so busy and so tired right now, it will be ok.
Take care.
2006-09-04 21:32:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am absolutely amazed that you can fit it all into your schedule with 3- under 5 year olds...You are an amazing women. I had a hard time with 2 young kids and a part time job. Don't try to put too much on yourself--you and your family will suffer. An exhausted mom doesn't help anyone! Maybe put school on hold until after the littlest is in preschool.
2006-09-04 21:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by Kathi B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband he will be doing more to take care of the kids because you will be studying 3 nights per week at the school library until 11 PM.
2006-09-04 21:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to be very organized. Thank your lucky stars for that husband of yours. I only had 2 kids when I did this and it was tough without any help from hubby. Who watches your kids when you go to school? Is it possible for them to watch them a little longer so you can get your school work done. Just look at the big picture to make it to the end. It is not easy but you can do it
2006-09-04 21:26:22 · answer #5 · answered by blondie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can suggest is getting a nanny...or either ur husband could work during the day while ur at school so that u cud watch the kids at night
2006-09-04 21:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by ImOuThEreUdigg!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any extra money to hire a sitter/nanny to help a few days a week...or maybe a relative that could lend a hand?
2006-09-04 21:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Moxie Crimefighter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check if your school has a day care program. most colleges have those so you can enroll your children in them while you go to your classes. this way, you'll be right next door to your kids!!!
2006-09-04 21:21:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Childcare centre.
2006-09-04 21:26:03 · answer #9 · answered by Janice Tee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what most moms do nowadays and leave them in a car
2006-09-04 21:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by electro- hamburger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋