2006-09-04 14:12:12 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he knows that you can not give him a child and he is okay with that then of course. Just because you can not bear children does not mean that you don't deserve the same love and happiness as someone else. The reason there are certain technologies out there are for people exactly like you. You could try in vitro, surrogate motherhood, I obviously don't know the exact details of your case but how do you know you can't give him a child? The doctors might say one thing and there are always ways around it if you are both committed to doing the hard work. Also, there are tons of children out there that are looking to be adopted and the greatest gift you could give to a child is taking them into your home and loving them. Look at Angelina Jolie. She decided to adopt two children and she was obviously able to bear children. She has even said that she feels guilt for bringing a new child into the world because that means there is one child already out there that she could have taken care of. If he is fine with it then go with it but he better know before you marry him because that would just be deceiving. I know it probably hurts not being able to have our own offspring but you really have to opportunity to do something amazing that a lot more people out there should be doing. I love your strength and it is obvious that you love the man if you are worried about not letting him bear his own children. And he will love you for that worry and concern and want to raise a child with you even if it is not your own.
2006-09-04 14:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by caroline 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I married my husband and i can not give him kids. He knew this when we got married and it did bother him at first and i felt that maybe we should not get married, but he said that he loved me and it did not matter if we had kids or not, he just wanted to be with me and we have been together for 6 years and it has been kind of bumpy only because sometimes our friends come over with their kids and he could be a great dad and i feel guilty but he always reassures me that we made the right decision. so yes i married the man of my dreams knowing that i could not give him a child.
2006-09-04 14:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you told him you could not have children? If you did , what did he say? this is a tough question and it is something you will have to decide for yourself because no one else will be the one getting married. i married my second husband knowing there was a chance i would be unable to give him a child because I was older than him but we have been together 13 years and are happily married. I have 3 children and he has 1.
2006-09-04 14:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by mama bear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let him know that you can't give him a child, but open to adoption (if you are of course) if he really wants to start a family. If he still isn't interested despite your issue, and the fact that you're willing to adopt. Then I guess that's the way the cookie crumbles.
2006-09-04 14:14:20 · answer #4 · answered by winds_of_justice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should mention that to him before you get married. Adoption is always an option and if he loves you he will work around this to be with you.
2006-09-04 14:14:20 · answer #5 · answered by Michael S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you cant have a kid but you would love to adopt i child for your own and if he says he will not marry you then just forget about him beacuse hes juse a jerk off !!! and i dont think you would like living the rest of your life with him if he says no!!
2006-09-04 14:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you can still marry him, there are always other options, such as adoption, there are so many children out there that need a happy home to go to, maybe you can bring one of those kids into your home
2006-09-04 14:25:21 · answer #7 · answered by princess_kimnus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if your love is true and lasting. It may depend on why you cannot give him a child. Are you afraid to have a child?
2006-09-04 14:17:34 · answer #8 · answered by devotionalservice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not marry a man, but there are alternatives, like adoption.
2006-09-04 14:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by ajcksu82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would if he dont care that i cant give him a child which if he loves you then he shouldnt care, but you guys cant adopt or have someone else carry your child, but just talk to him about it to see what he feels and thinks about it but i am sure if he loves you he wouldnt mind at all. good luck.
2006-09-04 14:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋